When you give a handjob , are you still considered a virgin?

[Anonymous]

Everyone keeps telling me that if you give a handjob, your not considered a virgin. I don't know if that is true, or what? Any answers?

[ladylicker501]

Virgin, of course, can pertain to many things; however, when it comes to sexual encounters, "virgin" usually pertains to sexual intercourse. Once he/she has sex and has penetration, then the virginity is lost. Oral sex, hand jobs etc (for some, I included, like having anal sex with my partner - giver that is- lol) will not break the virginity. Hope this helps..

[jacquesvol]

Any penis penetration counts: oral, anal or vaginal.

[Elis678]

@jacquesvol Sex counts, not penis penetration. Oral sex on a women is sex.

[jacquesvol]

@Elis678 Then raped virgins are still virgins... in your opinion. In my opinion they're NOT damaged goods, they're victims.

[Elis678]

@jacquesvol What this has to do with what I said?

[jacquesvol]

@Elis678 Rape isn't sex, it's abuse through penetration.

[Elis678]

@jacquesvol I have never said otherwise. I don't get why you're talking about rape. I say that penis penetration isn't the only thing who counts, this way of thinking is pure retarded misogyny. Oral sex performed on a clitoris counts, and a women who has done it is a person who had sex.

[masonhenry]

@jacquesvol rape is not sex. sex is only consensual

[Cartiphilus]

Who ever is telling you that is wrong. No, it is not true that giving a hand job means you're no longer a virgin. If an erected penis has never entered your vagina, for even a second, you are STILL a virgin no matter how hand jobs you've performed.

[peace-love-couture]

I wouldn't.

I'm not religious,but I do think virginity is based on sexual purity,so any sexual intercourse,would make someone not a virgin.That's my opinion.I just think too many people nowadays try to change the meaning of virgin to ease their guilt

[SuperOzgur]

Agreed, it's more the act of sex then the type of sex itself.

[existing_not_living]

Lol, yes. Of course you are. In the dictionary, at least, being a virgin is when you don't engage in sexual intercourse. This means that a penis has yet to enter your vagina. If you haven't had that happen, then you are still a virgin.

[rebekahj391]

If you've been penetrated by a dick, congratulations. You've lost your vcard.

You can give a hand job and still be a virgin. Obviously, it's still a sexual act but it has little to do with virginity.

[Elis678]

Virginity is about not having had sexual experience, it is a social constuct, not something scientific, not something you lose. Manual and oral are true sexual activity, and if you have done it, you've nothing to lose more than the ones who made penis in vagina sex for 1 minute.

[rebekahj391]

@Elis678 I agree that it's a social construct, but in the traditional sense of the word virginity = vaginal sex

[Elis678]

But since is a social constuct, pretty much a sexist social constuct invented by men to control women sexuality, and not a fact, it can be subjective, it isn't an objective thing like you make it looks. And since there different type of sexual orientations and types of sex, virginity can be different things.

[rebekahj391]

@Elis678 It's still defined as "one who hasn't had intercourse" regardless of any social implications

[Elis678]

Every dictionary has its own definition, depends if the person who wrote it wanted to be neutral, or was a sexist.
Virgin "someone who has never had ​sex"
dictionary.cambridge.org/.../virgin

And sex is sexual activity. Even sexual intercourse means literally sex acts between people as "inter" is between. Anyway, whatever people who write dictionary define it, virginity remains a social constuct, not a real thing, and since there is no only one type of sex or sexuality, it's subjective. A person who have never had penis in vagina but has done others type of sex, they may be virgin to one type of act, but not to sex.

[rebekahj391]

@Elis678 I do agree it's subjective but the most widely used and accepted use for the term is one who hasn't had intercourse. I think your view is pretty liberal and I don't see how it's overly sexist since it applies to males too.

[Elis678]

First of all, I said the literal meaning of intercourse is sex act between people and can be many acts, it isn't just penis in vagina or penetration, even if many people act like it was. The fact that many people believe in something, doesn't make it true. True is just something based on fact, and virginity isn't a true thing, so it is retarded to say you have to do a specific sex act to lose something nonexistent. Virginity has historically only been about hymen and women, and was pretty much used as a way to shame women for their sexuality, and is also sexist because it just consider hetero couples only, or the penis only, if it is defined as penetration whatever the hole.

