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Is it bad to give a "dry" hand job?

Hey I was wondering if it is bad to give a dry hand job (hand job without any lubrication)? What if you are in the moment making out and start to reach down to give the guy a hand job? Is it OK to just do it dry? It seems really strange to abruptly stop everything & get something to lubricate it. I've heard you can use spit...but to me, it seems weird to out of nowhere spit your hand...and I am not intending on using my mouth. What do you think? What are your experiences with this?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • You can hurt your guy by giving him dry hand job. Way not giving him something amazing: First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.

    It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.

    Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death.

    Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.

    A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.

    When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.

    Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning.

    Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes.

    Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually, by clicking on the link

  • Its okay to give a dry handjob, but the more slippery the better.

    You can try giving him a handjob dry at first, but if you are going to use more friction, lick your hand and make sure you put enough saliva on it, and then continue with the blowjob.

  • I would never do it. I'm sure it doesn't feel well at all haha, it's probably along the lines of if someone fingered you without lube. Go with the safe bet and do it wet :P

    Guys feel free to correct me if I'm wrong :)

Most Helpful Guys

  • oh no no no! doing it dry will hurt the dude because you might tear the skin that is connected between the **** head and the shaft... always lubricate for better experience...

    once me and my girlfriend was making out, then she started to masturbate for me.. I like it rough and I always get a really wet blowjob but this time she was lazy to get it wet... so she just started to masturbate me hard and it was getting more and more hurtful... I wasn't enjoying anymore but more like trying to bear the pain... it felt like she was cutting the little piece of skin just beneath my **** head that was connected with my shaft with a her freaking nails.. it was so painful that tears filled my eyes.. after awhile I couldn't stand it as the pain just got worst and worst.. and when I asked her to stop, her hand had blood on it.. what happened was the skin tat was attached to my cockhead and shaft tore and there was a big cut.. the skin on my shaft was like red and blood was sipping out of it.. though not much but it has the burning sensation.. so my advice is always lubricate.. at least with spit or p**** juice..

    hope tat helped.. urz truly..

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  • It really depends on the guy, I think. Personally I'm cool with it, but the technique is a little different. I'd say go for it, but make sure you keep a close eye on your guy. Maybe even ask him what feels good. Guys are happy to help you out, especially if you're going to pleasure us.

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  • Of the guy is uncut, then lube is not needed.
    Their skin will slide over the thing.

  • No lol. Not dry. Totally spit on it. It's not weird, at least to me. I actually think it's pretty hot lol. The more spit the better. Usually you'll only have to spit a couple times because eventually the pre-cum will start flowing.

  • It would appear that circumcision status should be considered. If he is not circumcised, he needs no lube. It seems if the guy is cut, he wants some lube.

  • I've never have been given a hand job with any sort of lubricant. I don't think it really matters, but hand jobs have never been a real big thing in my mind either - they just don't do it for me - so I may not be the best person to ask.

    • Just remember to be gentle! It's easy to accidentally be too rough dry.

  • "It seems really strange to abruptly stop everything & get something to lubricate it."

    Strange? If she stops and reaches for the lube, it means I'm getting a handjob (or a prostate massage, if I was into that sort of thing). That's not strange, that's hot!

    As for dry handjobs, ask--some like it, some don't.

  • i won’t cum. i’ll end up asking you to suck me off

  • ive never had a lubey handjob its always been dry, it feels amazing but it can hurt if the girl dosn't know what she is doing.

    i don't think it would kill the mood if she stopped to lube up. although if my girl suddenly got out some lube and said I was in for a treat, anal would be my first thought not a handjob.

  • I never used any lube and no need for it.
    Thats why we have a foreskin. For it to slide better and give more pleasure. Sometimes lube can help, but if there is no need to used, then why use it.

    Specially if you giving a quick handjob and you know he won't be able to wash it/take a shower in the next few hours.
    It is just disgusting to have a lubed penis inside your pants

  • yes its bad to give a dry hand job to a guy as it can hurt the guy and also could tear the skin that just between the penishead and shaft never give a guy a dry handjob end off

  • yeah get it wet with your mouth

  • It probably isn't bad, but lube would make it easier.

  • For taste and lubrication longevity you can go to Walmart and get the Cheap Lubrication, it works perfect for anything oral or non oral application and doesn't taste like crap and works excellent

  • Dry is fine you just have to do it a little different. Instead of using your whole hand and sliding up and down like a wet hand job just use two fingers and your thumb around the shaft and grip tight enough so that the skin moves with your fingers and your fingers are not sliding over the skin which could cause some irritation. I usually give myself dry hand jobs so I'm not sure why some guys think it is so bad lol. I think dry is actually a stronger sensation and can make me orgasm faster.

    • Ok I really need your help! My guy friend has given himself hand jobs in from of me. And I'm as little nervous since I'm not to experience And he barely wets his hands when his precum is all out. How do I do that so I can make him feel good and make him cum... Plus he knows I haven't given a blowjob and I don't want to start now ! Help please

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