Should I date a slut?

[Anonymous]

have you in the past? Ultimately its my decision but men I want your opinions (ladies too) on this. I met this girl and she's super chill. Like not only is she intelligent but she's got an amazing personality. Kind of a mix of tough, sassy attitude with very sweet and genuine. She's just a really good match for me personality wise. I can talk to her for hours or just sit in really comfortable silence and just feel at home. We started as friends but things have been moving quickly and now I'm pretty sure I'm falling in love with this girl. We are in a relationship now. Problem is (As title says) she's a huge slut. When we were just friends hanging out some guys at school told me that she was a slut. One guy actually went to her high school and said she was an easy f*** back then too. I heard one story repeated a couple times by different guys about her f***ing 5 guys at the same time, anal too. I think it was the rugby team or soccer team something like that . I don't pay much attention to rumors but now that I'm dating her I asked her about it and she said it was true. So that's my struggle here. I really like her. Some of my friends say I should just hit and quit it (one of my friends has slept with her too btw) other friends say its no big deal past is the past. What do you all think? I'm leaning toward staying with her anyway because I really care about her not just as a girlfriend but as a friend. And she's sexy and beautiful on top of that. Still, I guess I wish she wasn't as slutty as she is lol

[TheMajesticSea]

I don't judge people based on sexuality. maybe its because I'm a very liberated, sexual person myself but regardless I don't even consider someone's sexual past if I'm trying to get serious with them. get them tested if need be, but who they f***ed before me has no effect on how I feel about them as a person. I see people not how many times they had sex and with who. that's very shallow, immature, and irrational. I wouldn't ever be involved with anyone who judged me based on my sexual past. I deserve better than that. I agree with some of the posters below. if you really like her and feel a connection, you shouldn't pass that up IF you want a relationship. don't be a judgmental, narrow minded person about sex. Accept her as her own person, not a list of names on a "who I f***ed this year" list.

theres a lot of brainwashing that goes with this, social programming as another user on here put it once. Sex is natural to humans. its natural to have sex. if you're safe you won't hurt anyone. Society/religion tells you that having sex is only okay within certain constraints. narrow minded (and often sexist) people say that women have decreased value because they are free with their sexuality and not mentally enslaved by conventional values. this sounds crazy to me. lol I have had serious relationships with guys/girls before and they were the types of liberal people who didn't overindulge in this kind of traditional, conservative, backwards logic. those are the types of people who meet my standard of decency as a person. I personally think that is the type of person we should all try to be but I'm not surprised that many people don't question what they are taught. for example, I've never heard a rational explanation on how my promiscuity means I have a lack of respect for my body or low self esteem. I have pretty damn high self esteem (Ask any of my friends, its to a fault sometimes lol) and I respect myself plenty. it's all kind of ridiculous but that's life.

make your own decision. I think you know that finding someone you enjoy being with who matches you well is more important than judging their sexual past. my vote is to be mature and open minded about her past and just let it go. there's nothing you can do to change what she did. what you can control is how your time together is spent. breaking up over something stupid because all the little kids at school said "no! she's a slut!" or being an adult and accepting the fact that people do have sex and that isn't a reason to judge their worth as people.

[dudeman]

Im very liberal I don't care what women do but I will judge them if they want to enter my life. that's being very liberal. you want people to agree with you and that's tyrannical.

[TheMajesticSea]

I think lots of people want people to agree with them. when you go arond calling people chumps and morons for their opinion that you shouldn't judge someone based on sex you don't think that's trying to get people to agree with you? you're a hypocrite on top of all of it lol and you are NOT liberal honey. I've had conversations with you and you even say you value traditional gender roles and guidelines for seeing peoples worth in terms of sexuality. that's not liberal lol

[dudeman]

nope super liberal you just crazy

[Prashantazazel]

Spot on. Relationships should be based on mutual attraction, and not on a person's past. Sex is just a fun activity, just like basketball- why make it so complicated...

[OozingMachismo87]

A hoe is always going to be a hoe... and for you themajesticsea i guess you proud of being a lady of easy virtue.. i pity the fool who is going to take you seriously.

[Blonde401]

@TheMajesticSea Agree with you 100% on every single thing you said. There are enough men who aren't so insecure in themselves that they can handle that women are allowed to make their own decisions regarding their body and it has nothing to do with them :) though they are far a few between on gag. @dudeman, you're not liberal at all if you judge someone. You clearly have no idea what liberal means.

