I have small boobs?

[Anonymous]

I read that guys associate big boobs with sex, but that when they fall in love, they don't care about breast size. Therein lies my issue! I came out of a draining, really long relationship a while ago... the last thing I want is another relationship, or love, or flowers, or a boyfriend or a man who is in love with me... but I'm not a nun either. I have needs. I just want casual flings, not that I'm a whore, but I want sex, of course, I'm human... however, it seems that my breasts condemn me to the "great boobs, IF he's in love with you" syndrome... meaning... for what I want, which is sex without love, my breasts will never be fully appreciated. Is this true? Do guys looking for sex prioritize for big breasts? And before anyone insists, NOOOOO I don't want to wait for a guy to love me, I'm sick of love and relationships, doesn't mean I don't have needs though!

[iluvcartman]

Yeah it's true. It's not impossible or hopeless or anything but girls with bigger boobs definitely have an easier time finding a casual hook up. Guys want girls they can brag to their friends about, aka girls with big boobs. When they hook up with a girl with smaller boobs their friends say something along the lines of, "Oh her? She has no t*ts," which makes the hook up way less important or interesting to them. But then there's the guys who'll sleep with anything that moves.

But I don't think it matters whether you're in a relationship or not, small boobs will never be good enough. The last, and only guy I dated (not a positive experience at all) constantly told me how much better I'd look if my A cups were C cups. Even if they're in love with you, small boobs will be that one glaring flaw that you'll always have to make up for by being perfect everywhere else. It's harder to get a guys attention with small boobs and it's harder to keep their attention. Like say you're in shape with small boobs, you make up for you're small boobs by being in shape but if you were to slack off and get fat then your boyfriend would be dating "the fat chick with no boobs" and sooner or later he'd get tired of hearing that...which is why I'll probably belong to a gym until I'm 60. Girls with bigger boobs generally have things easier and then act like their life is so hard because their back hurts (which can be solved by running over to CVS and getting some Advil).

[Asker]

Yeah, I think you've had too many bad experiences, trust me, we may think the grass is greener but it's not, yeah it gets annoying when busty girls complain about getting too much attention and back aches, but I think it's legit... we don't get it, same as they don't get why we hate getting practically no attention or how get annoyed that nothing gives us cleavage... Your ex was a jerk. And believe me, I think guys do like it when you're in shape, more so than being fat and busty.

[Asker]

I mean, it's great that you want to stay in shape, but I think guys prefer a small breasted chick than a fat but busty chick... of course we know they prefer a fit, busty chick, but there aren't many around... so yeah... But yeah, I guess we're stuck in the "girlfriend material only" category... at least there seem to be some guys who like exclusively small breasts, like Sober up there, so there's some hope.

[SoberIrishman]

Haha, hell yeah, also it's a scientic fact that small breasted girls that have boobs in the shape of pears are sexual deviants and are crazy in the sack. You can't get pear shaped breasts with big chested girls. :p

[iluvcartman]

The only problem with being girlfriend material (which I guess is a good thing sooner or later) is that you have to wait for guys to get their fill of having a trophy girlfriend or having sex with everyone else before they'll seriously consider a relationship with you, until then you're just their cute friend...unless you want to put yourself out there and have flings, but then you risk being called a slut, there's just no winning

[Cormycakez]

No. If all you want is sex, your good. Go to a club, flirt, meet the eyes of every one in the room... you'll find someone to take home... whoever told you that small breasts don't equal sex is very wrong. Actually there are many parts of the body to be associated with sex. Lets start at the top. Big eyes very sexy, arched brows make eyes look bigger and therefore sexier (be careful you don't make them matron arches though), lips are the approximate circumference of the female genitalia so wet (shiny) red lips are very sexy. Humans are the only animals to have sex face to face even primates do it back to front, so its thought that female breasts (no longer only for nursing young) were formed to resembled the butt. Yes, weird, but true, interestingly enough most women who have breasts are lacking in the booty area. The butt of course is sexy and so are legs, men are broken up into three groups of bodily attraction as are woman interestingly enough the same three groups... chest, butt, and legs. So figure out your favorite one or two of the three on your body and play up that one or two and tone down the other(s)... for example I have boobs, a fairly flat butt and awesome legs... so I play up my assets and try to make my stomach seem smaller and my butt seem bigger.

[Shannon_79]

Well, I have really big boobs myself, and yes, men assume I'm this hyper-sexual woman who wants to get it on all the time and get angry when they realize the fantasy doesn't live up to the reality. Women built like me can always get a man's attention. Men run after me, they talk about what they want to do to me in the bedroom. Women like me can always get a man, but rarely a husband...but I don't want sex.

