I used to be the same way...i think you being able to see everything down there is probably a little uncomfortable for her...
When you're having trouble penetrating her, maybe she's not "ready"? I mean, when you finger her, is she well-lubricated? The thought of sex is probably scary to her & when it's about to happen, she probably loses all her desire to have sex...It can be really scary unless you're extremely horny...took me a long time to have sex. If she isn't "ready", try oral with the following advice:
As a girl who used to be really shy about oral, (& penises), when you're kissing her body, tell her you want to taste her & make her feel good...convince her you LOVE doing that...it's like a blow job for a guy...it's WAYY better when you're really into it.
My boyfriend & I have been together for a little over 6 weeks and I was really reluctant to let him go down on me the first time, but he told me he wanted to taste me & that he loved doing it, so that convinced me to let him & it was awesome.
If you need to, get lubrication. It will help even if she is already wet. Make sure you hold her & show her you care about her...she might be scared of going this far with you & then the possibility of you leaving...or not caring, or that she'll feel used.
Hope this helps! Good luck!3 0 0 0Thanks for your answer. Thats the bit that's so confusing, if she's not ''ready'' why did she suggest it, I wasn't pushing or asking, I assumed she would make a move on me when she was comfortable. Yes, when I finger her she seems to really enjoy it (moaning etc) and she get well-lubricated herself. She just seems to be sending me some mixed signals at the moment by saying she wants sex, but not wanting to go anywhere near or touch my penis.
She probably knows you want it and wants to please you by giving it to you...but she's having a hard time convincing herself that its okay... Like I said, from my own experience, that was what I did...i did it hoping I'd keep him longer or that he'd like me more etc...but that's prob a diff story...Anyways, talk with her about it...took me a few years & the perfect man to help me to stop feeling used & guilty about it..
She's just nervous about it all. She's never done anything sexual, so it's quite possible she feels like she just doesn't know what to do. How she should handle your penis, how she should touch it, etc. She's too tensed up and nervous, and that's why you have trouble getting it in. She needs to relax, and it will be easier. She might be just as nervous about receiving oral as well, that's why she locks up and doesn't want you down there. Ask her about it.
0 0 0 0Thanks for your answer. So how do I go about making her feel more comfortable? And if she's so nervous about it, why did she suggest it, I wasn't pushing or asking, I assumed that she wasn't ready for it because she wouldn't touch me, so I was just waiting. But now I'm confused because she seems to be sending me mixed signals.
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2 0So why are you OK with going down on here even tho she won't return the favour?
0 0 0 1Because I love her and I want her to feel good.
She needs time to get used to it. You have to talk about it with her. Sometimes, words help a lot. She might also be self conscious about you going down on her (your face is right there, you see more when giving oral than when having sex). If she doesn't feel comfortable with your body because she isn't used to it that's normal. She may also be embarrassed by her lack of skill (at giving handjobs and blowjobs). All these are suppositions.
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