Boy took my virginity when I was?

[Anonymous]

Right PLEASE do not judge me or give me any comments that will make me feel ten times worse. A few months ago I was at my friends party, I got drunk and I was having a laugh and the night was going great. I was a virgin at the time. At the end of the night my 'male friend' asked me if I needed a run home because he knew I was going to a party. I said yes and thought nothing more of it. When he came and picked me up anyone could see I had a few drinks in me and was in no fit state for anyhing but my bed. But on the way back to mine he stopped and said "I'm not taking you home if you don't get in the back with me" I was shocked and thought he was joking.. but he wasn't and stupidly enough I did. The day after he spoke to me on MSN and said we shouldn't tell anyone about it. I agreed and I never spoke to him since, until two days ago when I seen him at college! I had no idea he went to the same college as me.. and I received a text from his friend calling me a slut etc. I then spoke to the boy that took my virginity and said.. do you think your big taking a girls virginity when she was drunk in your car when you offered to take her home? He then tried to say he never knew I was a virgin and offered to take me to the cinema this weekend. What do I do?

[bjs09]

No offense but it would be super stupid if you to even consider it. Why would you go out with a guy who a) conned you into having sex with him, b) told him friends about it (they obviously know if they are sending you texts calling you a slut and he definitely didn't speak nicely about you when he told them and c) tries to apologize by taking you to see a MOVIE? it makes no sense. be smart here. he probably just thinks you are dumb enough that he can get with you again - it worked the first time. do not go with him, do not talk to him. he's an idiot. and you would be too if you accepted his offer.

[vmw2008]

He practically raped you. And then he told his friends about it so they could harass you. Show no sympathy to this guy. That's the sort of the thing I'd be calling on my trusted male friends for, as well as threatening to tell girls that he plans to date. He had no problem soiling your reputation, so don't worry about soiling his. He's a jackass, do not go to the movies with him.

[MandMandM]

Tell him he's a rapist, it isn't cool and you want nothing to do with him or his guys. If he bugs you, you will tell them what a low life he is.

[l-hedoniste]

"You took advantage of me while I was drunk, and I NO problem telling this to any woman you plan to date. Back off, and call off your dogs."

[Lucky1227]

You were "raped" if you actually believe in that sort of thing.

[carlstatlin]

Next time you see him I think you should walk right up and kick him in the balls as hard as you can.

[doctorwhofan23]

This is actually called rape if you were drunk. If you are drunk you do not have the legal capacity to consent.

[carlstatlin]

a friend of mines sister was raped while she was passed out drunk and it was thrown out of court because she had no memory of what happened. we beat his ass within a inch of his life shortly after that and got in no trouble because he couldn't remember

[chrsschb]

You can appeal the court's decision. Intoxication means you CAN NOT consent. If the court threw it out that judge would be losing his job.

[AdvisableCircle]

Well considering what he did the first time was low and technically could be sexual assault, I would highly recommend staying away from him. You can find a better person

[Draguna2016]

The guy took advantage of you. He and his friends are just cruel. You deserve far better. They will continue to bully you. Dump him to the curb.

[Anonymous]

Considering that he basically raped you, I sure wouldn't go out with him.