My husband is interacting with other women?

[Anonymous]

I have been married for 12 years. My husband doesn't look at other women when we go out, but he looks at p*rn. I know that men look at p*rn and other women but is it OK when my husband is interacting with them? I recently was made aware that my husband is meeting other women and interacting with phone calls, text's with pictures of naked women. I confronted him about it...He stated that it's not a big deal and it's get for play, but he also admitted that he just likes to look at other women. In addition he also admitted that this has been going on for the 12 years we have been together. We have been very happy with an active sex life but I just recent noticed that things haven't been good with lots of miscommunication. When I found out, I fault disrespected and that the trust was broken. I asked him to leave because I need time to think. After 1 week we decided to meet up and talk. He begged and said that he never meant to hurt me or our family. That his intention was not to ever leave his family in no way. He also suggested that we do marriage counseling to work through our problems. I want to try and make it work, but I feel that if after 12 years this has been going on...do I real know my husband or has the life we lived been a lie. Unsure where to go from hear or will time tell.

[authentic]

"When I found out, I fault disrespected and that the trust was broken. I asked him to leave because I need time to think. "

You did the right thing. It is time to part when trust isn't there, for any relationship. Sleeping with your enemy isn't fun.

Nonetheless, he hasn't technically been cheating on you (having an affair) although the signs are there. He was bored, probably. He doesn't sound like a bad guy though, assuming he hasn't cheated on you without your knowing about it. These days, typically it only takes 3 years to get to the boring stage with marriage, another 3-4 years of struggling if both parties are decent people, and split up at 7th. So, marriage counselling is a good idea. BUT, don't let him back UNTIL the issue has been resolved. Trust your gut feelings.

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[jimi_s]

I didn't bother to read the last half of your question. Sorry! Too Long for my MTV style attention span but...Do you know the word :" deuce' is? what about :"bag"? Well the two words I mentioned above, if you put them together, is what I would describe your husband...

[Threeatatime]

WOW PEOPLE? I CANNOT BABBY SIT ALL OF YOU.! DONT RIGHT US A NOVELLE IF YOU WANT AN ANSWER! Reopen this topic again, but instead, ask the question like this:

I have been married for 12 years. My husband doesn't look at other women when we go out, but he looks at p*rn. I want to try and make it work, but I feel that if after 12 years this has been going on...do I real know my husband or has the life we lived been a lie. Unsure where to go from hear or will time tell.

The true answer is in YOUR OWN WORDS. But the entire middle was you dumping your heart break on internet strangers. DON'T SPEW BS! Ask real short meaningful questions!

[XIIISins6]

it's normal for a guy to look at p*rn, but when he starts to act on it ( as in those calls and such) its a problem. the problem could be as simple as lost bedroom spark (wigs and fantasy may help).Marriage counseling may help, after all, you already invested 12 years, so a few hours couldn't hurt.

sorry if I didn't help...