I love foreplay but my wife doesn't
My wife and I have been together for almost nine years, married for 2, no kids, no stress at work. We are both almost 30 now. In college, when we... Show More
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I'm similar to your wife in that I like "efficient sex." I prefer quickies rather than 60 minute + marathons. I think it's because I have other, more productive, things to do. I own my own business so every moment I spend away from work, I lose money. At any rate, I know what it's like to want to get straight to the point. Afterwards, I feel exhausted in a wonderful way and, more importantly, I feel like I've satisfied my boyfriend so I feel like a "good" girlfriend, like I've done my job. However, I'm usually only willing to invest about 20-30 minutes into it otherwise I get annoyed. Again, because I have other things to do.I've always been this way and it has nothing to do with who I'm sleeping with.One reason that may play into it that could actually be "fixed" (where the "I have work to do" attitude can't really be fixed) is that as I get more settled into the relationship, I don't feel as sexy as I used to. Sometimes I'll try to dress up and present myself the best way possible, but he barely seems to notice what I look like, he just wants to touch. So, I don't feel pretty or sexy. So, the only advice I really have is that if you are not giving her verbal or emotional "foreplay" such as complimenting her, holding her close (clothes on) for a slow dance or some other means to make her feel sexy before the clothes come off, you could try that. She may just be super busy and not feel as attractive as she used to. So she's in a hurry to get it over with. I hope that helps!!!
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Tease her when ypu give her oral, and tell her she has to do you until you're satisified and then you'll take your turn.
Dude you're lucky to have gotten that far... I've been with my girl a little over 2 years and basically everything we did stopped shortly after I asked her to marry me a year in. I'm torn now between my love for her and the fact that she (bragged like crazy how good her BJ was) has only given me a few fairly unsatisfying BJs, foreplay went from about 20 minutes to "let me get the lube", my trying to pleasure her turned into "I'm going to get ready for bed" (finds her vibrator), and if I'm lucky, we might have sex once a week.I have no idea what I can do to get her in a better mood. She says she wants romance and candlelit dinners, massages, and not asking her about it every other day. I try any one of those and she accuses me of pressuring her.