[dudeman]

@Blonde401 nah im liberal. if she wants to do that go for it but ill judge her. i won't say it to her face but she's dumb to think people shouldn't consider all factors involved.

[Blonde401]

@dudeman what factors? Her body, her choice. The only thing relevant to you is her STI status. Other than that, it's none of your business. You don't have to give someone your complete sexual history, you don't have to reveal everything to someone, especially if their a judgmental asshole. You clearly have no idea what liberal means. Liberal tends to be non judgmental, especially about a woman's right to choose what to do with her own body.

[dudeman]

@Blonde401 yes her body her choice. my body my choice. if im dating her its my business if i choose to make it so. liberals tend to be very judgmental they just judge what they deem ok.

[Blonde401]

@dudeman no. They don't. That's the opposite of liberal.

[dudeman]

@Blonde401 then you clearly dont know what liberal is.

[Blonde401]

@dudeman clearly you don't. Moron.

[dudeman]

@Blonde401 wow judgmental are we. you clearly must be a conservative than.

[selfishstars]

You've met an amazing girl. She has a past---everyone does. What's more important is that she's with you now. Why would you give up the chance of being with someone that you think is so awesome because of a decision she made in the past? If you can't handle her past, then leave her (she deserves to be with someone who likes her for who she is and doesn't judge her harshly or think negatively about her). But don't "hit it and quit it"---she's a person with feelings and using her isn't right, regardless of her past.

[ohyeagagyea]

Using her isn't right ? you mean like when 5 guys gang banged her ? I'm sure they all loved her deeply very much right ?

[selfishstars]

I think there's a difference between choosing to have sex with a person (or a group of people) knowing that it's just sex, and pretending like you like a girl and want more from her, but are really just using her for sex.

[specialkay]

Huge difference.

[vmw2008]

I'm actually really impressed that you're willing to overlook it and realize that everyone has a past. Guys in our age range typically base women on looks and sexual inexperience. They are make or breaks it, but actually have nothing to do with anything. Says you're extremely mature.

[Asker]

Yeah :)

[Anonymous]

I can genuinely see this in both ways.
For example: I started off being very naive and narrow minded on this matter. I was very judemental and provacative towards women like this. As of now I am learning to be more open minded. I grew up being raised by women most of my life and now I wish to be more careful on respecting woman values. Now how about this for food for thought say your situation was in reverse. Say you were the one with the most sexual activities and you girl had fewer to none. If that was the case then you would likely be deemed as "cool" or people may not care at all! That's the benefit of being a male hoe. I believe it's even on which gender is more sexually active but sadly women are deemed to be more "slutty" and they get judged the most due to social constructs. And women who least to none "slutty" are deemed as saints and good people. Wether you're not sexually active or you are that is you. Both traits have their own unique perks and no one should be judged for there amounts of sexual activity in the past.
I will be blunt since I am a human being whose flaws still has affect on me. I don't think I can have anything serious with women even men who have a huge list of people they slept with. I would date them and even give it a chance if I loved enough. I do believe however as a young guy it's not the women having sex with guys but it's rather me who wants to experiment a lot too. So I believe if you feel like you want to experiment with other women then you should go ahead and leave her to do you. But don't make any serious choices because of her. I think if I met a girl whose had a past like your girls I would honestly find it hot and likely look past it because she still managed to get my heart. I think the issue with men being with women who are more experienced in sex is that it may not be "manly" on men. But trust me once you can look past this stigma and realize that sex should not be the center of the world like everything else then you'll learn to be happy with everyone and better yet yourself. Like dude, I'm sure she's envious about aspects in your charisma and she may keep it lowkey. Maybe she's as jealous on perks you have that she wishes she has. Everyone will always out weight someone somehow. At the end all I can say is do you and do whatever can make you smile. If her past makes you uncomfortable and you just can't make it work out then leave her and realize you're not a bad person for it. Peace.

[bonobo26]

It depends on how much it bothers you. Personally, I'd never have a relationship with a promiscuous girl. But I don't like the attitude that every man who doesn't want to be in relationship with a promiscuous girl is somehow being sexist. If I have double standards its not between men and women, its between my girlfriend and the rest of the human race. I have both male and female slutty friends, and what they do sexually doesn't make me think less of them. But if I start getting serious with a girl who I know is capable of jumping straight into bed with a random guy, I know that she is more likely to cheat, which means I could end up investing a lot of time and emotion in a dud relationship, or bringing up another guys kid. I mean, do all you pseudo-feminists understand men and relationships at all? The reason sex and relationships exist is to make babies and bring them up. Every single positive aspect of sex and relationships is natures way of bringing us to this inevitable, and necessary, conclusion. Even if two people say they don't want to have a kid together, their instincts will be busily compelling them to find someone who is a good mate. The woman will need commitment to guarantee support after a possible pregancy. The man will need her not to be the town bike, to guarantee that the results of that pregnancy will look like him.

