Guys, is giving oral sex a sign of trust or love?

[Anonymous]

From what I'm told, the majority of men enjoy giving oral sex, but what does it really mean to you? Could you give oral to a friend? One-night stand? Repayment for the girl giving you oral? Does it have to be someone you really trust or have strong enough feelings for? When you do give oral, do you expect to have the favor returned?

[Reginelli]

To me it means I am really close to her and care about her. And that I also really want to make her feel good.

I maybe could give oral to a friend if she was really close and was in a situation where she really wanted it done but didn't have a boyfriend or anything.

I wouldn't do it for a one-night stand because I wouldn't feel close to her like that. I don't think would have a one night stand anyway.

I wouldn't just do it as repayment. But if I was close enough to a girl for her to do oral on me I am also probably willing to do it for her too.

For me it has to be someone I have feelings for and also trust.

When I give oral I don't expect anything in return. My last girlfriend didn't want to give oral at first but I still did it to her. Even though she did come around on her own without me asking.

[Asker]

It's only polite to return the favor, more so if you love the person. I'm not sure why most girls have a problem with giving BJs. I always thought the penis to be really attractive and fascinating part of a male's body.

[Reginelli]

Sounds good. Most girls should think like that.

[l-hedoniste]

I give oral sex if I think she might like it, one-nighter or long-timer. I expect reciprocation the way I expect reciprocation generally, on everything.

[Asker]

Really? In a one-night stand? Usually it's suppose to be self interest for most people. If a guy went down on me in a one-nighter, I'd think he wants something more solid between us. Aren't you scared of that?

[l-hedoniste]

I'm not scared of it because the thought just wouldn't occur to me. With a one-nighter, we're both horny; I get her off, she gets me off, we're happy. No complications.

[Asker]

What if it's a girl you're getting to know as a potential GF? If you knew she liked you would going down on her be your way of saying "I want something more"? Or is it just pure heat of the moment?

[l-hedoniste]

Pure heat of the moment. Sex is about what works for her sexually, period; I don't fill my head with other stuff.

[Asker]

That would so give me mixed signals.

[l-hedoniste]

Maybe you want to explain to partners: "You could eat me out, but then that would make you my boyfriend." That would sure put the brakes on me.

[Asker]

Hah! It's not like a want a commitment at that exact moment. However, if you stick your head between my legs while your tongue is licking my vagina, you can't just feel NOTHING after that. It's a very intimate place...being nude is a very vulnerable situation.

[l-hedoniste]

True, but I don't get what the mixed signals are. I'm down there because I like you and want you to feel good. Why would I not do that, why would I hold that back?

[Asker]

That's where I'm getting at. Since you like that person it means you have some sort of feelings for her. Obviously, no guy would instantly fall in love, but it makes you question a future, no? What I was thinking is you would go down on a girl and never talk to her again. That's a mixed signal.

[l-hedoniste]

I would talk to her again, sure; if my head was in your crotch, I consider us on speaking terms. A future...? A good lay isn't necessarily a good partner, so oral wouldn't really answer any of those kinds of questions. Not for me, anyway.

[Asker]

Understandable. Who could reject a face full of vagina? Good vagina at that! :3

[Kiki25]

A friend of mine recently performed oral sex on a guy she liked a lot but who wasn't all that interested in her. Now he's treating her like shit and she's taking it really hard. She worries that he thinks she's a slut. What's going on in his tiny head?

[Johno]

That's a good question!

I certainly believe it means you are closer to your partner. specifically if you've not been together long it can be for the lack of better words a "Line that has to be crossed"

[Asker]

So if I girl decides to go down on you, it's about as common as having sex. However, if you decided to go down on her (ie. after less than a month of casual dating) it's you're way of saying you want a monogamous relationship?

[Johno]

I'm not sure I'd word it quite like that but it has to count for something don't you agree?

[Asker]

Hah. I'm not a guy so I can't really word it better. None the less, I agree that a connection has to be there.

[Johno]

I totally agree honey. When that connection is made things become comfortable, natural and a whole lot more enjoyable I think you will agree ;-)

[Asker]

I concure. =P

[Metal189]

no, not cheating, is a sign of true love.

[s1ipp3ry]

I won't have sex a second time with a woman if she failed to satisfy me oraly.. and I wouldn't ever trust her not even with money I'd be in a hurry to get her out of my house... I simply do not trust women that dont give blow jobs they clearly aren't with me for the sex, and have no interest in my penis what so ever, you can tell by their lack of actions.