Is it really a deal breaker if a girl has slept with many guys?

[Anonymous]

I know this has been asked a 1000 times, but I'm in college now and many girls are literally sleeping with another guy every weekend so assuming, you do this for two years, this adds up to a lot. I know that some guys don't care, with how many guys a girl as slept with but from what I heard a fair share do and eventually break up with a girl that has slept with too many guys, in their eyes. A friend of mine said, he didn't want to date a girl that has slept with more than 5 guys, and I guess there are more guys like this out there. So do all those girls have no shot on those guys? or are they just talking? Do you care with how many guys your girlfriend has slept with?And if yes, would it be a deal breaker?

[G_GTom]

I haven't had many parters. As a guy maybe that makes me a failure, at least by some people's standards, but I don't care.

In terms of how many partners a woman has had, yeah, I think a lot of partners is a turn-off, but maybe that's because I haven't had a lot. Maybe my opinion would change if I had more parters. I don't know since I haven't been there.

From my experience, women have been fairly guarded on who they sleep with, so that spills over to my feelings about her. If she holds her number with high regard, shouldn't I as well?

I guess I have mixed feelings about this, but I'd say I would want a women in the range of number of sexual partners I've had. This is also true for other areas of life. I'm most attracted to people who I have more common experiences with.

[Asker]

That doesn't make you a failure, girls don't want their boyfriend to be a slut either. I totally agree with the thing about wanting someone to be in the same rage of sexual partners you had. I want the same, but what's that range? I mean I've slept with 2 guys, so I'd say everything from 0-8 is great, more is OK too, it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. Would it for you tho if she was out of that range?

[Anonymous]

Can't turn a ho into a housewife

generally speaking (there are exceptions) good guys want a stable, clean and drama-free relationship. So a girl that's been around the block wouldn't be good enough.

I can only speak for myself but if I fell madly in love with a girl and found out she did this, then I'd fall madly OUT of love, and move on lol. I don't need to waste my time on human trash.

[Asker]

Ya you can turn a ho into a housewife, happens all the time. I get what you say about a stable, clean relationship, but how is a girl that's been around (talking in past) not good enough for that? How much would you consider too much?

[Opinion Owner]

I'd rather not know that a girl has been f***ed by 20 other guys before me... that's just disgusting. And why would I WANT a ho for a housewife ? I know I can do better I consider more than 6 partners by the age of 25 as too many

[Asker]

But it's all in your head right?Your attitude which is OK. but it's not that you think that she's getting loose or something the more guys she slept with? which is kinda in your head too, but you know what I mean.

[Opinion Owner]

Well yea its in my head, a girl that's been around isn't very attractive to me, she's a slut.... BUT there's physical dangers too, STDs , infections , etc etc.

[TC123]

Sums up how a lot of guys feel. Also, every girl is not "sleeping with a different guy every weekend" and every guy is banging a different girl every week. That's just a matter of perception.

[peace-love-couture]

I'm happy you think you're beyond "human trash" That's great,that "holier than thou" attitude will get you far

[Opinion Owner]

Already has

[Anonymous]

From the way I see it, men seem to be more attracted to women who are highly sexually active. I know some women who have a lot of partners, & men are drawn to them like they are the cream of the crop. While, I decided to wait until marriage to have sex, & no men come on to me ever. I think it depends on the guy & what he is looking for. I've only recently started to get noticed by men because I think my age is in the same group as men who are now looking for the right things.

[half-pint]

This will forever be THE double edged sword for women. Men are conquerers who leave whores behind. Yet they want a whore in the bedroom...hmmmmmmm, well, geez, let me think...kind of like interviewing for your first job..."i have no experience but I know what to do!"...OK NEXT...

There will never be an answer or a cure!

[cyrus7]

Lady in the street but a freak in the sheet comes to mind

[Asker]

That comparison made me giggle and of course I know what you mean. But I was wondering what happens to all those girls, that sleep around during college if so many guys wouldn't date a girl like that?

[half-pint]

THEY LIE....LIE....LIE....LIE.....LMAO!

[TC123]

Lie or don't talk about it. To be honest what matters the most is whether or not she is monogamous in a relationship and keeps talk of her escapades to herself.

[katiesmuff]

I didn't think very many girls went around advertising how many guys had done them in the past.

[Asker]

No of course not, but if you're dating someone and he asks, wouldn't you be honest?

[katiesmuff]

Yes I would! I would tell him it is none of his f*cking business. I have never had the urge to ask any guy how many girls he has been with before jumping on his willie wackie!

[l-hedoniste]

If he dumps the right girl for her high number, he's a fool, and he'll get what he deserves: the wrong girl with a low number, who despises sex and those who enjoy it. After that, he'll learn.

[mghowmasculinist]

If a woman has slept around, she can certainly continue doing so...elsewhere, with someone else, preferably in a different town and far away from me.

[dreamishobby]

i can't have a relationship with such girl...coz even if you try to 4get her past you can't predict her future!

how will she behave? how long she will stay in this relationship? and what if she continues to be a whore?...dat would break my heart into pieces!...so bettr is ro stay away from such a girl!

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Well, I've only had one person so, I could hope the same.