Most guys that are looking for sex usually are looking for a woman to fulfill some fantasy idea of sex, like...a woman with big breasts. Most guys don't think a woman with small boobs are into sex and don't think of them as sexual beings.

Be honest and put it out there that you just want sex. Most of the time men don't care what a woman's body looks like. No man has ever gotten up and left because of how a woman's body looked. There's a naked girl in the room and he can have her, so why leave? Get it and have fun. As long as you tell guys all you want is something casual, they usually go for it.

[Asker]

Doesn't it suck that such a random trait like breasts can make or break what guys think of you? Like you for instance, it must suck that guys only think of you sexually, all the time... and for me, it sucks that they think I'm practically asexual... I love sex... Their loss I guess.

[Kheir]

This is total B.S. To put it in perspective answer this. "Are all women attracted to guys with big muscles or fast cars?" In case you wondered, the answer is no. Women have varied tastes in men, and in light of your question, certain body parts belonging to men. Guys are the same way, some like large breasts, some like small breasts, some like them in between. Some even like no breasts. Go figure, but it just proves that it doesn't matter if your male or female, people, and their interests are different. Fear not, if you just looking for a "friend with benefits" your probably not going to have much trouble finding one. I understand where your coming from though, relationships can suck, and after a bad one, you want nothing more than a "vacation" from them for a while. Enjoy yourself, just remember to be careful who you have fun with.

[tommiefromva]

You could make people aware that small boobs can be attractive too by showing just a little cleaveage. You'll be surprised at the attention you'll get.

[BlackBear18]

Guys love women with great beauty all over. A possible reason why guys might associate big breasts with sex is because guys want something that will put them in the mood to have sex and keep them in the mood to have sex or to keep going. A possible reason why guys might not associate big breasts if they're in love with a woman is because the guy is comfortable with all of the woman's physical weaknesses/flaws and feels that the entire woman is beautiful. Also if a guy loves a woman, he knows that the sexual experience will be great regardless of whether his woman's breasts are big or not because he knows that the previous sexual experiences were great before. I hope my advice has helped you somehow and best of luck in your love life.

PS: You have female boobs. Enjoy them.

[Darkfairie17]

The size of a girl's boobs is merely a preference. Stop reading stuff that tells you otherwise. There are pro's and con's to every feature on a girl. And if a guy really just wants a casual fling, he probably won't care what size your boobs are. Go out and show a bit of cleavage. I know that sounds kinda silly, but trust me, you will get more attention. And even try online too, because you can state you want just a fling, and there are probably guys on there looking for that as well.

Good luck!

[aestuum]

As a fellow member of the itty bitty titty committee, I have had no problems with hookups thinking my boobs are small. Usually guys only hookup with you if they think you are hot to begin with. I have a big ass, and consequently, most of the guys who flirt with me are self claimed "ass guys" so usually it happens organically that the men who flirt with you may like small boobs more than big ones. Don't worry, t*ts are t*ts and most of the time the guy is just happy he is seein a pair

[Mixed28]

I am more into a girls butt then boobs. I like a girl with a bubble butt!

[shana_2011]

Actually most of the guys I know go for a girl with a big ass and a flattering figure. I don't think the size of your boobs really matters...as long as they aren't completely flat like a man's. Also, guys like a girl who smells good with a pretty smile. However, looks only go but so far. Guys also look to a girls personality. Whereas one guy might like the shy girl type, another may like the outgoing type. I know when it comes to me , a lot of my guy friends compliment me for being "one of them". like I look feminine but at the same time I am able to laugh along with their jokes and do some of the things they do...Hope this helps.

[peace-love-couture]

Attractive is attractive to guys,regardless of breast size.Can't blame t*ts for not being able to get a guy.You're a girl,big boobs or not getting laid is your choice.

I'm sure you're waiting for guys on here to bash big breasts

[Asker]

Um, no. Quit making assumptions. Just cause I have small breasts doesn't mean I'm a bitter bitch who hates big breasted women. I've just read in many places that "a guy who loves you will like your small breasts, but they are more attracted to bigger breasts even for just sex" or that sort of advice... and I'm not looking for a guy who loves me, so hence this question...