[mangageek]

you seem to really like her so go for it! but be wary of her cheating on you or being petty because sluts are usually kind of immature. like another person said you only live once! all you have to do is learn from the past

[specialkay]

youre rare that's for sure. lol

a lot of guys are like the majority of guys on this site - very narrow minded about sex and not really open to seeing us more promiscuous girls as potential gfs. I always say I'm a huge slut because I know that's how some people see me. (ive have orgies and group sex too - love it! )ive even had my heart broken by guys who say they can look past it but are weak and influenced by what their friends say or other men. I'm prepared to be alone forever but its refreshing when I hear about or meet guys like you who are more developed and less ridiculous about sexuality. I get the vibe that you're going to stay with her regardless how much of a chump other guys may think you are. (ignore those pricks below) this is what makes you a real man with his own mind.

thats just my 2 cents :)

[dudeman]

Your a moron

[TheMajesticSea]

Dudeman I think you meant "You're." lmao. how is she a moron?

[dudeman]

nope your has less letters it faster

[diegoD]

"prepared " to be alone, that's an exaggeration. I don't think it feels too "alone" in the middle of those hot gangbangs

[peace-love-couture]

If I were her I wouldn't go out with you...I prefer guys who don't believe such rumors.

You're obviously very immature and shouldn't go out with her

[WildVyse]

But he said he didn't pay attention to the rumors and she said they were true anyhow.

[peace-love-couture]

Apparently he does believe it.If he didn't he wouldn't be asking this

[cyrus7]

"I don't pay much attention to rumors but now that I'm dating her I asked her about it and she said it was true." sounds like she confirmed the rumors though....

[peace-love-couture]

So if he has a problem with it,then don't.Oh wasn't that common sense

[diegoD]

you are right. Besides 5somes are fun. who doesn't like them

[13seth]

I would be more concerned about the possibility of an std than the fact that she likes sex. If you are sure she is clean, and honest, it could be a great relationship. If you judge her on her past or bring it up she will feel like a slut and not be as comfortable around you, so just get over it and enjoy some great sex with her. She is obviously willing to experiment, try exciting things, and enjoys lots of sex, what's to complain about?

[l-hedoniste]

If you can't deal with her, let her be. Leave for for a man who can.

Or, if you wish, get over yourself.

[SmallMember]

Who the hell cares what she did in the past? Why should girls be judged so harshly for that? It's so unfair to them. She has the right to lead her life any way she wants and if she enjoyed f***ing 5 guys at once then that is her business - wouldn't you enjoy f***ing 5 girls at once? This double standard and hypocrisy is sickening. Let girls do whatever they want and enjoy themselves without having to explain or answer to anyone but themselves.

[TheMajesticSea]

I agree. even if a guy isn't entertaining a double standard in his own personal life, this idea that human value lies on sex is so stupid.

[human_condition]

Absolutely. Best answer

[WavyCherry]

Yes, I agree.

[human_condition]

The idea that she is worth less because she has more experience is stupid. If you can trust her, why should there be a problem?

[Agrojag]

I wouldn't. I'd get really upset running into guys who'd had sex with her so often and having a friend who'd slept with her would be even worse. That's just me though.

[juice1]

If I were you I wouldnt. That's just too much baggage to deal with. If you truly care for her and don't mind her past then stay with her. But if its a big problem for you I suggest getting out now before you're deep in love with her because it would just cause problems later on.

[WavyCherry]

She has a past, there's nothing wrong with that. I say--now that you know her past move on, don't dump her just going off of that. She was honest when you asked her about it, and she didn't lie. She sounds like a keeper.

[ohyeagagyea]

Yea you wanna take a girl to mom when she's been 5 somed lol

[WavyCherry]

Why would your mom have to know those things about her? I didn't know you were close enough share sexual histories with your mom.

[ohyeagagyea]

Nope, but I don't like it when a slut acts all clean and pure when she isnt

[WavyCherry]

Ok? She's not allowed to act like HERSELF around your mom when she meets her? She automatically has to jump the gun and say, Oh, I participated in a gangbang once....oops, I hope you still like me. There's nothing about acting to be 'clean and pure' if she acts liker herself without telling your parents her history.

