Is it OK to let my boyfriend let another woman give him a blowjob?

Question

OK so I'm a virgin and I don't want to have sex until I am for sure that me and the person I have sex with are honestly in love with each other. I understand that my boyfriend sometimes gets really horny' but I'm just not ready to have sex with him yet. I've been ate out and fingered and I told him when I am ready I will let him do that to me but we can't have sex. And I will not give him a blowjob. However I will give him a hand job( never did one before so he will teach me). So would it be that be enough? If not I was think maybe I can tel  him he can have another woman give him a blowjob as long as I get to meet her. Do you think he will agree? Why or why not? Would you agree?

Subotai · Accepted Answer

whos this other girl who will just take care of that boner for ya,  because I'd like to meet her.    Most women view a blowjob as a warm up to sex and are dissapointed and unsatisfied only giving a blowjob as it doesn't provide her with any sexual pleasure, or perhaps hope to get a little head herself, when you meet this girl to pre approve her are you gonna make it clear she is merely to be a warm mouth hole for your boyfriend to get off in, in order for him to stay satisfied with you.  It sounds like you want him to be happy a line I have heard from girls who dumped me before they meant it they don't hate me butt they don't wanna be with me.  I talk with one of my ex girlfriends sometimes and she's cool like one of my male friends whether I'm tellin her about getting laid last night or tellin her I met a girl who I wanna take home to my mom she's happy to hear I have found happiness with ANother woman, she ain't jealous she's the one who broke it off maybe hearing that I am having luck helps her not feel any guilt.  Either tell him your not the one for him or just give him a blowjob is my advice don't be lying in bed planning your life with him while he's in bed  with another woman,you "approved".  If you are encouraging him to go to other women to satisfy his physical desires because you don't want him in that way ask yourself if you really want a romantic relationship at all.  I certainly not telling anyone to be a "slut" but is this whole wait till marriage thing a good idea?  If you believe in marriage you probably don't want to get a divorce so its best I think to find out if you two fit together in every way including sexually before you find yourself with the same last name the same roof the same bank account and the same kids

Hartmut · Accepted Answer

Perhaps you should take a moment to consider the precedent you could be setting if you allow this. Let him get blown by another woman once, chances are he'll expect it to happen again. Would you be comfortable with that?

As for the other part of your question, I'm sure he'd be happy with the occasional handjob until you feel ready for intercourse, but, out of curiosity, why do you not want to give him a blowjob?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not a smart thing to do. He should wait if he really loves you. It will interfere your relationship a lot and bother you a lot, can get you heartbroken in the future. He might agree but at the same time possibly won't be happy with the decision you had made. From my own personal experience, he will think you don't trust him or something. Guys hate it when their girlfriends don't trust them. Don't bother telling him that. There are plenty of fishes in the sea, you can dump him and find someone better who will be more serious about you than he is.

Kmichelle1 · Accepted Answer

This is a terrible idea.  You seem to think that there is something wrong with you because you do not want to have sex.  You should be proud of yourself and any man who cares about you should be able to respect that.  If he really cares, he would be happier to receive a hand job from a woman that he cares about (you) than to go get something more from some anonymous woman that he feels nothing for.  Stick to your morals and be proud of them.  If he has a problem with it, then he is not the right guy for you!

jenlovee · Accepted Answer

i wouldn't let another woman give him a blowjob. honestly, I give my boyfriend blowjobs and it gets pretty intimate to the point I would never want anyone else doing anything to him sexually.

talk to him about it, but I think that's a foolish thing to say that another woman can give him a blowjob. if you really want to lose him, go for it. but I'm sorry if you let another woman give him a blowjob, he will most likely dump you...

peace-love-couture · Answer

He's a guy,of course he'll agree haha.Bj is a bj regardless of who it is coming from lol

TonyMetal25 · Answer

i really don't understand what's the point, it seems like your a good girl but somehow your a little shallow minded "sorry for saying that" cause I didn't found the right words, I means how in hell would you let your man be with another girl no matter what? girls sometimes kills when they find their men with other girls...your actually wanna push him for another girl, if he really loves then no matter what he wanna do then he must do it with you and if your not ready for sex then he should wait cause he won't die until marriage or until your ready and that's only if he truly loves you and never imagine himself with another girl...it's never OK for a man or a women to be with someone other then the person they love...

dave216 · Answer

Do you like this boyfriend? If so, dump him immediately so he can find a new girlfriend. You are apparently sexually insane.

curiosa18 · Answer

hell no! who in their right mint who really loves the other person would consider that. if he really likes you he'll wait I know men that wait for a year or 2 they won't die.. they have hands for that also!

20Questions · Answer

Honey you have already been having sex, just no intercourse yet. Personally I can't imagine letting another woman suck my d*** when I already have a lady...

G_GTom · Answer

This is unacceptable.

emzy-89 · Answer

no way. any kind of sexual contact you have with someone when you are in a relationship with another is wrong.

legslover79 · Answer

its just like asking is it ok if you got ate out by another guy. thats concidered cheating. if he really truelly loves you, he will wait

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Its OK to let another woman give him a BJ.

abc--123 · Answer

he will prob think its a test of his loyalty, and plus would be happy knowing that he is with other women when he is supposed to be with you?

s1991 · Answer

there is absolutely no way that that is OK. either he respects your boundaries and what you will give him or he gets nothing from you or anyone else. and if he has a problem with that...hes not worth it.

tosha-20 · Answer

Personally I don't think this is a good idea at all. If he accepts the "offer," then he's totally not worth your time. If you don't feel comfortable with sex yet I think you should find someone wiht the same feelings.