Things got a little carried away on our first date...

[Anonymous]

I went on a first date last night with a guy I really like. I think things got a little carried away... he slept over my house. We didn't have sex but I gave him oral and a hand job and he took my clothes off just leaving me in my panties. Do you think I'll be able to have a relationship with this guy? I know I should have waited to do that stuff with him, but it just happend. He seemed really affectionate, like he didn't just want to be pleasured and left. He cuddled me all night ect.

[dave216]

he slept over my house." How? Hot air balloon, on a tree limb? What you have stated is that he slept above your house. I doubt that you intended to tell us he slept above your house. Do you have weak language skills or are you colored? Many colored people deliberately use poor English both because their skills are weak and I believe they think it aids their cultural identity. I don't think you are in that category as you didn't make enough mistakes. You should perhaps be aware that those individuals who do have a fair grasp of proper speech will instantly view you as somewhat stupid due to your inability to speak properly.

As to your question, "Do you think I'll be able to have a relationship with this guy?" Isn't it a bit soon to be considering a relationship? You just had your first date. What you did was fine. I'm sure he had a nice time. I am a bit surprised he did not give you the same pleasures you gave him. That was a bit rude on his part.

" like he didn't just want to be pleasured" Well he did, but he has learned that if he is a bit reserved the female will resist less and he will get further than he otherwise would have. It almost seems as if your intention was to secure a relationship rather than enjoy a pleasant evening. :) That is the true male /female difference. Young guys are after a good time. They are not seeking a relationship. Girls just seem to have a very hard time grasping that concept, but that is how it is. If he has a good enough time he may hang around long enough for a relationship to form, but that is not what he came looking for. :)

[juice1]

Thats funny DAVE. But if you haven't realized, EVERYONE uses online/msm lingo when typing. It has nothin, (oh excuse me my color came out again) nothing to do with race.

[dave216]

Juice, you may be correct, I don't know for sure, but I hear the exact same wording used verbally on almost a daily basis. Don't you agree a person's speech is a very telling aspect of their mental abilities? In addition, we all have our weaknesses, mine is spelling. If not for spellchecker I would seem simi letierate at best.

[Asker]

Im not sure where you come from. But I live in Australia and everyone uses the term "slept over" if someone has a sleepover at your house. Yes I know it's a bit soon to stat a relationship. But I'm just wondering if I'm going to see him again for a second date. He did offer to pleasure me, but I didn't want him to do anything as I was on my period. So he gave me a massage instead.

[dave216]

Well, as I said before, I don't think you did anything wrong and even if you did, it was only one date. We all make many mistakes. If he wouldn't be willing to overlook one mistake, you wouldn't want him anyway. :) I wish you much happiness with him. :)

[Anonymous]

Well, it's a good sign that he stayed with you. I think that you can still have a relationship with him. Just make sure to let him know that you want your relationship to be more than just a one-time only affair.

[Anonymous]

Only time will tell.

Some people have sex on the first date and are still together years later. Some people don't even so much as kiss on a first date and never see each other again.

It all depends.