How do I get him to take control?

I'm tired of being the one to initiate things. I want him to take control sometimes! Any guys out there know how I can get him to throw me on the bed and have his naughty way? I mean, he does initiate passively but I want that urgency. Do you think since we've been together almost 4 years it's gone for good?
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  • I haven't had this issue yet, really. I'm pretty good about being passionate, but the girl has to show enough interest first.

    See, the word "aggressive" when associated with guys can seem like a really bad thing. So when I talk about "aggressive" I don't mean abuse or hitting, of course.

    I think when girls were a little more aggressive with me in some ways, that was a big sign that I could be more aggressive ("frisky?") with them. My first girlfriend was good about that. I was really shy, but she'd let me know what was ok.

    I also think that when I was "rewarded" for being more aggressive, it rewarded us both. She liked it better because it made her feel like a woman, and that I was being more manly. It seemed more passionate to them, I think. So I'd get more signs of enjoyment. Heck, when I pushed a girl against a wall (I was careful not to actually hurt them, of course: I'd hold them, and let my arm hit the wall) I think that made them moan a lot faster than any other kissing I've done.

  • or play the bad naughty girl wouldn't do what you always do for him like a kiss in naughty part, unless give s you some wild sex from his wildest imagination let him . tell him you want him to take over to get deep. BUT BE CAREFUL not only you are trying arise his dominant character he may start imposing on certain decision in your life some go as far as hitting . o watch out tell him it just sex fantasy and after he become back the cool guy who lets you do things

Most Helpful Girl

  • i completely understand because my man is the same way. I just tell him what to do and it really sucks. I'd just start by telling him how you want it, etc. eventually, he'll start taking control. (about a week he'll get the picture) but, some guys are dominate (during sex) and sum are submissive, you get either or.

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  • talk to him and tell him how you feel and he should take the lead and became the master of his domain.