Why do guys accuse innocent girls of secretly being freaks?

[Anonymous]

Where did that whole idea come from? Maybe we are like that when we get married and such, but I don't see how guys who are players would know that unless the girl really wasn't innocent because innocent girls don't sleep around, we wait until we meet the man we love. An innocent girl cannot be a slutty girl and a slutty girl cannot be an innocent girl.

[l-hedoniste]

"An innocent girl cannot be a slutty girl and a slutty girl cannot be an innocent girl." Utter hogwash. EVERY woman is a freak--for the right guy.

"Maybe we are like that when we get married and such" My point exactly.

"innocent girls don't sleep around, we wait until we meet the man we love." So if, once she finds the man she loves, she f*cks him cross-eyed and senseless--and she no doubt will--she's not a freak, because she waited?

Fine. Whatever makes it make sense to you.

[Asker]

Please go back and read what I said again, then answer...or not answer. It's up to you.

[l-hedoniste]

I've read it, again. And I stand by my answer, every word.

[Asker]

You didn't really give one. Well at least not to my question.

[Anonymous]

Usually they are freaks because they've waited so long to have sex that when they get it they want a lot of it and they get really into it. I don't see why you think if a woman is freaky in bed that means she is a slut. What the heck is a slut anyways? Is two previous partners a slut, or five or ten? What if a woman is 40 and has slept with six guys? Is she a slut to you? lol

[Asker]

I wasn't saying a girl that is "freaky in bed" was a slut because that is not true.

[peace-love-couture]

I know some "innocent" girls who are fake,backstabbing,two faced,drama queens...so while you may think an oh so innocent "holier than thou" girl can not be a horrible person for having sex outside of a relationship,personalities can say otherwise...

And I don't hear any guys saying that...

[peace-love-couture]

I don't get why feminists flame everything said by guys

[Asker]

I definitely don't think the innocent girls I'm thinking about are fake, backstabbing, two faced, drama queens. Those girls are not innocent girls. I think of innocent girls being good girls and not just in the sexual way but also all other ways. Well I do hear guys say that a lot. It's actually a common stereotype.

[peace-love-couture]

And?There are plenty of stereotypes And the self proclaimed "good girls" tend to be the girls to not trust,just from my experience

[Asker]

Okay and I'm not talking about those girls. I am talking about the girls that are genuinely good girls. "And?" Of course there are plenty of stereotypes I am wondering where it comes from, but maybe you are onto something. Maybe it isn't the genuinely good girls they are referring to but the fake, backstabbing, two-faced, drama queen self-proclaimed good girls you are referring to. Thank you for your input.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the person. I didn't lose my virginity till I was 19, and now that I have, I have a great time with my guy. We have tons of sex all the time and have lots of fun with it. I consider myself freaky. Lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets!

[Anonymous]

"Maybe we are like that when we get married and such"

I don't understand what you mean ^^^

[Asker]

Maybe we are what might be consider "freaks" with our husbands.

[Opinion Owner]

Having sex with a guy that y ou're not married doesn't make you a slut

[Asker]

Okay...I didn't say it did.

[Opinion Owner]

But you just said being a freak with your husband...I assume you think it's only right to wait until marriage

[Asker]

Can I not use that as an example? It doesn't matter if I think it's right or not. If it somehow makes the question easier to answer then change that part to "Maybe we are like that in loving long-term relationship". The question I am asking here is why do guys, particularly the kind that are players, accuse innocent girls of secretly being freaks. Hope that helps

[Opinion Owner]

Being a freak in bed doesn't always mean a girl is experienced. it just means she's open to experimenting.

[Asker]

I know that. A girl that makes love to her husband (or man she is in love with or in a longterm relationship with if you don't like husband/marriage) for the first time can be a "freak". I just don't know how some particular guys who have never been in a loving. long term relationship would know that because loving long-term relationships are the type of relationships innocent girls get into.