Why are women so delicate?

[JackieTreehorn]

Okay, before you people lynch me on top the highest pole, hear me out. I do not mean, in the slightest, "why are women physically weak?" I, myself, am a feminist, and believe in totally equal rights between women and men. But, my question is, why can't women have thicker skin? For example, when men talk about disgusting stuff like masturbating, sex, the bathroom, etc, why do you stick your noses up and act like all men are disgusting pigs, and you think you're better than an entire gender? Are you saying women never masturbate, have sex, use the bathroom, etc? Or, when men act like idiots and make several stupid advances on women. Why do you care? Why do you complain? Fuck them! More than half the time, the men are being sarcastic or are just having a go. Why are women so offended and defensive? Why must men have to be "polite around a lady, chivalrous, ladies first, etc" What about equal rights? Women pulling out chairs for men? Paying for the bill? Watching what they say around men? Offering their seat for a man who must stand? Please, explain to me.

[iluvcartman]

Well some things just don't need to be talked about. I don't need to know what came out the last time you went to the bathroom and I don't need a play by play of the last time someone had sex, if I wanted to know those things I'd ask. I go the bathroom, masturbate, and have sex I just don't feel the need to talk about it with my friends. When guys make stupid advances toward me I care because the advance was stupid and made towards me and if I think it was stupid I'm gonna tell you. If you use a dumb line or grab me at a bar I'll bitch you for acting like an animal. If you're going to act like an animal I'm going to treat you like one. When my cat randomly swats a paw at me for not paying attention to him I yell at him, when a guy grabs my arm at a bar to get me to pay attention to him I yell at him. If I don't do that they keep coming back or keep going and get extremely touchy feely. Leading a guy on like that is like giving my cat a huge piece of chicken and then after he's a had a few bites taking it away. You don't have to be polite and chivalrous but you don't have to act like an animal.

On the other hand, when guys are polite and chivalrous I notice. There's a guy who lives in my building who's not the most the attractive guy but he has a really pretty girlfriend (I saw them making out in the lobby a few weeks) ago and I immediately wondered why she was dating him (shallow I know). But then after that I realized he always holds doors open, when I run into him in the stairs he lets me go first, when he get to the door before me or is in the stairwell he opens the doors steps aside so I can go through. Not every guy in my building does that and I don't expect them too...but when they do do it I notice.

Now as far as equal rights there's a difference between voting and dating. If you're a guy and you want me show it. Pay the bill, be nice to me, don't tell me all the same things you tell your guy friends. I feel weird opening the door for guys, especially if it's a heavy door and I'm struggling to open it anyway. It'd also be weird for me to pull out a chair for a guy who's twice my size. There's just certain things guys should do and there's certain things girls should do. I'd never go on a date looking crap and start burping, farting, and talking with my mouth full. Feminists have taken things too far to the point where guys feel like they shouldn't be able to do anything because women can do everything. But it's not romantic that way. What's romantic about splitting the bill? If feminists had their way strap-ons would be a mandatory part of sex and their argument would be, "Well if we have to be penetrated during sex men must too."

[JackieTreehorn]

Wow, this was an excellent answer! Now, maybe I should elaborate. I don't mean, let's say, on a date, women should pull out chairs and pay the bill. I mean, in general. Like, if you're entering a department store, a guy is behind you, hold the door open for him. You're on a bus, this old, tired man has nowhere to sit down, offer him a seat. I am well aware that men and women are biologically different, and no, I don't think strap-ons are mandatory, lol.

[iluvcartman]

Well yeah if I'm walking into a building I hold the door for someone if they're behind me no matter who they are and I'd give my seat to an old man. But that's just being polite, it has nothing to do with someone being a man or a woman.

[Idontevenknow_]

I believe men and women are capable of doing the same things. However I dont think womeen should penetrate a guy with a strap-on cause that is jut unnecessary. But holding a door open for anyone is just respectful. All women are capable of doing exactly what men do, same with men doing exactly what women do.

[haleyb]

Wow, I started out expecting to agree with you. . . but then you threw in a ton of generalizations that messed up your argument. Those are just incorrect. How many women do you know who think they're better than all men? My count's 0. And on one hand, women are more sensitive to this stuff. . . largely because society has dictated for millennia that women MUST have more delicate sensibilities and be held to different standards than men, so something so ingrained can't just be wiped out. For that matter, why aren't you asking why MEN can't be more polite? You assume that men are in the right, and ignore the possibility that women are. And you seem to have a skewed perception of what women expect in terms of mens behavior- I don't know if this is from experience or your ideas. As for guys making advances, it's CREEPY and a lot of times perverted- it's pretty stupid to say, just ignore him, let him say/do whatever because he's just having a go.

[Anonymous]

my man never paid for me he MADE MEEEE BUY DINNER and I did it some date it was his surprise for me

"i have a surprise I'm taking you to dinner" we go and he's like oh and I don't have any money, after we were done and I was like why did you surprise me driving me somewhere if you wanted me to pay why not ask. I sucked it up is that not manly enough for me? I always had to accept all the responsibilities.

[JackieTreehorn]

Ouch, stiffing you with the bill. That's not cool. I mean, in general women and men should pay for dates equally, but when one person specifically treats the other person, just to make them pay for it? That's harsh.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I know lol I'm always like wanna split it or something I'm like an equal person I don't want him to feel like I'm using or depending on him. but he didn't even know that I don't mind paying for some of it lol he did that thing I told you about the first time we went out he was like that though he also told me that he cared more about his ex than me because she was his friend and he will always care about friends more than his significant other. and I asked "what about when you get married somed

[Opinion Owner]

Someday" and he's like yeah ill still love my friends more than her and I said she's your WIFE you're supposed to love her more than anyone! and he was like no. I don't and I never would, ever. and I was like are you serious right now? you'll never love your wife? and he's like no not really. woww. and I was like that's not normal and he said yes it is all guys are like that I guess you just don't know because you haven't asked them that. wow. way to make me feel like sh*t!

[JackieTreehorn]

That's ridiculous! If he knew anything at all, he should know your significant other is supposed to be one of your best friends.

[Opinion Owner]

I know :( my boyfriend is always my best friend and I'm always closer to them than anyone, and I care about them more than anything so it hurt to have him say that, it made me feel bad :(

[l-hedoniste]

Women do have thick skins. Hell, some are total rhinos. The ones who are thin-skinned, *choose* to be.

Some women believe, weirdly, that a relationship somehow involves full control over her man's sex life, *including* his imagination. I recall this one girl who believed, very seriously, that if her man had an erection and he wasn't thinking about her at that moment, he was cheating. Masturbation, of course, was out of the question, never mind p*rn. Or finding other women attractive. If he wanted an orgasm, he could always ask for one. (Seriously, she said this.)

Problem is, she has a boyfriend--worse, a boyfriend who puts up with that lunacy. When being a thin-skinned psycho is a dealbreaker for any self-respecting man, she'll consider adjusting her attitude. Until then, why should she?

[LovelySerene]

...I open doors for guys

[urstruely]

woah woah woah there! I am a shrew. I make sexual jokes, sh*t and pee and fart and laugh about it, and I masturbate ALL the time and am proud of it. And yes, I am a woman. So suck it little boy. Stop generalzing.

[Anonymous]

Because women want to see respect from a guy .. We want to see if they really like us. It's hard to trust guys. Actions speak louder than words. Woman are generally more loyal to their partner .. Guys think with their d***s most of the time.