Have never had a guy go down on me: but boyfriend is insisting on it: help!

[Anonymous]

So I've been sexually active for what... 6 years now? And I have this issue about not being able to realize that men just might like pussy. It always takes me awhile to let them get handsy down there, and I've never let a guy go down on me for more than 5 seconds only because I can't possibly imagine how it could be good for them and I can't relax enough to enjoy it. So this guy I've been dating for a month now is insisting that I get over this, and is insisting that yes he does enjoy eating women out and that he's really quite good at it. His birthday is in a few days, and he's guilting me into letting him do this thing to me because it's his birthday. I know I'd enjoy it but I'm entirely preoccupied by the idea that it probably tastes bizarre and might smell odd. I just don't really like vaginas in general, I suppose. So I'm asking advice to anyone who's been intimate with vaginas in this way: is there some way to make it taste better? I know diet is entirely tied to taste: strong flavors consumed lead to strong scents. Fruit? Water? Sweets? Is it as bad as I am imaging it to be? What are you qualms about it? I just can't even handle the idea, but I feel like this is an inevitable right of passage I'm going to go through. I just want to be not-paranoid. Thanks!

[sa230e]

I've never had the chance to lick a girl out, sadly but I really, really want to. I guess you could say I have a p**** obsession. They're magnificent, I love them. I have a burning desire to pleasure a woman and it just kills me inside that I haven't done it yet.

You just really need to internalize the fact that what you think of yourself and what other people think of you are two entirely different things. That applies not just to your genitals but it's true in general. We tend to judge ourselves far more harshly than others do. Most men think penises are nasty too but I've seen quite a few women on here saying they love giving head but won't let a guy go down on them. Just realize that the opposite is true for (heterosexual) men.

It sounds to me like you have a lot of negative ideas about your vagina. Perhaps you were even made to feel ashamed of it when you were young? Well, how you think of it determines how you feel about it and I think you owe your lady parts an apology. You two have some making up to do!

The fact that you're exposing your most intimate parts to your partner and taking the risk of embarrassment is what makes oral sex great. Oral sex is when your partner forgoes their own sexual pleasure to indulge your own. It's a beautiful way of showing someone that, despite all the insecurities your partner might have about their body, you find it beautiful and sexy.

Think of how good it will feel when you see that all the reservations you have about your body don't mean jack squat to your boyfriend. Imagine how amazing it will be that you can be that you no longer have to worry about it and you can just lay back and give in to the pleasure.

He's a lucky guy and I envy him.

[sexhelp101]

I'm curious as to why you don't like vaginas? If you think they are ugly or gross then there's your problem. You might have had some kind of experience that made you think that way, or something else? I think you'll have to accept that pussies are wonderful, beautiful parts of a womans body. I LOVE eating pussy. I love the smell, the taste, everything. He probably will too.

[eithyy]

It really isn't that bad. It doesn't smell like much and it only tastes a little salty. Pineapple juice supposedly helps immensely in making it taste sweeter. Otherwise, as long as you keep yourself clean you'll be totally fine. If it makes you feel better, shower beforehand. Heck, invite him in the shower with you! It'll be fun and you'll hopefully be more relaxed and ready for an oral adventure!

[peace-love-couture]

Consuming fruits and keeping clean(with hygiene) should be good enough.

If you don't want him to go down,don't let him.I wouldn't ever let a guy go down,they bitch too much about how much work it is and it's such a chore blahblahblah

[cameltoe]

I understand your first time trepidations. The tangy taste and pheremones of the vagina drive both men AND women wild. Millions of vaginas are eaten (by both sexes) each and every day! The best way to get optimum taste is not wash it. Soap, talc and a dab of perfume is not the way a vagina should smell. Relax and enjoy serving your sex to him. It will do wonders for your pleasure and self esteem!