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If my husband says he's no longer jerking off, is he really being honest?

my husband and I got into this huge mess about him jerking off and not wanting sex and how it was affecting our relationship, and our sex lives. He tells me I'm perfect, and all he needs is me, then would lie behind my back and jerk off, but he finally confronted me and told me the truth, I personally don't care he did, it just hurt to be lied to right into the eyes of my husband. he told me that he was done jerking off as of that day, and has told me he has not sense then. I trust him. but I told him its fine if he needs to. and told him sorry for being so stressed over nothing. just him going behind my back, made me feel worthless. and not good enough. I've never dealt with this before ever, so I really didn't know how to act or respond. no one has ever told me it was natural... so I took it rough... but when he says he's fully done is he actually being serious? and if he tells me now all he needs is me, then why would he do it in the first place. ? also, when he says he only jerks off too me, is he actually being honest or will he jerk off to p*rn or a hot chick... please Help
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Most Helpful Guys

  • The question is not if he's honest, the question is whether you have any right at all to demand that.

    The answer is a loud and clear 'NO!'

    Well, it's his body, an if he wants to touch it/play with it in any way, as long as there's no other person involved, you don't have any right to emit such an interdiction. Just as he has no right at all to tell you not to touch yourself.

    If -for peaces' sake- he said to you he would abstain, he has every right to touch himself, to masturbate, notwithstanding your interdiction: it's HIS body. If you made him lie to have peace at home, that's your problem, not his.

    It has NOTHING in common with cheating or infidelity.

    You can be sure all married men and women masturbate (only hormonal undersexed people might make an exception to that)

  • If he doesn't want sex from you it has nothing to do with him jacking off and everything to do with him losing interest in you. You need to go to counseling or break it off in my opinion.

    • Thats how it was. no sex... made excuses to not have sex =[

    • I think he has some issues he needs to work out which is why I mentioned counseling. There could be any number of reasons why he isn't craving sex with you and I doubt anybody here is qualified to figure it out, especially without being able to talk to him. Good luck : )

Most Helpful Girls

  • my boyfriend does it too..i don't mind him doing it as long as I don't find out...

    actually seeing pictures or p*rn just hurts knowing that I look nothing like it and he must be judging me

    i really don't think he would stop..its a thing theyve been doing since what? 10? :( if he jerks off to you..i think it would get boring at a point unless you send him dirty pictures and stuff

    guess you just gotta accept it :(

  • He's not going to stop doing it.

    Guys masturbate. Fact of life #173.

    It's nothing to worry about, though. The majority of men in relationships still masturbate, even if they are fully satisfied with their partner. It doesn't seem like it's to the point where it's gotten out of hand.

    He shouldn't lie to you about it, though. It's no big deal. Just ask him about it.

    • Error! Fact of life #4 ! Breathing, drinking & eating come before that. ;)

    • MY B!

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  • No if a man jerks off on a regular bases. Then that means he's not going 2 stop overnight. He probably told u what u want 2 hear. By telling u he is going 2 stop. He figures that would stop the arguing about it. Reason say he's not going 2 stop. What man is going 2 stop doing what gives him pleasure. Now he may slowdown and not do as much. But stopping no way. Use common sense. Good luck

  • I think it may be hard to stop if it is something he does alot. He might have every intention of stopping, but it might creep up on him. Then, would you be upset? Does he not seem interested in sex because he's doing that too much? THAT would appear to be a problem. Just talk to him. It isn't like he's cheating on you...and trust that he never will cheat.

    Do you play with yourself? Does he know when you do?

  • guys always have a special relationship with their member

  • No guys like to jerk off a man usually has a high sex drive and most women don’t want sex that much so the guy jacks off to keep from going crazy being horny all the time he’ll I do it and I’m married

  • Guys jerk off... probably nothing to do with you. Ask him if you can watch. I ask my girlfriend to watch she loves to watch me cum

  • All guys do it.

  • Not true he jerking off to something else... can I ask what ur booty look like

  • No never

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