The guy I'm dating asked me for a threesome should I do it ?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating this guy for 3 months now, we are not "official"yet, we decided to take things slow, but we talk lot about being in a relationship and its something that we both want, but we are getting to know each other better! He is a great guy, he has good qualities that I value in a guy, and I see myself in a long term relationship with him. We have so much fun together, especially in bed. He always says how great I am in bed, and that he never had a girl like me, from what I can tell he is not that experienced when it comes to sex. He mentioned to me that he always wanted to have a threesome, it is a fantasy that he wants to have, especially with me. I told him that will never happen, and he says that he is not willing to give up his fantasy, that he would love for me to be there. I don't know what to do ...I've always fantasized about being in a threesome, and I am willing to do it, I think I will enjoy it too, but I want to make sure that he is not thinking that I am just a random girl, and that we will be together after, and hopefully be in a relationship soon. Should I wait until we are there?

[l-hedoniste]

"I've always fantasized about being in a threesome, and I am willing to do it, I think I will enjoy it too"

The stars have aligned, lightning has struck, and you have a threesome on a platter IF you move quickly. If not, and he's as good as you say he is, and he wants threesomes like he says he does, he'll respect your wishes, and fulfill his fantasy with someone who'll share it with him. (Hint, hint).

It would be absolutely crazy for both of you to lose something you both want.

P.S.: While we're at it, why on earth would you tell him that a threesome would never happen, when you want one? Be prepared to answer that one.

[Asker]

My first reaction was to say no ... maybe I was too embarrassed to admit that I would enjoy it too. The thing is, ilike him very much, And I think I would be jealous if I see him with another girl.

[l-hedoniste]

I'll do him a favor and ask his question for him: what can he do to assure you that your relationship can withstand any third person? (If this works out, I want pictures.)

[StraightNoChaser]

Nothing wrong with nurturing a fantasy that you might want to take part in as well. The trust level between the two of you has to be extremely high to invite another person into bed, so be sure you are there before you go for it. In the meanwhile, there might be some real fun in bed talking about what it might be like as the two of you go at it...

[vmw2008]

You've been casually dating for three months, he hasn't made it official, and most of his compliments are about you in bed. Hmmm. I guess it depends what you want. If you're OK with this being a purely sexual relationship in which you're merely a window of opportunity for his fantasies to come true, then go for it. If you're hoping for a real relationship with this guy and you only feel comfortable with the 3 some because you feel that this is serious, move on. He's not serious about you as a girlfriend, he's serious about the sex.

[purple6person]

Don't do it. He is obviously not wanting to get serious with you. I have a friend who has threesomes with her boyfriend and the difference between your boyfriend and her boyfriend is that her boyfriend is very sexually experienced. Having a threesome is not taking it slow. If you aren't in a relationship yet having a threesome is not going to take you to the next level. Sorry.

[Gregs]

yes

[smokey4001]

I think every woman should experience two guys

[Anonymous]

No. Got nothing to do with love and respect. Multiples is a losers game for women. It is cheating right in front of you.

[Anonymous]

3 months and he wants a threesome? Sounds like he doesn't look at this as a very serious relationship. Tell him to give you a call when he's gotten his "fantasies" out of his system and is ready to have a relationship.