Why do guys always go for sluts instead of good girls?

[Anonymous]

I know sluts are easier to get in bed but honestly why wouldn't you want to be with someone who treats you well and will f*ck you too? So what, you have to work a little harder to get a good girl in bed but it doesn't mean she won't f*ck your brains out! Not only will a good girl do that, she'll give you a massage, f*ck you, and make you breakfast in the morning...so what is the appeal in sluts who'll lay there like dead fish and probably give you a disease?

[selfishstars]

Hello. I'm a slut. Here's why guys like me better than you:

1. I'm not judgmental and scornful about people who have different views about sex than I do.

2. I don't make guys "work" for sex---that's not to say I have sex with anyone and everyone who wants to---but it does mean that I don't try to use sex to control or exert power over men. I admit that I enjoy sex as much as they do and I view sex as a shared experience, not me (the girl) giving sex to a guy if he works (a.k.a. passes all my tests/games) hard enough to "earn" it.

3. My views on sex don't make me psycho. If a guy has sex with me, I'm not going to act crazy if things don't work out. I'm not disillusioned to think that sex = love.

4. I'm a nice person. Shocking, eh? In fact, I'm so nice that I'll have hot sex with a guy, give him a massage, AND I'd make him breakfast in the morning. I don't treat my partners poorly. I'm honest about my intentions, I don't lead people on, and I treat people with respect.

5. I don't "lay there like a dead fish". I have a lot of experience and I LOVE sex. I'm completely involved in sex, I'm very good at pleasuring other people, I'm adventurous and love trying new things, and I'm not self-conscious. I don't have unrealistic expectations of guys or sex, so sex can be fun without all the pressure.

6. I don't have any diseases to give anyone. Sorry to ruin your little theory here, but not all girls who are open about having sex have STDs. I engage in responsible and safe sex.

[adjey]

just curious howold are you andhow many serious relationships have you been

[selfishstars]

I'm 27 and I've had two serious relationships.

[Engji]

Dear, referring to yourself as a slut, is the first step to admitting you are one. By any means im not trying to insult you or your lifestyle since you chose it to be that way, but i do need to tell you sth. It doesn't even cross my mind that you aren't a good person, but making yourself too sexually available will make you feel worthless eventually, eventhough now you might feel strong, confident and worthy. Im not trying to make you feel bad, all i want is to tell you is that one day you ll get tired of this, and you ll persue a different lifestyle, as in a family, children, a decent job etc. and you ll understand how hard it will be for you to let go of the past. Sex is not everything and if made with someone you dont love, i guarantee you ll feel useless and violated. Your body is a gift, don't misuse it, because at the end you ll be the most hurt and you ll definetely regret.

[selfishstars]

This is a late reply, but I'll make it anyway. I'm turning 29 in a few days, and I still don't feel worthless. My worth is not dependent on how much sex or how many partners I've had. Sex plays very little role in my "lifestyle". If you assumed that I'm a "party girl" who is eventually going to want to settle down, that's not the case. I've never been a party girl. I have two university degrees, a great job, I have a wonderful partner who I've been with for years (who knows about my sexual history in detail and doesn't care!), we're not sure if we want children. I have never felt "used" or "violated" because I willingly participated in all the sexual activity I've had because I *wanted* to. It wasn't another person using me, it was me and another person engaging in mutually enjoyable sexual activity together. Should the people I've had sex with feel used and violated by me?

[kain7th]

Hey, don't mean to be off topic, but Hi selfishstars! hows it going? its kain6th :)

[selfishstars]

Hey kain! I'm doing well, thanks. How are you?

[kain7th]

I'm doing well. you should follow me so i can message you :)

[onlymusic1920]

@Engji exactly. They love pretending that it’s empowering. Just because you consent doesn’t mean low self esteem isn’t a factor. It most definitely is.

[onlymusic1920]

@kain7th lmao for sex 😂

[Anonymous]

guys when they are younger look for a girl who is a EASY to jump on them for sex so that they don't feel left out.

as long as the girl is letting them have sex with them, and is pretty that is all they want.

they do grow up and realize (at least some of them do), that the girl is sleeping with 50 other guys at the hotels (their guy friends tell them they see their girlfriend with other guys at holiday inn all the time). Then they start asking their girlfriend, are you sleeping with other guys?

then the girl will bring over 2-5 guys to sleep over at her bed while he is living with her and working over night shift. As she ignores him and sleeps with numerous guys he gets tired of being ignored. He will then tell her sex with her means everything, why is she sharing sex with so many other guys? She will respong, hey sex means nothing. Then she will soon kick him out of her mom's boyfriend's house where they both are there as whores. Then he leaves her, and begs her every day to come see him at his new apartment. She finally does 6 months later, with 2 other guys. They come to destroy his whole entire apartment. Then he leaves the city. He still messages her every day and lives to love for her, until some good girl comes and say "hey she was a whore/slut who treated you bad. Why are you still in love with her?" and he says... "because I'm a sh*thead"

that is a true story.

and that guy is with me.

