Why is my girlfriend rubbing my arms and touching my legs all of a sudden?

[Anonymous]

So me and my girlfriend are talking a lot etc, getting close and learning more about each other. Its been 3 months now. What I m curious about is that from our last 2 meetings, she was rubbing and touching my knees and legs and I was getting turned on. Her kissing was more aggressive than usual, she was making out harder and longer and doesn't want to stop. While we're making out she hugs me tighter and then she rubs my arms etc even and she smiles a lot after we make out. I kissing her neck I wasn't too sure then I gave her two hickeys and I think she liked it. It was her first hickey she received. After that we were hugging tight etc and I decided to touch and squeeze her butt for the first time. She laughed and smiled? She calls me Handsome and I m her first Boyfriend too by the way . What does this mean? Is she sexually attracted to me as well? I m not too sure about this ? GIRLS I NEED YOUR OPINIONS. PLEASE! :D THANK YOU

[authentic]

"I mean does she want want a relationship or is this about lust?" (from your conversations 19876p)

Good question. The fact that you are wise enough to ask this question separates you from the average guy on the streets. Deep inside you already know the answer. But here is your confirmation if you need it.

"She calls me Handsome and I m her first Boyfriend too by the way"

This is your answer. She finds your looks attractive. When a guy choose a prostitute and pays her money for sex, what is the decisive factor? Only one, her physical attractiveness. And what is that? Lust, what else?

Did this girl admire the talents you have, your integrity, your worldviews/visions, your inner strengths? Are they important to her? Doesn't seem to be so. That tells you how mature she is. Granted, she is only 15. I have seen girls of her age a lot more mature that her. If she is into your looks only, no offense, but what difference is there between you and a giggolo? Fortunately, all these can be "taught". But if she is so into sex, having such a strong libido, both you and I know that it probably would be a tough "teaching job". But you also need to think of the consequences of having sex with her. Pretty smart of you to ask around first. Trust your gut feelings, deep inside, you already sensed the answer.

Both you and I know that long term relationships are not built on lust alone. Think about this, where do you two spend your time mostly, inside the bedroom or outside? The ability to be friends, i.e. compatible in other areas OTHER than physical attractions, prevents couples from tearing each apart when they put their clothes back on and walk out the bedroom.

[Asker]

Well I guess I've never seen in your point of view. I asked her what she liked about me.In her point of view that I m her dream guy like I m kind, strong, caring, funny, sweet, confident? We do have a lot of thing in common. And I agree I want a long term relationship too and she had the same view as me. and we know that lust isn't enough, your going to need time trust, honesty soemthing that takes a lot of time. And yes I have thought of the risk that's why I kept my distance from sexual ways

[authentic]

Her aggressive attitude regarding sex and your gentle ways signals underlying personality differences. This is a major red flag in terms of long term relationship. This is a good experience for you to learn from, to realiaze exactly what kind of girl you want, though. Remember, birds of a feather flock together in the long run, so do human beings. Don't fall into the "opposite attracts" kind of relationships, which given time only means pain and sufferings for both parties.

[aidsleen]

she wants you to make a move on her

i would do it or she won't be too happy about it/ think there's something wrong with her.

especially if you're her first.

you could just ASK HER if she wants to escalate things...

[toulouse]

ASK HER! You just said she was talking about wanting to get closet. Einstein, that means she wants to communicate. Touching is a form of communication - not just saying lets f***. Its a language all on its own. So I suggest you communicate by touching back or TALKING back. Talk to her about your thoughts concerns confusion etc - She's your girl friend.

[Asker]

Well I m not the smartest guy, this is my first relationship too so I m knew to all this.

[Asker]

New * but yeah, I never even knew that touching was a form of communication, how was I suppose to know that. And yea I ll try to talk to her about it aye

[toulouse]

Lol for real? wel it absolutely is. look at babies. they can't talk there worlfdis all about touch. animals etc but yea you might find it interesting. you should read up on it. you are communicating when you touch whether you know it or not :) hey I didn't mean to sound rude . I answered when I just got done reading this really obnoxious 'supposed' account of humans & I was overall irritated with b.s. I didn't mean to be impatient :) omg I just re read your post- my bad sorry lol -- I thought it

[toulouse]

That she talked to you about talking touching and getting closer - sorry lol "So me and my girlfriend are talking a lot etc, getting close and learning more about each other." Misread that ..

[toulouse]

So ya in this case absolutely feel free to touch her more. Umm its good to respond to her touches. like if she touches you somewhere its safe for you to touch her there without making her uncomfortable & if you are in doubt- ask :) you can do this but going slow around the area you are unsure giving her time to move your hand if she wishes. or looking in her eyes before you touch somewhere you are not sure about as if to say is this ok-& of course you can say is this OK :). You guys can also talk about boundaries:)

[brunette1cookie]

Well, it meas she wants the relationship to progress physically. If you don't want to, stop kissing her before it gets aggressive, and hold her hands while kissing her. If the conversation is appropriate, say you plan on waiting for sex.

