I absolutely experience this as well, especially when I touch them myself. I even sometimes get it when a guy touches them during intimacy. It's a complete emotional response where it feels "wrong" and I feel violated, as you said.
However, I am not the sort of person who EVER gets uncomfortable during sexual intimacy or talking about sexual experiences. I've never been someone to entertain the notion that "good girls don't" as another responder questioned.
I understand that this is an emotional response and I'm associating the action with a notion that tells me it is wrong and I therefore feel uncomfortable.
Anyway, it's good to know that other people feel this way. It's been a real problem for me as I sometimes have to tell sexual partners that I don't want them to touch that area, which confuses them as I'm so comfortable with everything else. I have had this problem my entire life and a few years ago I got one of my nipples pierced because I'm into piercings and I like the look of it. However the stud makes my sexual partners think that I'm into nipple play, which is not the case at all. It's complicated.
I have the same problem! My nipples are super sensitive. When I play or mess with them, (they're pierced so it's sometimes required lol) I get this sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, like when you were a child and you Knew you had been caught, and you know you're about to be sick over how much trouble you're in. But when my husband plays with them it's the complete opposite. When he plays it sends pulses straight to my core, and has come SO close to getting me off solely from nipple stimulation. I read in an article one time, wish I could find it now, that it has to do with oxytocin. When ones nipples are played with oxytocin is released, since every "body" is different, and too much of anything is a bad thing, it can result in these types of feelings. The article addressed the fact of why depending on who played makes a difference, but I honestly don't remember!
Omg this is exactly how I feel !!! Like I love when my husband plays or sucks on my nipples but if I squeeze my nipples I feel gross and awkward like it’s so weird. I tried pumping my breast milk when I had my son 4 years ago but stopped after a week solely because I feel this super odd awkward feeling every time I did it. But now that I’m pregnant with my last baby (number2) I want to be sure I pump and just do everything I want since it’s my last time but i just hate the weird feeling I get. I have legit been randomly wheeze my nipples and breast just to see if I can force myself to find it normal 🤦🏾♀️
*squeezing
Sometimes it may be a problem of sensitivity in addition to psychological associations. Personally I am a very sexual person, I masturbate frequently and happily, and I love it when a guy licks my nipples. However I hate touching them myself and it's really uncomfortable. Like someone is violating me, just like how you described. But I have no bad associations with anything sexual at all. So I don't understand why I don't like touching my nipples, I just avoid it. So maybe you can try touching your nipples less and enjoy masturbation more (please don't feel guilty; it's about as natural as wanting to drink water). All living creatures are sexual, it's something we can't change or avoid. So learn to embrace it, enjoy yourself, and tell yourself it's perfectly normal and healthy :)
Ah, I'm not alone. Thank you so much for letting me know I'm not the only one who feels this way when I touch myself. I too don't mind if a man touches me, it feels good, but if it is my own hands, I just can't stand it.
Yeah it's so weird. I can't even stand wearing clothes without a bra on because it's so uncomfortable. At least it's enjoyable if it's someone else ;)
Oh my gosh, I'm the same way! If my clothes rub against my nipples, I feel so uncomfortable. Maybe we just have really senstive nipples or something. I wish someone had answers.
When I'm horny and I touch my nipples, it feels so right, or even when a guy touches it, but at certain times, it gives me a weird feeling as well, like being violated, I dread getting out of the shower every time because I'd have to wrap towel around and hold it around my breast really tight -- if the towel or anything rubs on it, just makes me feel really weird. I don't understand it myself. I do masturbate a lot and I find it neccessary to rub my nipples to get a good orgasm, but when I am not horny and it gets touched -- gives me some a strange, unwanted feeling, so you aren't alone.
You mentioned you never been raped before, so maybe me having this feeling is just because we just have sensitive nipples, lol, I've been violated when I was young, maybe that's where I think the masturbation comes in, no idea.
i love playing my nipples... but when someone played it, i dont feel arouse but instead i feels tickle..
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Ah. I have this intense horrible feeling when I touch my nipples, or when other people do, too. The feeling makes me hate myself, and just want the feeling to go away. It reminds me of how I feel whenever I don't belong anywhere: uncomfortable, uneasy, unwanted, and just want to be somewhere else.
Is there away around this? I want to include my whole body during sexual relations, but this seems to be an issue.
i am also glad to see im not the only one. Since my boobs grow there was this small white thing on niplles, like a litle zit. since i like presing zits on my face i do it on nipples to but very easy and slowly. Only a year ago i find out it is normal to have those things on niples. But the problem comes when i do that presing on niples, i feal like im being raped, and i thougt well thats craizy, maybe its becaouse of my childhood bad expirience on sex area. now im glad i see im not only one. Also i thought maybe im presing it to hard so i tried slowly rub it with towel but again same fealing. but i stil do it beacouse i dont like when i see that white thing, and im doing that for long now, like 7 years, so i dont think it is beacouse im not used to that touch like some say.
I have felt this way my whole adult life. It's like a weird gross feeling in the pit of my stomach. Only when I'm incredibly aroused am I ok with nipple touching. Otherwise nope.
I also get a strange feeling after i touch or rub my nipples in a non sexual way. The best way I can describe it is getting an embarrassed feeling in the pit of my stomach. I feel like I am much younger (elementary age) in a room full of older people and I feel as if everyone knows I have done something wrong. It is so strange. I thought I was the only one..
I get the exact same feeling in the pit of my stomach. I hate it! I even get it when I try to clean the dry skin out of them. Ugh I hate it. I feel like that sometimes after sex or masturbating too.
You are associating sexual arousal with something negative (shame etc).
Look at the bigger picture. With a sex partner, are you comfortable with the whole thing? Or is there a point where you want to run away because things got too awkward or intimate?
Are you comfortable with masterbating? Can you look at yourself naked in a mirror without feeling shame? What about looking at your genitalia in the mirror? Does it make you feel shameful, disgusted, or offended?
What was the attitude about sexuality in your house growing up? Was it something nautral and beautiful? Or something dirty and something that nice girls don't enjoy?
Do you feel conflicted about breasts...how they are both sexual and also a source of food for babies?
Yes, I do feel guilty when I masturbate or think sexual thoughts. I actually think about sex all the time, but I fee lik a bad person for this. I try to masterbate, but it does nothing for me, so I usually don't. I do like my nipples touched, but when I am touching them, I feel so uncomfortable. I get this feel like I'm being violated, I don't understand it. I don't feel shake looking at myself in the mirror, but my vagina does gross me out. I guess I do feel shameful for having it, crazy.
Also, my household was't antisex, but sex was never talked about. My sister got pregnant in her teens, & I thought that was wrong. I don't know if that is affecting anything. And I guess I am conflicted about my breast because part of me wants to hide them & another part wants them to be loved & appreciated.
(#1) You've got to get past the feelings of shame and the thoughts that Good Girls' Don't in order to truly enjoy your body, your sexuality and your sensuality. If you take it on as a do it yourself project, practice masterbating until you do enjoy it. And by that, I mean that you end things in a quivering, panting, smiling sort of state. On a regular basis, take a peek in the mirror at your vagina. Look at it, appreciate it, love it, touch it. No more being repulsed by it.
I think that you just get uncomfortable because you may not be use to touching yourself in that way or you feel like you shouldn't be doing that.
Excellent point
How about when a guy touches you in this way? Does it still feel wierd
I'm not uncomfortable when a guy touches me, just when I do it. It just doesn't feel good to me & I feel like I'm being violated.
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