I want NSA sex with this guy in my class, how do I let him know?

[Anonymous]

OK so there is this guy in my class, who I think is a total hottie. I just want to have an NSA friends with benefits relationship with him. I've dropped a few hints to him, but he's really slow. I know he's interested in me because he always makes comments, and agrees about how attractive I am. I have absolutely no interest in dating this guy, I have attraction ADD, I don't believe in romance, especially in college. But back to my dilemma Also he informed me that he just got out of a relationship with his girlfriend, and when I tell him what I'm attracted too, he always points out that he has what I like. Should I just come out and ask him? I don't want to sound like a whore and chase him off, also if he's good, I don't want the relationship to be a one time thing. Also I've only had sex with my best friend, he feels the same way that I do about relationships, so we used to have causal sex, so I don't exactly know how to go about getting another relationship like the one I had with my best friend.

[Anonymous]

Just ask him if he can keep a secret. If he says yes tell him you're a normal young lady with some urges. Tell him you are too busy for a relationship but don't want to screw the whole school so you're wondering if he would like to help you out with your urges or your problem. Obviously it doesn't have to be exactly like this but say something similar to this and it should go over well without him thinking you're a whore.

[Asker]

Great advice! I think I may just do that :) Thank you!

[BlackSuperman]

Tell him how ya feel, and what you want.. It's sex... he ain't turnin down any pussy... trust me, young lady... LOL

[offthemarket]

Say exactly what you're thinking. Repeat all of that to him. You'd like to be his f*** buddy. Nothing else. If he does a good job you'll let him hit it more than once. Don't expect you to be nice to him or be his girl. None of that. Just sex. That is all.

[r_slizzle]

Did you read the part about not wanting to sound like a whore?

[offthemarket]

I don't see how that makes you sound bad. I mean, you're getting what you want. you're not asking him to pay you... doesn't meet the definition of a whore. :-) I dunno. If it's what you want then who cares what other people say, right? All that matters is how you feel about yourself. If you don't think your actions are questionable, then they aren't.

[l-hedoniste]

A whore posts a rate. She wants to get into this guys pants, and the best way is to talk like it and act like it. Acting like she has flowers and lace across her p*ssy with give exactly the wrong idea, with exactly the wrong result.

[r_slizzle]

Hey, I'm not arguing the point of whether your method is good.. just pointing out what the asker said. She's the one who's worried about what other people think..

[Anonymous]

" don't want to sound like a whore"

why not ? that's what you are... well no wait... whores get paid... OK I guess your a slut :D

[Asker]

How am I a whore if I only had sex with one person so far? Oh wait let me guess, if I was interested in dating him and gave it up after a few dinners and a movie it would be OK because we have a connection? What ever, sex is a primal thing, if every woman who spreads her legs is a whore, then no one is safe on your list. I hope you let your mother know what you think of her! :)

[Opinion Owner]

You want NSA sex... NSA sex = loveless sex ,and loveless sex = slut (or if you get paid, whore)

[Asker]

Well sweetie I don't know what kind of world you live in where people are actually in love. I have friends that are in "love" 4 times are year, and don't even talk to any of their past lovers. I don't beleive in romance or love. I'm sure people can be affectionate. But I've never experienced love a day in my life. I've never seen it between my parents or anyone around me. So how can I desire or seek out something that I've never experienced?

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, I feel bad now.... Look... there IS love, and just because your parents or friends haven't found it doesn't mean it doesn't exist... and sex with someone you love is 1000000000x better than random sex to fill a gap.

[Asker]

Yeah, people say that, but I haven't found it, and honestly I'm not looking for it. Maybe one day there will be a guy who sweeps me off of my feet, but I'm not holding my breath for it. I really just want to graduate have a good life for myself. I'm just far to damaged at the moment to even have the energy or desire for a relaitonship

[Opinion Owner]

Your choice, but keep in mind that your prince charming might not like that you did this

[Asker]

Reason why I'm not holding my breath lol, if he's such a self righteous judgmental sexist, then It won't make any difference to me. I highly doubt the future "love" of my life will be a virgin.

[Opinion Owner]

Theres a virgin, then there's slightly experienced and then there's slut/manwhore im not saying stay a virgin... but try to keep it as low a count as possible