[19876p]

She is most defiantly sexually attracted to you. She is trying to turn you on and is probably thinking if you feel the same way about her.

[Asker]

Um cool thank you, well she's my first relationship too. Fact is I m 17 and she's 15. I don't wanan rush things, I just wanna get to know her etc before rushing things? But if you say so? Um how should I respond to this If it were to happen again in the near future? She's even telling me she wants to give me a hicky and I should prepare myself etc?

[19876p]

Good for you for taking things slow. That is the right thing to do. Sticking with kissing and stuff and getting to know each other better is the thing to do. Not much you can do while she is rubbing your leg unless if it makes you feel uncomfortable I would tell her how you feel about moving slow. Hickey's aren't bad and you can't really prepare for it lol.

[Asker]

So just stick to the regular gampe plan of just spending time with her etc, and not going a little too far? Oh so best thing do is if she continues is just talk to her? Sweet. XD Haha well that's true I think my girl is just showing her aggresvie side? But will this side of her stay for long or no? I mean does she want want a relationship or is this about lust? Because she's even talked about being open to her parents about relationship when the time is right?

[19876p]

Yes unfortunately her behavior will probably continue until you tell her you would like to slow it down. She might think that's what you want. Tell her how you really care about her and don't want to rush things. You have to talk to her about what you want out of a relationship and ask her if she is looking for the same. Communication is key in relationships!!!

[Asker]

So tell her that she should cool off? and that its not what I want at the moment? Well I do tell her how much she means to me etc? Well that's true we had problems in the start of our relationship because we weren't communicating our feelings but now its just been heaven. Um will my girl respect me if I told her to slow things down etc Like will she like me and respect me even more? Most guys wouldn't pass any opportunity like this and just go straight for it but I'm not like every otehr guy :/

[19876p]

That is really good. Well yes I think she would respect you if you told her but don't just straight out say you don't want to have sex with her or she will feel unattractive. Tell her how you feel about her, tell her how beautiful she is, and how much she means to you. Tell her your viewpoints on sex and the idea of waiting. If she really cares about you waiting won't matter. She might even think that you are really sweet for not wanting to push her to have sex.

[Asker]

Alright, well can I say it like this " Um hun I like that your showing your physical attraction for me but its not what I want at the moment. I care about you too much but I believe we're going to rush and ruin everything we've just created, maybe its best we should slow things down and just enjoy each other company and learn more about each other? we'll talk about it later on when we believe we're both ready to go take the next step?"

[19876p]

That sounds perfect!!! Spill your guts she will respect you for it. Best of luck

[Asker]

Alright thank you so much 19876p :D I kindly appreciate your help, and yes I do hope I can tackle this problem :D

[selfishstars]

Um... yes, she is sexually attracted to you. lol.

[Asker]

Haha I don't usually see myself as an attractive bloke XD well if the ladies says so. Thanks for your opinion :D much appreciated

[JohnGPL]

Dude, she wants your bone. Wrap it up and give it to her already.

[ihatework]

For real-it's not rocket science

[JohnGPL]

It's pocket rocket science!

[lilyogi6]

SHE WANTS YOUR COCK!

[lilyogi6]

Stop playing pocket pool and get in there and do her!

[trustme]

dude, I'm sorry but if you don't want to have sex with a girl after three months and are creeped out, you have to consider, maybe your gay.

[Mesonfielde]

It's not on YOUR mind, but it certainly is on HERS. xD

[oneandonlygirl]

sex her up brah

[buggebaby]

obviously she likes you, if she didn't what the heck would she be doing to guys she did like? Why would ask that she is attracted to you when she calls you handsome and stuff. I'm mean duhhh!

[Asker]

Yeah I get that part now, I m a guy I can be a bit dense to plus she's my first relationship and I can't read her mind. But that's just me at times. But hmm how would you handle this situation?

[buggebaby]

Aha aww yeah I'm in my first relationship too and my guy sounds just like you. He is really shy. Just kinda go with what feels natural. And of course she likes you and if she truly does she'll respect any decision you make(:

[Daichia]

I think you should be more aggressive. Then again, make sure she knows your limit. I think you should talk about how far is "too far". This would probably make you more comfortable and know what is happening.

[Lealee84]

Sounds like someones horny! if she is ready then why not go for it. talk to her x

[Anonymous]

She definitely likes you! When I'm in the modd for getting more physical, rubbing his arms, and grabbing on his muscles and being more agressive when making out, are all ways that I use to hint to him(:

[Anonymous]

Like me and my boyfriend. I want some but he wants "to respect and care about me". It has been 3 YEARS. She Liiiiiiikes you!

[Anonymous]

She wasn't to make you a man. lol. She want you.

[Opinion Owner]

Wants***

[Anonymous]

She. Wants. You.

DUH.

Good luck.