Hes more sexually experienced then me...I feel like I might be bad at sex.

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I have just started going out...we were practically best friends before so I do know who he's been with and how many girls and such. Lets just say he's a bit more experienced then I am at sex. I've only been with one guy...cuz I was with that guy for years. Lets just say we didn't try too much at all. I wanna have sex with my boyfriend but I'm afraid I won't be any good...and I'm not fat at all but I'm body conscious for some reason too. Like I don't like to put my body on display, like be on top and take over...i feel all weird simply because I don't know what to do. How do I get passed all of this? He said he'd teach me moves and such but now I just feel all lame...I feel like I won't be any good and he won't have fun. What can I do? I want to be able to get passed this and have fun sex with him because I know I have a high sex drive...I wanna be with him! Help!

[Simple-Simonette]

I think that if it's obvious that you're enjoying yourself then he will have no complaints at all. The key to being a great sex partner is to relax and enjoy what you're doing. It's hard to have a good time when you're constantly worrying about if you're doing it "right".

Don't focus on what you might be doing wrong - focus on how good it feels. Tell him it feels good, show him it feels good. And then return the favor.

I guarantee that with enthusiasm, you will erase all signs of awkwardness. Enthusiasm is hands down the biggest sex booster. By showing him he is doing an excellent job pleasing you, you will make him feel like a wonderful lover - and in turn be one yourself.

Good luck.

[prettypersuasion]

As a female, you can't be bad at sex. It's not possible. I mean, unless you literally just lie on your back and stare at the ceiling the entire time. Just take it slowly, start out with easy stuff. Missionary is good because he is in complete control. Just make sure he knows you're enjoying yourself and he will enjoy himself. You will start feeling more comfortable with him, I guarantee it. Pretty soon you will have no problem taking control.

[Asker]

But I did that with my old boyfriend and I still never fully got used to it...like taking control and even trying other positions. we always did missionary...but we didn't do it very often either, always fighting...maybe that's why I never got used to it.

[DoctorSex]

lol omg...did you just copy my comment word for word lol

[prettypersuasion]

It probably was because of the fighting, you need to feel completely comfortable with someone to be able to let go completely. If this kid was your best friend before you got together you should already feel really comfortable around him. It will take a little while to get comfortable with him while naked, I know but if you love him it will happen, don't worry. Just know that when you're with him, he's not nitpicking everything you do. Just relax and enjoy the ride.

[Asker]

lol yeah your right...I am comfortable around him now...and I'm sure I can get comfortable with him naked after a few times. I just wish I could relax about it...and actually enjoy the ride haha. I really don't wanna ruin it and I wanna please him...a lot! =)

[prettypersuasion]

@DoctorSex: I didn't see your answer, promise. But apparently great minds think alike, haha.

[Asker]

I agree you 2 have helped me a lot, thanks! =)

[Fruitloopes007]

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[DoctorSex]

you can't be bad at sex as a woman...its physically impossible, as long as you participate in it rather than looking like a frightened puppy. Enjoy what your doing...sex is fun incase you haven't heard, the less experiance you have, the sexier you are..thats my personal take on it lol

im a teacher in the bedroom...as a man ild hate to be a student.

[Asker]

lol I really don't like the fact of being a student...

[DoctorSex]

lol well you are my love!...unless your me and was born with mad hip action haha

[Asker]

your lucky! ha ha I want to please him...

[DoctorSex]

..then be the student and let him be the teacher lol simples x

[Asker]

lol okay I will let him teach me...he'll probably get a kick outta it anyways...I havnt had sex in forever and barely did before with my ex so I'm probably pretty tight still lol. I'm sure he'll like it right?

[DoctorSex]

...well I'm pretty much liking you over here so I'm sure he must litterally be roasting over there lol

[Asker]

haha! thanks for helping me! =)

[falendove]

If you have already told him, he's going to show you. Just try to relax and after a few times, you'll have fun.