Guys- How do you "feel" about condoms? lol

[backinthegame85]

Okay Okay, so I'm SICK of hearing men tell me they can't feel anything when they wear condoms, so they just don't. It's one thing if you are married and ready for kids and you choose not to use them. But what just recently aggravated me was my guy friend who has 2 kids from 2 different girls and he tells me his ex "trapped" him into having their daughter because she stopped taking her pill and said "oops". And I told him, what about condoms? He was like "yeah I don't use those, can't feel anything". So I was like uhhhh don't blame it on her, it's both your faults. So. does it really feel THAT much different? What do you do? What if the woman you are with tells you too bad, you have to wrap it up? And how do you feel about that scenario I just talked about with my guy friend? Honesty, guys! Thanks :-)

[John-Bee]

It is both parties responsibility, but if the girl tells you that she is on the pill & then doesn't take the pill then she is deceiving you. How were we to know to wrap it up?

I will tell you one thing the first time if the girl stopped taking the pill on purpose to "trap" you then that should be a very important lesson learned to wrap it up.

Yes sex is not as pleasurable with a condom but without it there are consequences.

Now you tell me WHY do girls stop taking the pill? WHY don't they tell us? Why do they try to trap us & sometimes wind up as a single mother.

This scenario has very sever consequences on many many levels.

What if a girl tells you she's 19 or 20 whatever & it turns out that she is only 17 & you had sex with her. Where is the TRUST in a relationship? Are we to card every girl? Are we to watch you take the pill? What about the girl that stopped taking the pill on purpose? What is her life like now? What about the innocent child?

If a girl was honest & said wrap it up I would, But for a girl to just flat out stop taking the pill well I think that's wrong. Is she to blame in any way?

[A-R-Norman]

Still--if the guys uses a condom then he can't get trapped--and what about STD's--men should use them irregardless of what the girl says she is using for more than just pregnancy sake. She is to blame sure--but so is he--no matter what you should use condoms is you want to have kids--birth control pills are only 99 percent effective not fool proof.

[John-Bee]

Reread my first sentence!

[pwl0lwp]

there's lots of good reasons for wearing a condom, but at the end of the day they're a bit of a drag. the feeling is different (the old shower in a raincoat analogy) but it's not like you don't feel "anything". it would be interesting to hear what women have to say about this since I know some who really get off on feeling the guys' ejaculation, which they don't of course with the rubber on.

another drag is the fact you have to pull out straight away & sort out the mess - kind of breaks the mood :/

as to your friend - well he's just being selfish.

as to birth control for long-term partners, there are much better options than the pill. ( link )

[pwl0lwp]

By the way, check the typical failure rate of condoms for birth control: link

[flgurl75]

Umm pulling out is not safe you can still get stds or pregnant from pre-cum or pre-ejaculation. that would really break the mood hearing your preg or have and std later :(

[pwl0lwp]

You misunderstand - I meant when wearing a condom

[A-R-Norman]

I think s too--birth control isn't fool proof so a condom as a back up is very important

[Anonymous]

omg even for females once you have had sex without you can tell a huge difference. but no matter how good and natural it feels without one. If you don't want to have kids anytime soon. nor do you want to contract some nasty std. it is both parties responsibilities to prevent that. wrapping it up is the best way because no other birth control is going to protect std's. the best sex in the world doesn't mean crap once you are told that you have an std. so as much as I myself would much rather not having a condom that takes away a lot of pleasure. I am much more happier to not get an std anytime in my life time. So its just the wises choice to chose less pleasurable over intelligence. Safe it for when you are married and planning to have kids and you know you are with someone who has been tested and you have as well and both know that you both are clean for sure. but it does feel a lot different but tell them its just too bad if they want to have sex with you because your not risking your self for an std or baby. its your body.

[downunder21]

Great answer.... I agree totally.... but from a male perspective!!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks

[A-R-Norman]

Perfect!