[ohyeagagyea]

5 guys at once !!! anal too !!! disgusting

[WavyCherry]

Wow, resorting that in your argument....lol, I guess, good one. You sound to me like a guy that will only sleep with virgins =)

[ohyeagagyea]

No I'll sleep with AND have a relationship with girls that have a sexual past but this girl is a straight out slut.. and she admitted it too

[WavyCherry]

So? At least she was honest. She didn't lie, and she wasn't bragging about it either. She answered after he asked her. If she's clean, tested, and he wants to be in a relationship with her, who are we to judge?

[ohyeagagyea]

He asked if he should date her, I gave my opinion cant turn a ho into a housewife, and this is a grade A slut

[WavyCherry]

You didn't give your opinion, you chimed in on my comment. Hah. I know a few girls that were loose, and now are married. Can't turn a manwhore into a husband/mariage type either. Those guys are Grade A slutty players.

[ohyeagagyea]

I agree with you, I never said men should get away with it but come on... 5 guys at the same time, that's not slutty ?? that's more than some girls do in their entire lifetime lol

[WavyCherry]

I never said men get away with it either. I'm just saying if you judge women, then men COULD be equally as judged. They just don't get an offensive label like women do. To each their own. She made her bed, and SHE has to be the one to lie in it....not us. I've had sex outside of my relationships? Does that make me a slut?

[ohyeagagyea]

Have you been f***ed by 5 guys at the same time ? if not then no not to mention this guys friend also f***ed her

[WavyCherry]

Everyone's standards of a slut are different.

[dudeman]

Shes a slut all the way how can you even defend her

[WavyCherry]

Maybe because I know what it's like to be called one?

[NucoRose]

Just the idea that she's shared her body with so many guys (5 at the same time) is not appealing and it makes the sex that they have less and less special. and even though I think men and women should be seen differently sexual (seeing as we are different), to use your point of view.... I would not want to be with a man-whore (player), so guys probably don't want to be with a "grade A slut"

[WavyCherry]

Cool story. Quit answering on my comment. I stated my opinion. No matter how many times people comment on here talking about disagreeing with my opinion, it's still not going to change. So you might as well just quit. I don't care.

[Prashantazazel]

The girl sounds like a gem. Be close to her heart and if you feel the vibe, she is the one.

[dudeman]

i agree she has low value not as a person but a women

[Asker]

Well I think women should be judged as people...not some separate standard because they are female. but you're entitled to your opinion

[dudeman]

Well I judge people as people first then as their sex. if a man is a drugie and doesn't take care of bussiness doesn't make him a bad person just a bad man

[dudeman]

Dude seriously she was 5 mens come dumpster is that the girl you want to have your babies

[specialkay]

What does sexual past have to do with children? I'm a slut and I know id definitely be one of the better moms in this world. loving a child and caring for it and providing for it have absolutely nothing to do with how many people you sleep with.

[dudeman]

I never said it did but the person you have kids with will have to live with this knowledge can't you think of anyone but yourself you slut

[TheMajesticSea]

Dudeman you're an idiot. and you had the nerve to try to tell me you're liberal. yeah right. you are totally conservative about relationships and sex. lol

[NucoRose]

Being liberal doesn't mean accepting Extreme promiscuity. the fact of the matter is that guys and girls are different & there is nothing wrong with that, certain standards are different. I like the idea of a girl being a virgin and ending up with the one partner she loves but I would understand a girl having about 3/4 partners (from past Relationships). for guys I would still want himto have had sex from past relationships (a little over ten would still be ok) but I don't like manwhores or sluts

[NucoRose]

Sorry I didn't mean I would Want him to have about 10 partners, I just think it would be OK but seriously 5 guys at the same time (and I'm sure there were others at other times) is too slutty. I wouldn't want a guy to do that either. I don't understand why people make sex so meaningless by having it with people they don't have feelings for. sex should be special but by having so much with different strangers devalues it and shows a lack of self-respect and self-worth.

[Tassos]

Pump n Dump

[DevsAdvocate]

Yo my dude I'm going to be honest and very real with you.

