Is it normal for women to have a toy that is bigger than their boyfriend is?

[Anonymous]

The girl I've been dating and I have been using toys in bed for about a week and I said I wanted to see all the ones she had. She has three, an egg vibrator, a small vibrating dildo, and then the one I hadn't seen is ugh very large. The third toy the one she hadn't showed me is longer and thicker than I am down there. I'm just wondering if this means her fantasy penis is bigger than mine or if I should just not think about this at all. Do most girls have a toy bigger than the average man?

[selfishstars]

Well, I have a lot of different toys. I have some vibrators and dongs, and they tend to be smaller than my partner (and previous partners). That said, I find that we're kind of limited in size choice when it comes to dildos (which generally are supposed to look like a penis). The ones I own are all around 6-6.5" and a bit on the thick side, so they're obviously going to be bigger than a lot of men (considering average is 5-6" and there's certainly people smaller than that). It's not that I was like "Oh, I want to buy something that's larger than x inches", but that just seemed to be what was available. The variety of sex toys is definitely increasing, but there's still a lot of assumptions made about what women want when toys are created. Also, even if my dildo is x number of inches, I don't always use the entire length.. I use some of it to grip on to.

[beans]

No, it doesn't. It's just a toy. Do you only want girls who look like p*rn stars? I didn't think so. But you still watch p*rn and get turned on by it.

Having a large toy doesn't mean she only wants a large cock, and you watching p*rn doesn't mean you won't sleep with anyone who has anything smaller than a DD cup.

[Asker]

To be honest I really like B or C cups the best. There is such a thing as too big in my opinion. I get the point you made with your answer though. Thanks.

[G_GTom]

Or it could mean she wants a large penis, but it willing to settle for less if she gets other things to go along with it.

[saphirasilverwings]

No, it doesn't necessarily mean anything. But one thing to remember when it comes to toys is that they have to be big enough for the girl to hold onto it and angle it correctly. She probably isn't inserting inserting the whole thing.

[G_GTom]

How does that explain the thicker portion of the question?

[saphirasilverwings]

It doesn't. Never said it did.

[G_GTom]

Then I guess it does mean something :)

[saphirasilverwings]

No, I didn't say that either. I was just not referring to the thickness when I was talking about the length issue.

[Asker]

The answer was helpful to me, thanks. G GTom, I appreciate your interest in my question but there is no need for you to publicly analyze every girl's answer or to ask them to further explain their answers. I'm interested in what the girls think not what another guy thinks about all their answers. Plus I'm capable of reading between the lines and analyzing things myself. I mean no offense, I'm just sayin'.

[saphirasilverwings]

A lot of people say thickness matters more than length. I can't really give an opinion on that. But it would still not be the most important thing and there are always positions to help make a tighter fit etc.

[Asker]

It feels tight to me so I'm assuming it feels good to her. I guess I'm just surprised by the size of her toy and wondering if she expects men to be that big or what? lol. The answers here are helping me make some sense of this though.

[saphirasilverwings]

You really shouldn't worry. For the most part, men are much more concerned with size than women are.

[G_GTom]

I'm not sure if most girls have toys bigger than the average man. Women who like penises bigger than the average man, probably have toys bigger than the average man, which is probably the majority, but I'm not sure if that would be most women.

[Anonymous]

just a thought.

wouldnt a chick have a large toy just make her loose...

and then she wouldn't be able to enjoy the real thing as much as she could have?

i mean I don't know... = /

[Lis4Loca]

Masturbating with a toy des not make you lose. Does jerking off six times a day make you desensitized to sex? Didn't think so.

[Opinion Owner]

whoa whoa whoa. i know I am ignorant to the subject didnt have to say it like that...

[G_GTom]

Actually, too much jerking off can make me desensitized to the normal touch of a woman.

[Skippy13]

G GTom is absolutely right. I love it when people try to make a gut punch point only to realize that they are wrong.

[genevieve]

'I'm just wondering if this means her fantasy penis is bigger than mine' most girls don't really fantasize about penisses. However some prefer bigger, which doesn't mean you can't enjoy it with one who's smaller. I wouldn't really think about it.

[G_GTom]

" doesn't mean you can't enjoy it with one who's smaller" meaning you won't enjoy it as much.

[genevieve]

ehmm difficult topic, I can only talk for myself here but in general an average penis no deal breaker for any girl and the difference between average and bigger is not that big, but yes bigger is slightly more enjoyable.

[JHAYES317]

@genevieve would you cheat on a guy for a bigger dick if you were dating a guy with a below average dick?

[debsman]

My wife has a big vibrator too, but it does mean it replaces me. As much as she enjoys when I use the toy on her, she enjoys the real thing better.

[dudeman]

dude chicks have toys we have p*rn.

[Lis4Loca]

chicks have both :)

[BeccaBearx]

^ ^ ^ agreed!

[Anonymous]

if you had a "blow up" chick, would you want her to be tight or loose? big boobs or small? same sh*t man

[Anonymous]

Think about it this way - Dildo's don't have hands or mouths to add to the mix as well. All they have to offer is their length and width. But you can't replace a guy's ability to touch, caress, kiss, talk, lick, bite etc etc during sex with a plastic toy that's a bit bigger than the average man. It's no comparison. :)

[sweetlivy]

Please be quiet. Not everyone is in a relationship, you know. 😑

[Anonymous]

well...if you can pick the penis that's going inside you, you probably will pick the bigger one. But that doens't mean she doesn't want you