Girls..should guys apologize for a boob touch?

[Anonymous]

Like if it happens accidentally. For example, one time I was helping a woman who had her hands full with this big 24 pack of Coke. I reached to grab it (btw...she had a fairly large chest..so it wasn't like it would take a precise move to make contact) and my hand that went to secure the top of the case...my middle 3 fingers kinda made contact with her chest. Now, she didn't say anything, or give me a dirty look or anything like that...she didn't seem to recognize it at all. However, I was wondering if I should have said "sorry". But I worried that'd she would be like "for what?"...then I would be in the awkward position of bringing it up when she might not have even noticed. Just wondering, what do you think is the best thing to do? Would you want an apology?

[KERMlT]

You could have said "for bumping into you" when she would ask for what. If you don't make a big deal out of it because it was an accident, she probably won't either. It's like the crying baby theory. Sometimes a baby will hurt itself and look to see a reaction. If the parents look shocked, the baby may cry. If the parents remain calm, the baby may only cry if it actually is hurt.

Just to let you know, an apology was originally explaining one's position.

[Asker]

Interesting, I'm guessing that's why its called "christian Apologetics" etc.

[selfishstars]

If I bump into someone, regardless of where I bump them, I apologize. To me, it's like saying, "I recognize that I got into your personal space without your permission and it was an accident, no hard feelings". If I say I'm sorry and the person didn't realize I bumped into them and asks, "What for?" I would just say, "Oh, I thought I bumped into you."

To me, it's just common courtesy/politeness.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

If you stepped on someone's foot accidentally wouldn't you apologize for that?

It's not about whether you did it by accident or on purpose, but the fact that you did it in the first place.

Maybe in your situation the girl was wearing a padded bra or something and didn't feel it.

[Asker]

She was actually wearing a baggy hooded sweatshirt...and I mean stepping on a foot is a lot more obvious and even painful..this deifntely is not something I would put in the same category.

[kayles]

tbh, if it wasn't a direct touch then there's no real need to say sorry, its like if I moved my hand and it rubbed a guys d*** through his trousers I woulldnt say sorry because it wasn't a direct thing

[Anonymous]

Girls can usually tell the difference between an accident and coping a feel. If it would've made it awkward, I would be fine without an apology.