[peace-love-couture]

Never said you were bitter. Dress like you want sex,not a relationship.Want sex,dress like you want it,act like you want it,want a relationship,act like you want one

[toulouse]

Off subject^^ Evangelina in your opinion what does a woman who wants a relationship act like? I've never wanted one but guys always think I like the so I'm wondering if I'm doing something that's giving them that impression, oh um not trying to remold myself- its purely out of curiosity that I ask :)

[peace-love-couture]

Act like?Well,my point was there's a difference between a woman who wants sex and who wants a relationship.If she wants sex,she has to exude sex appeal,act sexy,act confident,walk confidently,be comfortable in her own skin.If she wants a relationship,go for genuine guys,get to know them and progress from there.If you want a ONS,you go a club,want a relationship,someplace that holds your interest like a concert,coffee shop,library,through friends.Less sexy,but not dull old lady like.

[Reggie1]

There is a very small, primal part of the male brain that wants a blond with big breasts and wide hips because these characteristics mean she is more likely to be youthful and fertile. If you are hooking up with an ape, he'll be looking for a girl who can balance a beer on them, but if he doesn't drag his knuckles on the ground, you'll be fine.

Personally, I find the smaller size more pleasing to the eye anyway, but each to their own.

[The-Romanian]

Why do people get into this mindset? Yes, you had a non-pleasant relationship. But, why is it it appears your automatic thought is to get with random partners? Why not just go get a toy that would do what you want it to do until you've gotten out of your slump?

[Asker]

Because it's not the same. Is masturbating to p*rn the same as being with another person? I mean, as a woman, I love kisses caresses and being licked all over, no toy can provide that. And probably years will pass before I feel like getting into a new relationship. I'm SICK of love and heartbreak and commitment. Is that such a crime? You didn't even answer my question.

[The-Romanian]

No, pleasuring yourself to p*rn doesn't appeal to the other senses. But, it does the trick to "un-stress" yourself,&conserve. Your between 18-24. It won't be years. It'll just be someone who will sway you the right way, that you'll convince yourself you don't need. You want an answer? For the one one night stand I had, no. I didn't really give a damn what she looked like, or what her tit size was, or who the hell she even was. Wish I would've, though. 'Cause then I wouldn't have done it. :))

[toulouse]

ok she doesn't want a relationship she's asking about breasts,

[The-Romanian]

No duh..?

[Marshall33]

I prefer small breasts anyday to larger ones so I do not think it applies per say - your steroetype of what constitutes attraction to a would be lover. You just to find a way to make a man curious about what he does not see - matter of speaking. Flirting styles play more into sexual attraction than breasts do but of course a little visualization to induce imagination f what he is missing goes a long way. It is not the size that counts but what you show you can do with them.

[makesumwake]

spend your time with productive things like staying in shape.

i would take a girl who is in shape and no boobs, over a chubby girl with big boobs, any day, anytime, no matter how drunk I was :)

a girl in shape wearing cloths that show it off = instant massive sex appeal, much greater than boob size.

you can fix boobs easy, its harder to fix a lot of other things, consider yourself very lucky if this is your main concern.

that being said, the ultimate turn on is a girl who is in shape with at least B-C boobs.

too big looks stripper/trashy, don't do that.

[Joey_Wheeler]

For purely physical relationships, there are only 3 sizes of breasts..

- A mouthful

- A handful

- A waste

Any part I can't reach with one hand is a waste of time. I don't need or want them any bigger.

[SuperCurious]

I don't belive that because its not like a guy expects to fall in love right off, so in the beggining b4 love he wants you, small boobs and all, and not all guys like big boobs lol some like butts :)

[Inthemightyjungle]

Isn't it funny how much of these guys thinks that guys liking certain breast size and girls like certain penis size correlate? Girls could give a sh*t about your penis size nor do we like to check you out. Unless your really hot we'll all whisper and check you out. But girls are not as visual brained as men. Go to school guys! You'll learn this. Of course a guy has to be attractive, but we look for traits such as health, and competency. We are hardwired to be attracted to certain traits that are gene pool is missing, or traits that will heighten the quality of our gene pool. Tall, smart, kind, funny, good eyes, and healthy. Penis size does not matter, nor does muscle size.. I actually think guys look pretty gay when they have big arm muscles, like they go to the gym and lift weights constantly. TO me, that tells me that a personality trait is missing, so he is over compensating.

