I was always a quick draw(>3 minutes of penetration) which is why I always tried to have oral sex(or I masturbate) before penetration as if I already came, it'll take a lot longer to come again and thus I can keep up with most women in terms of duration not to mention, there'd be less pressure as I could give her an orgasm with oral swell which left her at least somewhat satisfied.
If he came, let him give oral to pass the time till he's good to go again, he'll last longer the second time around.
I've tried condoms with lidocaine before which basically numbed the penis which made me last longer but made it a lot less pleasurable for myself.Thought of disturbing things to try and last longer which again made me last longer but where unpleasing(who wants to think of baseball and stuff during sex?), tried kegel exercises which did help but took quite some time before they started getting effective and saw my doctor for Prozac which again, did help after a while.
The least stimulating position for a man is woman on top, it'll make it last a bit longer as well.
That's about what I did in order to fix my problem, now I last 10-15 minutes which is long enough considering I still take my time with foreplay.
Actually the are 7 for men and 7 for women but it takes pratices the anal orgasm is one that men and women share a like if he learn to breath properly he would last longer, I guess you say what does that have to do with anything well if he slow down his breathing he will still have a erection and be able to still do you maybe him going down on you every now and then will help pospone it also. I had a problem for a minute but once I learn to engage more parts or a women and chnaging postions that slow down ejaculation also helps you seem to me like a girl that really want to be there for him do some research on your own and then decide what's works for you guys I sure that if you made a suggestion during sex and told him that it made you hot he wouldn't question where it came from. a lot of what I learn about sex came from females in my life and some guys are to afraid that if the girls know more that him it makes him a loser or something. You have the right idea sweety just take you time and everything else will fall into place
My guy comes REALLY fast, so the only way to make our sex last, is for me to finish him with a blow job before hand. Luckily, he stays mostly hard most of the time, so we only have to wait a minute or two (which is easily filled up with kissing and such). Then during sex, he doesn't come untill I damn well tell him to XD (coz I don't get off on oral or manual stimulation :( so sex is the only way for me) So far, I've never orgasmed properly X( (I can get mini-climaxes with clitoral stimulation when masturbating, but they kinda suck) But with sex I've come so close, lol... It kinda sucks and is frustrating as heck, but oh well... I'll get thar eventually X) So yea, that's how I get around it, but I guess your guy just stays too sensetive for too long for something like what I do to work... Anyways, I hope this answers your question properly, lol :) And good luck with working out ways aroud your issue! :D
In general it is easier for a guy to finish than it is for us. I like to have my guys orally get me off several times before penatration and then if they pop before I am able to finish it is not so bad. The other thing a guy can do if he finishes ahead is finish you with oral and fingers as he pulls out.
Ge thim do go down on you. A de-sensitizer also might help.
How long has this been a problem? Is it something new, or has it always been like this? Does he make any effort to get you off otherwise? If he doesn't, then I doubt he's interested in pleasuring you, and if that was the case, I'd dump him.
Typical dramatizisng manhating comment. she doesn't have any idea of your problem but things it is always him, never the girl. speaks for bad experience and low self-esteem.
I never said it was his fault. But how would you feel if your girldriend didn't make an effor to pleasure you? I only said it because she didn't go into much detail, she just says he finsihes before her and she doesn't orgasm. Therefore I assumed that he then doesn't get her off = he doesn't make an effort. I don't know if she actually tells him what she likes in bed. Because then that could be a problem. I'm not a man hater. And I have a very satisfying sex life, thank you very much.
Joner,your comment reeks of being bad in bed
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It can go either way, sometimes I can be overly sensitive (and quite disappointed in myself) and other times I can go for extended periods of time. I'm not worried about how she feels about when I "Finish" because I don't stop until she does. If I'm too sensitive to get her off that way, there are other means of getting her there.
Its only fair that you both get what you desire out of sex. Besides would you want to have sex with someone that you know 'Finishes' before you do and doesn't 'lend a hand' for your sake?
what I am doing is that if I am only penetrating her I might come for shure before her. but I am rubbing her clit, too so she gets double stimulation. aah yeah and just low penetration. it is also teasing for her but also pleasuring. and then when she is coming- a start penetrating her deeper.
what helps me last longer is thinking about her stimulation and getting her orgasmn but I'm really concentrated, too, about what I'm doing so there is normally no time of thinking about your own pleasure. but the more I do not hink about me coming, the more often she comes before me.
It depends on the girl.
If I find her nice for a possible relationship, I may get excited too quickly and go before she does. But in this case I'll finish her off.
However, if I don't give a crap about her, it'll take me longer to reach climax, so she'll end up going first. So by the time I'm done, I can throw her out the door.
"it's like I'm a puzzle, and since he can't figure it out sometimes, I'm the loser in this scenario."
This gave me a thought. Since his staying power seems to be up-and-down, perhaps be extra communicative during sex about when and how he hits the right spots. If its not working, tell him to try another angle, position, what-have-you. This will let you find what works, and keeping him shifting around tends to help delay things.
Good luck!
-M
Thank you for your advice!
