Ok. Don't stick the vibrator up inside of you if you are still closed/ hymen in tact- Obviously this will cause pain. (You could alternatively use the vibrator on surface areas- there are actually a great deal of places you can stimulate, not just your clit or hole. Tho maybe not directly on your clitoris- direct pressure might be too much , as it is (likely) very sensitive.
I can't really tell if you are OK with masturbation as you probably wouldn't be on here asking for a suggestion if you were. So you can either consciously use the sexual energy for other activities. *libido* is lust/ appetite for life, not just sex. So find activities that engage you and are stimulating, but not sexual for whenever you feel aroused- you'll end up brilliant at some other skill.. turn a liability into a strength , and wait till marriage if you want.
OR if you are OK with playing with yourself, are get a book or check out the internet, on techniques to masturbate. Check out Ayurveda stuff as they keep it on a Spiritual and physical health level. There are like 101 moves that virgins can certainly do that won't hurt. While you are on this site, id advise to ignore the guys talking about ouding pus*ies & digging deep. Wrong. Not for you. Don't do it.
Also don't listen to anything about cutting your hymen. If you want to stretch- it not tear it, we not in Medieval period no blood proof necessary) - you can do so gradually over time- GENTLY- with your own fingers... tho it sounds like you are waiting to share that part with your future husband?
Well, if it hurts you that much just make sure he fingers you a lot first before sex - don't just have him plunge because it causes unnecessary pain, & some people experience none some a lot. (I think that's a major problem of' romantic' wedding nights with the completely untouched virgin, unless you break it by accident - it hurts alot)
You're an at least a 25 year old virgin? You've missed out on many years of fun, learning and experience of pleasing a man behind closed doors. What are you doing to prepare for your wedding night...reading about it?
25 to 29 and still a virgin, eh? I'm guessing it's for religious reason.
Don't just give it up to any guy if you've waited for so long. I personally chose to wait until age 24 before giving it up. Try to find a guy with limited sexual experience as well, and odds are that you'll both enjoy a monogamous relationship for quite sometime.
IMO the reason why some girls/guys cheat in relationships is because they've "gotten bored" because they started having sex at a younger age.
If you're super horny and can't get off through masterbation, you might consider having oral, but waiting to have traditional intercourse. It's not immoral if it's only oral. :D
I know of some Christian girls that are choosing to wait to have traditional sex until their wedding night, but have done either oral or anal and thus still consider themselves a virgin. Something to consider.
wow... I didn't know a girl can be horny like that but anyways get a vibrator it will get the job done ... also you'd fullfill all my fantasies if id ever had a girlfriend and a girlfriend that's like this...also id have sex before marriage if she will get married to me eventually but soon...also she will have to be on birth control too... I don't want kids... also to me if I had sex its like a tie maker just like marriage ... also just curious what's getting you turned on so bad : )
I applaud you for waiting but not being too uptight to admit your natural urges. Good luck exploring your body! Some guys would love to have a girl with your combination of morals and honesty and would respect your urge to wait.
Quite honestly if you don't believe in having sex before marriage you probably shouldn't even masturbate, as it's essentially having sex with yourself, but since it's not penetration the morals are iffy.
But what works for me, I'm a guy so we're always ready, if you will, is too limit myself from things that arouse me as best I can. I try to refrain from p*rnography, television shows where the only reason I watch it is because it has a hot girl, and especially thoughts about doing the act with someone. If all else fails a cold shower. Basically stay away from sexual things. I know sometimes you won't be able to resist, but try to bear it out as long as possible, you'll find that waiting to masturbate makes it a lot more relieving. This will help get control of your urges. It worked for me.
As for the whole experience thing, don't let anyone tell you bologna about it being important. If two people love each other, then there will be a long time to gain that experience with each other.
use a vibrator but it sounds like, from your response to evangelina, that your pu$$y is getting used to your hand...that's why it's critical that women alternate between hands and toys because they could get to a point where their guy can't get them off only toys can...maybe your vaj is used to your hand so it needs something more or you're used to using something else and you're trying your hand now and it's not working. I would get a vibrator, personally, I would get the hitachi magic wand...here's a link..that's umm..pretty graphic so watch yourself when you get on here but this toy I REALLY want. apparently, it's one of the strongest and I've seen this in a lottt of adult films.
GIrl I am in the same position. Not that I have anything wrong with masterbation but it's just not for me. I work out more when it comes to the times in the month when I'm horny. It really helps and the rush of even more endorphins is a huge confidence boost. Good Luck!
You should masturbate... and if you don't even let yourself do that and forbid yourself from everything altogether.. you will only want sex more! the more forbidden something is the more arousing! You'll be horny 24/7 if you don't release some of that sexual tension at least through masturbating.