[onlymusic1920]

Let these guys have their sluts. They all deserve each other.

[peace-love-couture]

Insecure girls always resort to names.Don't put others down because you can't get a man.

Anyways,the same damn reason girls always go for the bad boys and not the good guys.Unlike the rest of my unfortunate moronic gender,I prefer good guys.I laugh at girls who boohoo over their man cheating on them or treating them like sh*t.Go out with a piece of sh*t you'll get treated like a piece of sh*t

[Asker]

I'm talking about the guys who go home with the first drunk bitch who looks at them, if you ever got off your computer long enough to have a life maybe you'd understand

[peace-love-couture]

I associate with good guys.If you weren't so crazy,you might get a guy

[peace-love-couture]

I have a life gueya,hence why I'm not on here complaining about not being able to get a guy:)

[peace-love-couture]

Babe,I hung out with my friends yesterday:) Big areolas,whatever,bad personality,that's your problem:) I have friends,but then again,I don't come on here ranting about having no t*ts and not being able to get a guy

[foolycooly1001]

is there a way to report a comment? this ad hominem is incredibly insulting.

[peace-love-couture]

How is it insulting?

[onlymusic1920]

All guys like sluts so I have no idea what you’re talking about lmao. There’s not some “good guy” to find. Every “good guy” is just a piece of shit in disguise.

[onlymusic1920]

Seriously? I guess getting your brains fucked out 24/7 by everybody has destroyed your cells. It’s insulting because it says peace and love and you’re mad at good women for being tired of being shit on. Of course they feel that way. Because there are no good guys. They all go for sluts because it’s an easy lay. Good women have no problem getting men, it’s a problem keeping one once they find out you haven’t slept with an entire football team.

[Lucky1227]

The guy I am talking to right now actually said he would never marry a slut, but they are good for like 1 night of f***ing. I am more about marriage and a family so I would rather not be a disgusting whore but that is just me. And since I know he is going to marry me and we're gonna have a family I would rather not sabotage that by being nasty :)

[superdudeman]

Most men like women who are available. Meaning they take what they can get.

If your playing too hard to get, then there's going to be another woman around the corner who doesn't play hard to get at all.

Its not that we like girls that are easy, rather we don't like playing games.

Smart men and valuable men understand that in order to get "good" girls they have to play games, But most of the time we don't want to. IN fact all of the time we don't. But we know its a necessary evil.

The truth is most men are not valuable men, so most men are going to take what they can get.

The solution is not to play hard to get, not to play games, rather be genuine and honest.

Unfortunately most women are not like that.

Until you do that you are going to see guys you like going after sluts, Because

Unfortunately most men are not the types of guys who play that game.

[Asker]

Everytime I don't play games the guy's turned out to be a douchebag. I feel that some amount of games are necessary to find a guy that cares enough to put up with it.

[foolycooly1001]

incredibly good answer to question

[superdudeman]

Most guys are douche bags. A good man is hard to find, and so is a good woman. If everyone was awesome the divorce rate wouldn't be so high and there wouldn't be so many single people running around. Games are not necessary when it comes to women. When it comes to men they are because women think that games are necessary. Most men actually prefer honesty, that's why many of them come up and say "your hot" or "i like you" in the first 2 seconds of meeting you. Its creepy, but its honest.

[onlymusic1920]

Lmao instead of trying to make it profound and it isn’t… just say: guys like sluts and leave it. Good women don’t play mind games, hence being good women. You just want an easy lay, which is fine, just say that. Good women not screwing anything and everything isn’t a “game” that’s just self esteem and self worth you’re seeing. I know you’re not used to it. Lol. Not being easy to get in bed isn’t a game. Are y’all okay? (Rhetorical) lmao. If not being a slut is “playing a game” well then fck it, BINGO! I guess. Lmaooo.

[onlymusic1920]

Guys do not prefer honesty because they aren’t honest themselves. Look around. They bash hoes constantly and then chase after hoes in the same breath while for some reason dragging good women into it by pretending to want them. Y’all are sick in the head. I wish sluts and males altogether would leave good women alone and in peace. Nobody is jealous of STD riddled sluts and ACTUAL good women aren’t falling for y’all’s games and confusion. Anytime I hear a guy pretend he wants a good girl, I call him out. Stop playing with good women. Just leave them alone and go find your slut. It’s normalized now. Nobody is judging. So just do it and stop wasting good women with self esteem’s time?

