Whats considered foreplay?

is there anything specific that is considered to be foreplay. foreplay, for the most part is needed to make sex less painful but I'm just wondering what type of stuff goes into it. does oral/fingering ALWAYS have to happen in foreplay? I don't mind giving it or receiving it but I've seen many girls (and some guys) say they hate doing oral/fingering/hj's. does this cause a problem when trying to have sex...


Most Helpful Girl

  • As everyone has mentioned, foreplay is anything you do before intercourse (to get you in the mood, make sex less painful (as you've mentioned), and of course, it has value and pleasure in itself as well. There isn't a set definition for acts that are considered foreplay, and no rules about what acts you have to do when engaging in foreplay. Sure, oral, fingering, and handjobs are types of foreplay, but if a person and their partner don't enjoy these things, they don't have to do them. Foreplay could be giving each other massages, taking a bath or shower together, masturbating in front of each other where the other person isn't allowed to touch, talking dirty/sharing fantasies, watching p*rn together, sending each other dirty text messages when you know you'll be seeing each other later on, going out to dinner together and having your partner not wear any underwear so that you're both feeling naughty, heavy make-out sessions or "dry humping"... The possibilities are endless, really, and to be honest, I think that things that tease can be better foreplay than actual physical, genital-stimulating acts (and can make things like oral or fingering/handjobs themselves better, if they are something you and your partner like to do).


What Girls Said 4

  • oh boy, why is foreplay needed to make sex less painful? to get lubricated naturally? try lube if you wanna skip out on the foreplay. I thought foreplay was too increase the sexual pleasure. Foreplay is anything that stimuates a man or woman before they have sex? from teasing, to kissing their bodies, to oral to, fingering or, whatever you get the point. I pretty much always start with foreplay, it turns me on and gets me ready. you can be creative and do other things but finger and oral, roleplay or just a intense makeout session could even be so.

    • it does intensify pleasure but..it also makes sex less painful. that is all I was making a point out of. but I just wanted to know what foreplay was consisted of


    • whoaaaa. turn caps off. lol. and ok

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    • wtf, why do you need to type in caps for school and work. it looks like you're shouting to them

    • Not that big of a deal...

  • If I'm into a guy a heavy make-out session is enough to get me ready for sex. Oral and fingering isn't a must for me but I would assume that every girl will get turned on by slightly different things.


What Guys Said 2

  • Foreplay is anything sexual prior to intercourse.

    "does oral/fingering ALWAYS have to happen in foreplay?" No.

    Talk to your girl, experiment, find out what works.

  • drinking wine is also part of the foreplay agenda.

    • technically in a sense you could say that. since..wine does have stuff in it that can "get you in the mood"