Can a guy FAKE an ORGASM?

[Anonymous]

Well, the question pretty much says it all. Can a guy really fake an orgasm like a woman can? If so, how? And why would he want to? (I completely disagree with women faking it) Guys, have you done it? How'd you do it? Did she find out? And what made you do it? Also, can you only do it with a condom on or can you do it when you go bare? Girls, have you ever witnessed or found out your guy faked it? What reason or excuse did he give? How'd you react? How'd you feel? I also have a VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION FOR GUYS, although girls feel free to answer as well. Does an orgasm equate to ejaculation? Does the big O come before (once or multiple times) you ejaculate or after or does it happen simultaneously? Is there a difference between them? Does ejaculation simply mean finishing? What is the difference?!? I appreciate all your answers and contributions. Thanks =)

[selfishstars]

Generally when a guy orgasms, he also ejaculates, but these things can occur separately (he can orgasm without ejaculating and there's also a condition called ejaculatory anhedoni in which a guy can ejaculate but doesn't orgasm (i.e. he doesn't feel the sensation of pleasure and release)).

Guys can fake orgasms. Since most guys do orgasm and ejaculate at the same time, its easier to do so if he's wearing a condom.

My ex-boyfriend faked an orgasm once, but he did it as a joke when we were very intoxicated. He started moaning/heavy breathing as if he was orgasming and pushed himself deep inside me, then collapsed on top of me (still inside me). I was disappointed that it was over, but accepted it.. then he said, "Just kidding!" and started thrusting again. I had a "WTF?" moment and then realized how hilarious it was.

My current boyfriend has told me about a time when he faked an orgasm with a past partner. It was NSA sex with a friend. She was anorgasmic (so she wasn't going to orgasm herself) and the sex was painful for her and he could tell she wanted it to end. She told him she wanted him to come, but it was going to take him a lot longer to be able to come and he didn't want to continue hurting her for his pleasure (he finds it hard to get off if the other person isn't enjoying themself as well). He faked it so they could finish because he didn't want to disappoint her or make her feel inadequate. Normally he's the type that wouldn't fake it (he'd prefer to talk about it and work to make the sex better and more enjoyable for both of them), but they weren't going to become regular sex partners (she was moving to a different country shortly), so there wasn't much of a point to make a big deal about it.

[katiesmuff]

A guy can fake it just as easily as any girl can. Just because he has an orgasm does not mean any ejaculate will be produced and if he fakes it while inside you not necessarly will you be able to tell.

[MandMandM]

> Can a guy really fake an orgasm?

Yes.

> why would he want to?

Consideration of her, eg if she is sore but will get hung up if she didn't think she satisfied you. It's a rare lie that may be more beneficial for both of you, than grumping about not going to completion, triggering self recrimination etc.

> Does an orgasm equate to ejaculation?

No. The timing is close by default for guys though.

The chemical reward flood starts before ejaculation. Have you noticed how a guy's eyes often shut, they start to groan inarticulately (or to curse) and they start to twitch all over (a bit like a girl can before orgasm) several seconds before he starts ejaculating?

So stopping just before ejaculation, and building back up (several times) feels better, for longer and leads to more intense orgasms. You have probably been at it with a partner who asked you to slow down so he didn't come yet?

With practice the big O (overwhelming sensations of pleasure) can happen several times before ejaculation, and can enable you stay hard after ejaculation and keep at it without the intense over sensitivity and recovery time a guy otherwise needs.

>Is there a difference between them?

Yes. Orgasm is mainly neuro chemical and hormonal (ie whole body). Ejaculation is pneumatic and localised! The brain is the main sexual organ which drives both events. The clever bit about evolution is that to get the reward, you generally end up in activity with the potential to be reproductive.

> Does ejaculation simply mean finishing?

It needn't.

[tbsefh]

I think I can add something to the other answers.

I've never faked an orgasm, but I don't think I could with someone who was paying attention. Others have pointed out that it is possible to orgasm without ejaculation, or with very little ejaculate. That's not the problem. The bigger problem is that a guy generally loses his erection very quickly after orgasm (usually 15 seconds or so), whereas if he doesn't orgasm, it takes longer. However, if I were trying this, I would pretend to orgasm, then immediately go to the bathroom and pee. Peeing immediately stops the erection, and is something most guys will want to do after ejaculation, anyway, to clear any remaining semen in the urethra.

As for the rest of the questions, an orgasm usually does equate to ejaculation and happens simultaneously. However, ejaculation can happen before orgasm (premature ejaculation) or not at all. Guys generally don't have multiple orgasms. Once you ejaculate, you're generally done, even if you haven't yet orgasmed (which is why premature ejaculation is such a problem for guys).

[AnonymousDude]

i can't think of a good way you could fake it...

