Is it bad to get revenge on a guy who gave me an STD?

[Anonymous]

So I had a best guy friend that I grew up with. We've always been absolutely just friends! We're both in college right now and about 2 weeks ago, he told me that he has loved me forever and he will marry me one day, and he leaned over and kissed me! Well he does get around the block when it comes to girls, but he's not cute. I was pretty drunk that night and he was just saying all the right things like guys do when they want sex. I should have been able to say no but being drunk, I believed him and we had sex. Well I went to the doctor today because I woke up with my eyes swollen shut. Come to find out, I have chlamydia! I know I got it from him because I haven't had sex with anybody else since January. I have to take off work for the whole weekend. I have a best friend who was so pissed off at him for giving that to me that she anonymously created a facebook group saying that this guy has chlamydia... Now I can't tell him that he gave it to me because he'll know that my friend was the one who posted it. I didn't think about that before I let her do it! I take responsibility for having unprotected sex but I still feel like he shouldn't have taken advantage of me like that and that he should have known before he tried to have unprotected sex with a girl who he grew up with and wants to "marry" for gods sake! He's told me that before but I never believed him... Me and my friend want revenge on this bastard but I'm not sure if that's mean or not... Someone help! Id really appreciate it if you answered the question being asked too!

[1stblackx]

This is going to be blunt but you are acting like you had absolutely no responsibility for anything you did.

Its naive to just "blame it on the alcohol", you still have to be conscious enough to be control of your actions unless you are completely blacked out and in that's case its rape.

If the guy is your best friend you know the girls he gets with and you should know that he was sexually active and you should have made him use a condom and if you are also blaming that on the alcohol it was your fault for allowing yourself to get that drunk.

Grow up a little bit. Now that guy is going to be the butt of everyones jokes throughout his whole entire social circle and he is supposed to be your best friend.

[Asker]

I said I take responsibility for having unprotected sex though... I just feel like he should care a little more for me to just be a girl he screwed over like that! He plays baseball for our university... It sucks because I lost a best friend but I'm never ever ever going to be his friend again! I kept telling him no, no, no, this is weird, the whole night! He didn't care at all! he's never acted that way around me before! I'm not blaming the alcohol but it definitely had something to do with it

[foolycooly1001]

did you say no to sex or not? you didn't say you did in the post. you said you consented. "I should have been able to say no but being drunk, I believed him and we had sex."

[1stblackx]

Even then, you think he would have unprotected sex with his best friend if he knew he had an std? Sometimes stds don't show symptoms for a while.

[Asker]

I kept saying no while he didn't care.. and kept feeling on me anyways. I did not want it!

[foolycooly1001]

you didn't really address that the question says you consented.

[Anonymous]

Well you see he probably doesn't know he has it, he does now because the health dept is going to find him, and they will try and track down who spread it to him.

[BabyJenks]

Seriously you don't. If you're dumb enough to ride bareback you deserve everything you get. Especially when you say your "best friend" knew he had an STD. Some friend you are if you've shagged the same bloke knowingly, bet she loved that. This is the 21st Century, so grow up, stop whingeing, take your pencillin, get over it and use it as lesson next time to bag up before you do anything and blaming alcohol for your own lack of judgement. I'm not going to apologize for being blunt, because I see it far too often with my ratings.

[tyt_2012]

Don`t take revenge, its not worth it

i know what he did was horrible and cowrdly but still 2 wrongs don`t make a right

anyways don`t worry, what goes around comes around and he`ll get his recompense

[foolycooly1001]

it's mean. how did he take advantage of you when you put you drank the alcohol, and you consented? he probably didn't know he had it. now you're being a coward by not telling him he has an std. you're no better than him.