[Anonymous]

Ok, I have to add another girls perspective. Condoms are the best thing ever. It protects (for the most part) you and your partner from STD's and unplanned pregnancy. Birth control can't do that. I really hate it when a guy is trying to make you feel bad for making him wear one because your letting him have sex with you. Shouldn't that be enough right there? I had sex with a guy I knew for an hour and he kept on asking me if he could take the condom off and he was like "common baby it feels better without one" and although that might be true, I barely knew the guy> And good thing I did to because come to find out he had sex with a couple girls before me that had STD's.

Honestly guys, don't complain about having to wear a condom. Unless you want a kid or a disease wrap it up.

[jacquesvol]

Absolutely!! 25% of American teenagers carry an STI: Sexually transmitted diseases infections american teenagers NYT article: https://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/12/science/12std.html?_r=1&scp=2&sq=std's% Anyone not wrapping it up has no regard for the girl, is uninformed or suicide prone and egoistic

[Anonymous]

It irritates me that on several occasions the guy has asked, did you bring a condom? are you on the pill? like I'm responsible for the contraception (I know I am, but they should be too).

And I don't thinks its trapping, she may have missed one one day, that's not really her fault is it? I don't see them calling up everyday at the same time making sure that they've taken the pill.

It should be a compromise. And the worst excuse of all, for not wearing a condom is the "if you loved me."

that pisses me off

[downunder21]

i think this guy has a point. it definitely feels worse with a condom on. but at the same time, until you are totally together, I think condoms should be worn. until I totally trust her, and she totally trusts me, will I use no protection, and obviously she is going to have to be on something like the pill or else I am wrapping the big fella for sure!

if my girlfriend said that to me, I would understand, but I would explain to her that I can only last so long, and she is going to have to trust me that I am not going to sleep around and that I am totally std free. if she forced me to use one for ages I would start to get a bit frustrated because it just isn't the same!

but I don't think he is full of it, I definitely notice the difference. I would say it is almost double as good without one if not more. but for him to say he never uses them. I would be pretty careful letting him sleep with you without protection. I would want to go and get a girl checked out if she told me she never used protection. especially if she told me she slept around a bit.

[sexy-man]

Its a bunch of bullshit about not feeling anything. It feels better without condoms but condom is there for a f***in' reason and unless I am ready to get my ass kicked with some "mistake" than I better wear one.

[downunder21]

I agree with you, but it definitely feels better without one!!

[A-R-Norman]

I agree with yah--there are other things--like STD's to worry about--a girl can have one and not even know! very responsible...

[confusedgangsta92]

I don't know what these guys are talking about. Personally I think it feels the same both with and without. So if a guy ever tells you that he doesn't wear condoms because they feel different my advice don't sleep with him. And for your friend they are both responsible he should have been more safe and she shouldn't have lied.

[advicemiester]

First I want to say that the whole" can't feel anything" is a bunch of crap. I know a lot of guys that try and use that trick in order to get the girl to feel bad for not letting him "enjoy" it and letting him not wear one.

The scenario with your guy friend I think is pretty bogus. if he really did care. and didn't want a kid he would of used one.

hope it helps.

[downunder21]

I don't think guys lie when they say that, I think it feels way better without one..

[A-R-Norman]

No one said is d feels just as good, only that it is a cop out--if a man gets a girl pregnant he feels trapped but if he gets an STD what then? Condoms are for all types of protection ...

[Anonymous]

For me I feel a massive difference, physically and mentally, I feel closer to the girl without one and the wetness of the girl is just heavenly to me. If I wear a condom I seriously have trouble coming, I can go for hours without getting there but on occasion I do. If a girl wants me to use one I don't mind I just explain I might not come. I know unprotected sex can be very risky and I believe I take all the necessary precautions I can, for example I only have unprotected sex with my long term girlfriend who is on the pill and we are both clean.

I truly believe your friend was trapped into having that kid, of course they both chose to have unprotected sex but he did it with the understanding she was on the pill. What a crazy bitch :D and it is definitely more her fault than his if she purposely stopped taking her pill!