[rebekahj391]

@Elis678 saying virginity isn't real is your (very liberal) opinion. Anyway, I don't feel like arguing. Agree to disagree

[Elis678]

At first, you agree with me about the fact virginity is a social constuct. So, why are you now saying it is my liberal opinion (and using liberal as it were a bad word)? Do you have a scientific proof of the psychical existence of virginity that I'm not aware of? If not, it isn't my opinion that virginity doesn't exist and is subjective, it's a fact.

[rebekahj391]

@Elis678 I wasn't implying liberal as a bad word. Everyone is entitled to their opinion And what physical proof are you talking about? That doesn't even make sense

[Elis678]

You said that is my opinion that virginity doesn't exist. Something exist if there is a proof ot its existence, like flying unicors don't exist because there is no proof of their existence. Unless, you have a scientific proof that it exist psychally, it doesn't exist, and it isn't my opinion nor a political thing.

[rebekahj391]

@Elis678 can't prove God exists either. Doesn't mean He is or isn't real. Anyway, not arguing

[Elis678]

In fact God isn't real, it's just human imagination. The fact many people believe in it or in virgin or in unicorns, don't make all these things true. It's scientific proof that make things true, not what people believe. Virginity exist as word for not having sexual experience (and there are various types of sex), nothing more. It isn't scientific, and it isn't something that you lose, since isn't psychical.

[DeadShot619]

@Elis678 I say everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Virginity definitely does exist even if it is only something in people's minds. But it is a very real thing. And what act exactly takes away someone's virginity is up to every person to decide for themselves. That's what I boil it down to, each to their own

[Elis678]

@DeadShot619 Virginity isn't real, just because many people believe in it, it doesn't change the fact that you don't really lose nothing, and there is no any psychical change, because virginity is just a word, don't a real thing, It is a word for not having had sex, but the point is sex isn't just one type, so saying you must to have a specific type of sexual act among others not to be virgin, where no act make you lose something, is retarded, and it is very sexist, if the sex act many people have in mind just represent one sexuality.

[DeadShot619]

@Elis678 "it is a word for not having had sex" ur words. It may not be a physical thing bit virginity still exists. And which act it may be that makes one lose it is up to each person to decide for them self

[Longshot]

Most would consider you a virgin.

[Deathecutioner]

Giving a handjob to a guy does not mean you are not a virgin. The only way to lose your virginity is to have vaginal intercourse.. So enless you have haf a penis enter your vagina your still a virgin.as pure a freshly fallen snow.

[WhatTheHellAmy]

HAHAHAHAHA I would be a prostitute for the people you know then XD

I'm a virgin and I've put my mouth in a cock.

[Itsme2300]

Virginiy is only a concept that is based on perspective. Most consider only penis-vagina penetration to make you 'no longer a virgin'. So you are still a virgin in most people's eyes at least.

[wankiam]

unless you give a handjob with your pussy im quite sure you are still a virgin

[Oddjob]

Everything above the elbow is still a virgin.

[Your hand is now officially a slut, though. ; ) ]

[jacquesvol]

It's sex but it isn't penetrative thus I wouldn't be difficult about that.

[dudeman]

yes your a virgin if you do anal oral or vag that's when your not a virgin a penis has to be in your body for it to count as intercourse

[beccaboo2]

If the sexual act, in and of itself, cannot get you (or another person) pregnant then you are still a virgin.

[ConsultantIsBack]

The consensus definition is virginity is lost with PinV so no.

[CaliSoccerFella]

Virginity refers to vaginal intercourse...

though some people have their own perceptions

[Polocrew]

Tebow give handjobs too, he's a virgin

[ConsultantIsBack]

Bahaha

[TheOldMan59]

Yeah, that is just "assisted masturbation". You're still a virgin.

[butts69]

Lesbians don't have penises but they still have sex

[Anonymous]

i would consider you a non-virgin :L as soon as you let it enter you, your mouth, vag, ass, and yes your hand. as soon as it enters you youd be a non virgin

[Anonymous]

Of course you are. Little different from a back scratch except for a better result.

Virginity ends with penetrative intercourse..