:)
Thats a hit or miss with me, sometimes I do, sometimes I don't it really depends on the overall mood and how good the sex is, but I would NEVER leave my woman hanging, If I finish first, I'm not leaving until she gets hers too.
If I finish before her I go down on her, by the time she finishes I am normally ready for round two.
Same here bro :D
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I WISH.. dammit it takes me FOREVER. its a chore sometimes. Sometimes I fake it.
There's only so much chafing I can take.
Typically though it usually depends on how sexually skilled the woman is. But even so, she always finishes before me. Always.
Most of the time though I just want to get it over with.
That's how I see it too sometimes! i always take long for some reason, and I feel bad that it's like a mission instead of pleasure. lol it seems like the roles are reversed. thanks for your comment!
I know I feel like a f***ing woman sometimes. I Understand exactly where you are coming from. The solution though is to help your partner with his technique. But keep in mind, having an orgasm is done through self, not through others. Only YOU can make you cum. Its a mind thing, its a ZEN state you have to be in. When you are thinking about cumming, you are putting too much pressure on cumming and you are tensed up and you probably won't cum. Its about letting go.
Oh yeah I totally get what you mean! I try to think about it and it works most of the time, but it takes forever. it's like I'm a puzzle, and since he can't figure it out sometimes, I'm the loser in this scenario. i mean I can last long, but I tire him out easily and its rare for him to go round 2. i'm glad he finished and all, but what about me?! lol it's nice hearing from a male perspective. thank you :)
No, Never... it's not really overly frustrating since I'm used to it now. It's a medical thing, I'm sure it could be 'fixed' if I got it checked. But why bother?
Ussually together. When she cums, it makes me hot and I come also.
Yea. That is why there is oral sex and foreplay.
This never happens with me. You don't have to be an experienced lover to understand that you need to wait for her! And is it a problem to 'wait' since you're not exactly being bored!
I usually please my wife orally before we do intercourse. Once she has orgasmed and can no longer take it, we switch to penetration. Following this method I usually finish once to her three.
If we do penetration first I always finish first.
I never finish before my girlfriend. I'd be able to if I purposely tried to make it unenjoyable for her :P but I'm not one of the sensitive guys. My girlfriend usually cums 3 or 4 times before I do, and we usually come simultaneously at the end. It's good :)
In realitt this is very common. Don't let p*rn influnce reality. Many males "prematue ejaculate". Partly because the sensation if much more intense then there normal means of maturbating, and its much mre erotic with a partner, not to mention the sensory overload factor.
Guys are used to there hand, with offers little stimulation compared to a vagina. So to be in a bueatiful girl is overhelming.
There are ways get get past this black however.
Use the stop and go method, which over time will help him last longer (stop when near orgasm and wait to stop from ejaculating.)
Have him lick, finger or dildo/vibrator you untill your fairly close and have him penetrate you so you come at the same time.
Use a vibe on your clit as he f***s you so you orgasm faster
Hope this helps
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Her cookies to mine are usually 2.5 to 1. I used to try and prolong it as much as possible but I found out that she climaxes with me if I don't fight it. Plus the more she climaxes the more swollen she gets and it's difficult to keep from being forced out. I usually give her one during foreplay though.
yes and no. The first time I go pretty quick, luckily I stay hard and when I go at it again I am not going to come for a long ass time. like I will literally blow my first load in 5 minutes and my second one an hour later lol.
Dude needs to learn to use his tongue.
Amen!
My wife really enjoys oral , even if we are mutually in the 69 position she finishes rather quickly. But during sex I finish before her. On a few times we finished simultaneously, those where great.
Same for me. 69 it's about 50/50 but with straight sex I almost always finish before her.
if you only had intercourse, I'd ALWAYS finish before my girlfriend. if he's young and inexperienced he WILL get much better probably . . . I myself used to be much much worse but through really working on it and gaining experience I've gotten a lot better. that said . . . I'm still sometimes pretty quick. and how does that make me feel? embarrassed sometimes. sometime, honestly, it makes me feel a little antiquate. BUT there's more to sex than just intercourse . . . so I've learned to get my lady of FIRST with my mouth or fingers before "taking the plunge". Or at least getting her really really close first. That way, if she's only a minute or less away from coming by the time we start having sex, be both can finish (ideally) at the same time! ;) SO he just need to learn other ways to get you off. OR if he can go again pretty quickly, just get the first one out of the way and hopefully take two will last longer. that's usually the case. Also, you say yer frustrated (of course!) and want to get off (or course!) when he finishes before you, but his penis is too sensitive . . . I promise he can use other parts to return the favor. ;) good luck!
Sorry, by "if YOU only had intercourse" I meant "if WE only had intercourse".
Yeah, I remember usually finishing before my ex-girlfriends because they felt so good inside. But then I'd got down on them to finish the job -- cunnilingus. Many women say that's the difference between a good lover and a bad, that he leaves the bedroom EVERYTIME after he finishes. Yeah, sometimes it's going to be him or you just finishing, you just wanted to please him this hour, but...everytime?
I blame God for not putting any clits inside the walls of women's vaginas. If that was the case, I sure as hell bet women would be finishing before us boys.
Very true
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