[dave216]

Well rest assured not all men gravitate to the big ones. I definitely prefer small ones. I don't object to a B, but if I were designed the perfect woman, she is an A. That's between AA and B right? Since you have small boobs you are almost certainly slim and trim to go with them. That being the case, you will have no trouble finding plenty of "friends" :) But be careful, there more at stake than a bad reputation so take all precautions. :)

[kriskiss]

you want sex without love. that's an odd thing to say especially for a girl. me personally I love flat chested women. Why because I don't care about boobs to begin with and second the girls who are best in bed are definitely the flat chested women. I don't know why maybe they feel they have to make up for something because they have small breasts. but man are flat chested girls good in bed they can get busy like there's no tomorrow.

[insanity]

the capabilities of a girl in bed is not measure by the size of her breast.

[kriskiss]

no kidding you just totally missed my point..forget it.

[Asker]

At least there's someone out there who appreaciates small boobs, insanity... at least let us small chested girls enjoy that, whether you like it or not.

[kriskiss]

yes I do like it as I initially pointed out in my first answer to you I love flat chested gils..if you want a personal opintion you can e mail me a pic of your boobs. I'm kind of curious now.

[insanity]

yeah right forget it . I missed your point because there was none made.

[kriskiss]

ahh you're no fun. I'm not askin for you face...just your boobs...was gonna give you my opinion OK thenhave it you way

[kimberlymyra]

I get your point, as I am flat chested and have been told I'm good in bed. I guess I did always work harder with flirty, being sexy, body language, etc. in order to get a guys attention. I learned to appreciate my body and have found that guys follow this lead. I haven't ever had trouble attracting men, I am cute but not drop dead gorgeous. It's all in the attitude.

[kriskiss]

Yo go girl...

[everyguy]

Here's your solution go out an buy those Victoria Secret bra's one size or two size up bra. Most hook ups don't even bother with taking the bra off during the hook up. It's just sex not a relationship. And if you do take it off and your taking off the rest of your clothes the guy still won't care and he won't send you home packing. I know plenty of chicks who do the puch up / padded thing and go from a A to a D. They never fell like they've tricked the guy and the guy is happy too.Even I don't care. In regards to breast size equaling a relationship. I don't believe it. All the guys I know choose to be with women who want to be with them. We're just happy to know the girl is into us.Also, there are plenty of dating sites for people who want a casual encounter and I've never seen boob size or pictures of breasts being the focus there.

[KERMlT]

I'll admit that the girls get my attention.

[TryingToBeHonest]

I'm not one to go looking for sex, but I just don't really like big breasts in general. So, if I was, I'd have no problem with your breast size.

[IHateMeganFox]

I'm gonna be honest. I like big boobs, I think they are sexy. Most chicks with small boobs have beautiful faces, and all the guys from where I live don't give two craps about boob size so I'm not sure where your getting this from. I like my men to like big boobs because I have them and I'm honestly really happy I was blessed with my boobs but guys don't care about bobs if you have a pretty face and a nice personality.

[Asker]

Of course you like your guys to like big boobs! It's only natural. I like my gusy to like small boobs BETTER than big boobs, but I have had a tough luck finding them. Trust me, it's difficult. Girls with big boobs ALSO have pretty faces, you're pretty so you have the best of both worlds for guys. Aside from these guys online, I've NEVER met a guy who PREFERS small breasts... and nothing sucks quite like having a boyfriend ignore your t*ts in bed and then ogle every other busty chick...

[Asker]

Oh and also it's just a matter of looking at men's magazines and all. Most have girls with big breasts on them. There's no question as far as I'm concerned that bigger is better, otherwise you wouldn't have Victoria's Secret shoving super push up bras with massive padding all the time down small breasted women's throats... why would they invent a bra that make syou look 2 cups bigger? Because men like bigger better. Too bad it's all just false advertising.

[Asker]

And for what it's worth... I like your name :)

[IHateMeganFox]

Well thanks, but I don't agree with this. Most girls want bigger boobs so they make those damn bras but the V.S models don't even have big boobs. The guys I come across all want a nice butt which I'm sure you have and there are guys that like small boobs maybe it's just where you live? But there are guys you just have to keep looking.

[Asker]

Yeah, I'm sure. I guess we all just have to make the best of what we got.

[IHateMeganFox]

Yep I agree. :) I'm actually surprised by all of this because It seems like girls with small boobs get all the guys.

[snowboarder720]

actually size really doesn't matter much to me. I have been turned on my smaller boobs, it is possible to meet a guy that likes your chest just the way they are. I like small boobs because then they have the right form, ya know? Bigger isn't always better, I hate droopy boobs.

I can't tell you what situation your in, but I bet your just over conscientious about your apperance and they look just fine lol