"Does an orgasm equate to ejaculation?"

generally yes, unless you did it enough and your basically out. only way I see of faking it at the start is act like you did and try extremely hard to not have her see nothing came out, if she does, call it retrograde ejaculation ( link ). but yeah that's not hard to see through lol

"Does the big O come before (once or multiple times) you ejaculate or after or does it happen simultaneously? "

same time, the pulsing of the penis during an orgasm is what drives the semen out.

"Does ejaculation simply mean finishing?"

finishing is ejactulating or orgasming, it's just a slang term.

Personally I'd never fake it, hell, orgasming is one of the best parts lol

[Yossarion]

I have faked them several times. The circumstances are usually it is the 4th or 5th bout of the evening, quite a bit of alcohol has been consumed, and after quite a bit of burying the bunny it is clear that spring is not cumming.

Its easy if you wear a condom. You just lay in her for a minute pull out and immediately turn away to use the bathroom. I don't believe I have been caught. Do women immediately look at the condom to see the semen pool?

[jdmguy]

unlike some women guys have sex to og. the only way I could think of to fake it is with a condom on. but like I said most guys wouldn't do that. I think the only way I would ever fake it is if were on like round 5 and I was too tired. or if she wants to please you so bad she won't stop until you og. and to answer the other question: its pretty much simultaneous

[Reiki_Z]

yes he can

its funny when you do it

you just go fast and then stop abrubtly or like joltingly back and forth and go ahh ahhh

but then I just say just kidding bitch ha ha jk that was from chappelle show

but that's one way

and the other way is the less extreme way were you just say I'm done

and do a light stop

but I wouldn't come anymore because I need to let that build up in my system due to my code

and with or with out a condom you just have to get past the excitement part

and there's only one reason a women might get mad I think other then not making a baby with it

but its cause she feels she didn't please him cause some girls like to make there man come to feel complete

but its cool cause we just get pleasure from pleasing you ( ;

no its not the same that's why men do butt sex cause they can't have multiple orgasims with women with out prostate stimulation

its where are g spot is

girls can come multiple times so it might be before the man or after

it depends on him

and sometimes it can happen at the same time

its called a peak orgasim and that's why men get tired when there done

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[David0001]

Well considering that most of us cannot separate ejaculation from orgasm (Tantra claims it is possible to separate ejaculation from orgasm) no, this would be quite difficult. If its a powerful orgasm there will also be pulsing contractions that can be felt. With a woman I was really deeply in love with when we had sex I would come intensely, but she kept me so turned on and full of energy I could just keep going and repeat the process three times usually until we were both worn out. I would like to learn how to separate the two processes but I will take serious training and practice. So I guess you could say I'm multi orgasmic.

[pandaninja]

yes a guy can fake it, iv had to do it before but only once, I did it because I had been at it with the girl for almost three hours and had already came 3 times I was tiered and just wanted out. no orgasam dosnt mean ejaculation at least not for guys, if the guy has orgasamed too many times in too little time there is no sperm to ejaculate but the body can still exeriance the physicall effects of reaching a climax

[SirSmith]

Yes, sweetie ... nicely put questions:

NO! If the girl is paying attention, it will be pretty hard for the guy to fake Orgasm, as orgasm and release of Hot sperm into your vagina occur simultaneously - the 2 are Synonymous with a male. In fact, for me, I often get the Fullest thrill immediately following each release. The climax in 'feeling' is actually an instant after sperm release.

So the guy is not allowed to cheat.

He either does his job properly, or it is not done.

Personally, I WOULDN'T WANT to try anything unnatural ... I would keep going until I climaxed with the girl - it is all in her honour.

Multiple orgasms? Not generally for guys ... the sensitivity goes ... it needs a 5, 10 or 20 min recovery usually.

The only cheating that is possible for a male is if he literally ties up the girth of his penis with something. Then it can actually climax w/o actual release of sperm externally. But it would be dangerous and if he did so he would begin to have sexual problems.

[Seppelson]

I have done it a few times, because I was not in the mood for sex. So I waited till she came twice and moaned a little bit and faked the pulsating. After it I quickly put the condom in a tissue and threw it away. That's all I did

[Anonymous]

Yes its possilbe, if you can't be bothered or its taking to long or the superbowl is about to start etc

[Anonymous]

Of course a guy can fake one. If there isn't anything in the condom, its quite simple to say, "hmm, I guess I didn't really come much." That is if you'd even look at all(or he'd let you in that case.) Now the questions as for why, they can be for the same reasons women do. For example, you might just not be able to get off, despite the best efforts of your partner, for whatever reason. Maybe stressed out, had one too many drinks, medication etc etc or whatever. Not wanting to disappoint her, but also not wanting to say to her, hey you can stop now, it could just be easier to fake it and not have to explain or have hurt feelings.