How can I be less scared to receive oral sex?

I have never received oral cause I'm really shy and the thought of having someone's head in between my legs makes me nervous.. :( because the attention is on me it makes me feel really self conscious..girls how have you overcome this to feel more comfortable? any tips for a shy girl receiving oral ? thanks :)
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  • I'm a guy (I just looked to be sure). I have "visited" perhaps 20 different girls with very good responses.

    Hygiene is essential. A good warm bath (open up, swish out well, NO soap) will have you fresh and clean. Your natural moisture will return quickly, but it will be fresh too. If you pee between your shower and his visit, try to spread wide enough to make a straight stream so you don't trap urine behind your lips that will begin to ferment. If you use paper, please don't leave any bits behind. That, sweetie, IS a turn-off.

    Grooming will help. A neat trim is fine. We do not demand a shave or wax to go south, but we want to be able to find the target and not have noses tickled because it is a very bad time to sneeze,.

    Have a glass of wine (or four) to take the edge off your nervousness as he begins.

    Other than with clothing, don't help him or feel the need to do him while he is on you. Let him concentrate on the labor of love at hand.

    Lay back and enjoy it. If he is good and you are eager, you will go places you never have with s3x.

  • Looking at your picture, I'm wondering what you're worried about. You're attractive and seem like you have a nice personality. How about just enjoy it? Life's too short to not enjoy the pleasures of sex. Just make sure it's with someone that really likes and wants to be with you. After that, you're golden.

    • Thanks :) but its more being nervous what is my problem :L

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  • Oh I was TERRIFIED the first time. I was worried I'd smell or taste weird, I didn't know what the feeling would be like and was worried that HE wouldn't like it. He kissed me, told me we could turn off the lights if that would make me more comfortable (which we did) and then he moved south. Once he started all of my nerves completely disappeared because, well it just feels so damn good! After he told me that not only did I taste fine but that he actually really liked the taste and doing it for me (it was the first time he'd been able to make me orgasm) all of my fears were gone for every other time we did it. And we did it a LOT.

    So it'll be a bit daunting at first, but just try to relax yourself, if you're worried that it smells/tastes weird go and clean yourself up a bit - it will help you chill a bit- and then just enjoy it.

  • I was scared too! Just make sure you're well groomed, that helped with confidence for me. Then from there, all you can do is make sure you're with someone you want to be with, that they take it slow and listen to you well so you're in total control. If you've masturbated in the past, maybe give them an idea of what you life by helping them with rubbing and fingering you to get you started. Being completely aroused helps loads! From there, just lay back and try to stay in the moment if your mind wanders, just try and focus on what feels good, or even on something you think is sexy. Fantasizing now and then, even with someone you love is okay. : )

  • This is pretty normal ever girl at one point will go through this..

    i was exactly like you but I just "maned up" because I wanted to know how it felt and have that pleasure...just think this way,it helped me out...if he does its because he wants to and will love to pleasure you in that way,he like you and in his eyes your perfect,just gain confidence in yourself,stop resisting, and let him do his thing.

    the first time will be the most difficult and the most pleasurable...

    relax and enjoy :)

    hope that helps,and go for it...your missing out lol

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  • just relax, most girls the first time go through the same thing..

    make sure you are clean, like maybe after you take a shower to make you are more confident and trust me you won't regret it!,

  • i once gave oral sex to my Girlfriend as per his wish,at that I was shy but she encouraged me and believe me after that I never haad such sweet taste of love...ahhhhhhhhhh ...ummmmmmmmm...then my Girlfriend gave me all ,..uhhhh...aahhhhhh...oooohhhhhhh

  • Blindfold him. Or yourself. Or both. (Now *that's* some fun!)

  • i was nervous the first time too. my friend told me you will get out what you put it to it. so fake it if you have to. (you won't need to for very long) just don't think about it in a weird way

  • i was the same way at first. but my partner assured me that he really wanted to do it. So reluctantly I let him, and I was amazing. Ever since then I'm always up for it. Just make sure...you are clean and smell good. If you are clean and smell good, you have no worries of him being grossed out.

  • Let him know that you're a little unsure about getting head, but that you really want him to do it. Then realize that he's doing it to please you, and also because it probably turns him on as well. Keep that good hygiene, and let him know if you want it slower or faster.

  • I wish I could hug you. That's so cute.

    • Lol.. *hugs* :)

  • Just remember that he's doing it because he wants to. I think a lot of girls worry that they will taste or smell bad to guys, but I love going down on girls and the taste and smell turn me on. I've never gone down on a girl I didn't love doing it to. Once he's started doing it, it will feel so good you'll be too distracted to be self-conscious any more.

  • Start things out by wearing sexy lingerie and getting in the mood. You need to come to terms with the fact that everybody's junk looks weird... it's natural.

  • I love giving oral!

  • i would say the one thing you can do is calm down and relax, just kinda let him do his thing. It is true all the attention is on you, but that's the point. If you like the guy and trust him enough to let him put his tongue inside you then the experience is probably going to be amazing for you. that's how God made the female body. relax and enjoy. and let the experience be sensual, don't do it with some random guy (or girl haha) it will be better for you emotionally and physically if you let someone you care for do it.

    I wish I could give you a hug too it is very cute

  • oo.. show the guys your really shy about that its a turn on

    • Its a turn on lol? explain :p

  • Just remember that he wants to do it to you. At least that is the way it is for me. If I'm really attracted to a woman I literally have a desire to go down on her. If he is like me he will not be grossed out or think it is weird, he will be focusing on pleasing you and will be very excited himself.