[SoberIrishman]

I don't understand it either. I stay away from the sluts. I guess I break the mold because I find a girl with respect for herself a hell of a lot more worth my time and energy than a girl that'll hop on any d*** attached to a semi attractive face. I fell in love with my ex because she wasn't a slut, she had her own values that made her special. She didn't fall into the slut category at all.

[onlymusic1920]

Yeah yeah. Sure.

[saphirasilverwings]

FINALLY, the flip side of the "Why do girls always go for jerks instead of nice guys?" question has been asked.

[Americanman]

Guys don't always go for sluts, I never do. I can think a girl is hot but if she seems slutty to me I won't touch her. Part of it is I know she isn't serious about a relationship and the other part is fear of STDs. When I was young I accidentally fell for slutty girls because they gave me attention first and I thought they liked me but now I know that was just an attention seeking game to them and I recognize and ignore girls like that right away. If I was a jerk I could take advantage of the attention they crave and use them at the same time they're using me but I just don't like that.

[onlymusic1920]

According to this other idiot on here. Good women are the ones playing mind games. 😂😂 simply because they’re not slutty. 🤦🏼‍♀️

[Betwyn]

Honey, most "sluts" aren't dead fish.

Guys have fun with them for a reason.

They are fun.

[onlymusic1920]

Yep. Fun and disgusting. But have at it. Good luck with your gangbang.

[moaterboat]

You have to realize that "sluts" are not only easier to get into bed, but they are easier to talk to, easier to flirt with, easier to ask for phone numbers, easier to ask out on a date, and easier to feel comfortable with. That is because the girls that you label slutty, are often far more outgoing than most "nice girls".

Believe it or not guys are not too keen on rejection, and when most of the "nice girls" are all sitting around a table at a bar facing each other instead of everyone else, not making eye contact, and generally being very timid, the "slutty girl" is up by the bar flirting with the bartender, joking around with strangers, and doing shots with people she just met five minutes ago. So if you were a guy, looking to meet a special someone, which one would you feel more comfortable approaching?

[noone22]

Moaterboat... you're an idiot. Girl! Ignore this comment. This is the perfect example of why you don't meet nice guys at a bar. You're probably looking for love in the wrong places. This guy above probably sleeps around and that is why he looks for the hoe of the night instead of the girl of his dreams. Look at his name. It had man wrote written all over it. Guyssssss pay attention... Just like you good girls don't wanna settle down with hoes either. Like ewwww have respect for yourself.

[onlymusic1920]

Lmao I’m not timid. Just go find your slut and stop pretending good women are the problem.

[pandaninja]

same reasons that girls go for the badboy assholes and not the sensitive goodyguy

[onlymusic1920]

Bad boys repulse me and can’t go for what doesn’t exist. Y’all pretend to be good and as soon as you don’t get what you want from the good girl right away… slut time.

[foolycooly1001]

so every married woman you know was or is a slut? it's silly to say guys always go for sluts.

[Asker]

no, they're the girls who had to wait until guys got tired of sluts

[foolycooly1001]

the average age of marriage for men is about 25.

[onlymusic1920]

It’s accurate. Just because they’re married doesn’t mean they aren’t sleeping around with sluts. Males are not to be trusted.

[Riverrunner]

The men going for sluts are just looking for sex. They don't go for you, the good girl, because they know you won't give out, which is good & I respect you for it. Don't change for men, wait for the right one who is looking for the right things.

[Johno]

What? Have a slut instead of a good girl! NO FU-KING WAY!

Give me a smart good girl every single day of the week. Twice on Thursdays please!

There is NOTHING a slut can do that a good girl cannot. Ask a good girl for something and of course reciprocate and you will get what you want and desire ALL the time ;-)

Regards,

Johno

[onlymusic1920]

Yeah yeah. So y’all say. Whatever.

[virgininla]

Your confused.

Guys will date and screw around with sluts but we aren't going to marry them.

We marry nice girls, we fool around with sluts and bad girls.

[onlymusic1920]

Yeah and while you’re married to the good woman. Ugh. No thanks.

[jenn33]

we still don't know what constitutes a slut.

[onlymusic1920]

Yeah we do. Lmao

[IBeOndat]

I think that girls and guys are attracted to confident and fun people.

[onlymusic1920]

Guys are attracted to everything but only wants what will let them fck.

[Anonymous]

You're annoying.I can see why you are single and why no guy is with you.You're a bitch and you're rude.iluvcartman,stop coming on here ranting about having no boobs and not being able to get a guy even though you work at hollister or a&f

[Anonymous]

you're iluvcartman.you are a bitch

[onlymusic1920]

Just go get a slut and an std and shut up lol