Coming from personal experience, it was always hard to me to not judge men and women alike for being promiscuous. I was born in a household were I had a mother who was extremely Christian (believed in celibacy) and a father who absolutely hated gays, lesbians, including women who had a somewhat sexual past (And I'm sure just like them he was probably very promiscuous himself). My father was and still is a corporate business owner and has a lot of credibility, so you can imagine growing up with a dad who has such a high reputation in the business world and a mother who has similar believes regarding sex makes you second guess yourself. This is what really matters ok, in actuality you shouldn't give a fuck. This girl sounds like an absolute gem, just like my girlfriend back in high school, who was also very promiscuous. Listen If you go to china with your dog and everyone there tells you to kill it after you've bonded so many times before would you kill him just because? LOL sorry bad joke but seriously, fuck who tells you otherwise.

[Anonymous]

hit and run! lol XD
you can't change her, and she won't change for you tho, she'll keep doing what she like to do, if you really want to keep her then you must be like her, if you're not her kind of person then just complete the mission and withdraw! you don't wanna point the gun at your own feet, bad idea...

[Anonymous]

A girl like can't be trusted at all, she's just having a good time with you, but slowly it'll get complicated and top of that she will act like a bitch.
if you've a heart of Satan then go for it otherwise this will be shitty and you're gonna end up regretting this for your whole life. a slut is a slut for her sexual preferences and if you won't br able to satisfy her full then she's gonna cheat you without any conscience. good luck bro.

[Anonymous]

if you're trully able to look past her bad decisions than stay with her, cause obvioucly there's more to her that you see and only you can decide if she's worth it--

but on the low side--i don't think you will ever trully be able to get past the fact of what she has done--it will always be kinda in the back of your mind-- I just don't think she has much credibility and self-respect as a person and you probably deserve somone better in that respect --even if she has a nice personality and you get along with her--

only you know how you feel but I think you can find another girl you get along with great who isn't a slut--don't think it;s that hard-- hope you're happy whatever you do.

=)

[Anonymous]

hit it and quit it man

she let 5 guys hit and quit it ... at the same time

so take advantage of that and get some

[Opinion Owner]

Ur a chump if you actually stay with her lol

[vmw2008]

Given the opportunity to have sex with 5 women, would you take it? I'm betting yes. Hypocritical statements take away your credibility.

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't, I have a faithful girlfriend and I will always be faithful to her

[dudeman]

The dude is a chump if he stays with her

[OozingMachismo87]

Most guys have never had sex with two girls at the same time let alone five. Would you allow five guys to have sex with you at the same time? she's is very easy and not worth wifing...

[diegoD]

you are an idiot. judging a person only because of the number of people they have been with. what a jealous looser. you seem to be good at nothing else in life that you resort to childish insults

[Anonymous]

Do it, you only live once.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't do it

her being of low value, in a relationship with you... only makes you low value too

are you happy knowing that a sports team gang banged your girl and f*** her in the ass ? lmao

[Asker]

Low value? dude that's harsh she's still a person :/

[Opinion Owner]

You don't mind half the town knowing who f***ed her and who didnt? then by all means go for it bro

[Opinion Owner]

Answer my question too lol are you happy knowing that a sports team gang banged your girl and f*** her in the ass ? lmao

[Asker]

I don't think it makes me happy or angry lol I like to think I'm a grown man who understands that I'm not going to be chasing after virgins and that women are going to have sexual pasts. what they do in the past is different for everyone. itll be in the back of my head but only because I really like her.

[dudeman]

5 men at once even most p*rn stars have more respect for themselves

[Opinion Owner]

Well if it sits right with you that she got f***ed by 5 guys at once (more than some girls in their entire life) then go for it but once a ho always a ho

[TheMajesticSea]

I can see the intelligence between these two doesn't sum up to much. god who raised you guys? they did a horrible job if you came out thinking this way. you have no sense of humanity or benevolence and you judge potential partners on how much sex they have. ill have my gangbangs all I want to, licking come off of my fingers at the end of the day just thinking about how thrilled I am that my mind doesn't function the way your minds do. lmao

[Opinion Owner]

Have fun slut lmao

[TheMajesticSea]

I always do :)

[OozingMachismo87]

Sorry mate low value has a point. You being a beta male bro. But there's always gonna be guys like you willing to play saviour to all these lost chicks.. Just have the sex and find a more decent chick to wife.

[diegoD]

you are both dumb, I would date her. people are dumb, women are not supposed to be monogamous by nature. she is just being more active than the average girl. nothing wrong with that. she did 5somes thats cool

[dudeman]

@diegoD yourre a moron.

[diegoD]

@dudeman hahahahahah. I say question asker her should date her, but if she cheats, dump her