He doesn't like condoms

[Anonymous]

Started having sex with boyfriend without condoms because I'm allergic to anything unnatural (I'm on birth control) did this for 2 months. In Nov I completely SKIPPED my period. Told my sister about it and she gave me a test. Took a test in Dec its NEGATIVE. I have no signs or symptoms. I should be 2 months preg by now. Told boyfriend that we have to start using condoms..HE keeps asking what's the point of using condoms and birth control(he hates condoms) and saying there's a risk in everything? WTF? I explained to him that I want ((0)) percent of a chance ill get prego, but his response is "i live on the edge, whatever happens..happens." WTF? I asked him if he's okay with a kid and he says "whatever I'm not worried about that" I know he loves me.. We talk non-stop and he tells me he loves me and it shows... But this behavior offends me ... GUYS/GALS HELP!

[ebrady5]

Wow, this guy sounds like a real winner, NOT!

I can't believe how disrespectful that comment was, "I live on the edge, whatever happens, happens." I mean, you have every right to decide whether or not you have sex with him at all. If he doesn't want to use condoms and you do, then its tough sh*t for him. Honey, your comment below concerns me, "but if he goes 15 minutes and doesn't hear from me he thinks I'm mad a t him..." This is a pretty big red flag that shouldn't be ignored. I'm not saying leave him or what to do, but know this: this guy is really insecure, teetering on the edge of controlling/possessive behavior. You should not have to remain attached at the hip, in contact every 15 minutes because he can't handle it. Relationships are based on trust, respect, and communication. Sounds to me that he has little respect for you from the first comment, and even less trust in you from the second. Just something to think about.

[Nakor]

he sounds like a douche who will skip as soon as he finds out your pregnant. Stop putting out unless he starts wearing condoms.

[Asker]

I don't know you very well but ill ask for a guys opinion. Can you LOVE a girl and NOT want her baby?

[Nakor]

Hmmm, I have to answer yes. Which kills my original argument. Try balance it out for him with more bjs/boob jobs to smooth his feathers a bit? Here in NZ we can go to our local GP or like a health centre and get condoms cheap and some times even for free. $3 for like 200 last time I went, maybe you guys have a similar scheme going on over there?

[Mesonfielde]

Wanting a baby is really based on circumstances. You need prior criteria to be fulfilled in order to provide the environment and security required. (money, house, etc.)

[LaLaJ]

You just answered your own question in a way. You said " how could he love me and not love my baby." Well I am going to be brutally honest with you I am not going to sugar coat nothing. OK first he doesn't want to wear condoms, then he says what whatever happens. What he really means is if you get pregnant I am dumping you and leaving you to take care of baby by yourself. He may say he loves you but come on now your a smart girl you should know that's just a lie guys use to get your stuff. A real man would get condoms weather or not he likes them or not, because he wants to make his girl feel comfortable. Also with the calling every 15 minutes that is called beinging clingy and controlling. He wants to make sure you aren't talking to anyone else. Just remember ONE NIGHT OF PASSION CAN LEAD TO A LIFE TIME OF HEARTACHE.

I hope this helped and you do the right thing. Good Luck : )

[nevergivinguponu]

You mention that he gets nervous if he doesn't hear from you. Those relationships sometimes turn into abusive and controlling ones. As fast as this guy attaches himself to you will be how fast he detaches himself to you when you p*ss him off in time. Really, if he likes the feeling of no condom then go ahead and get an IUD or tell him to get a vasecotomy. He can get that reversed (maybe) in time. Love is about respect. How did you fell peeing on that stick? Were you nervous? Did you tell yourself I don't wan't to worry about this again? Then respect yourself and your future. YOu really shouldn't use anything if you are still having a mild allergic reaction too.

[Imjustagirl14]

My boyfriend also doesn't like condoms. We compromise though. We have sex without one and then when he feels like he's about to orgasm, he puts a condom on, easy! I'm also on the pill. This guy sounds very irresponsible and he needs to get a reality check. Tell him you're pregnant, that'll shock him into action. Just check his reaction. If he runs, you know what kind of person he is.

[Asker]

eh...considered it... but idk...

[katiesmuff]

His attitude shoud be what offends you! He'd be the first to boogy on if you were to end up pregnant.

[Asker]

yea... that concerns me... but if he goes 15 minutes and doesn't hear from me he thinks I'm mad a t him... Its weird when you don't know whether or not your being used... you can't LOVE me and NOT want my baby... ?

[sovetskii13]

Using condoms does not guarantee not getting pregnant. He sounds like he does not care about your health. "I live on the edge. Whatever happens, happens." is not the right attitude.

[Asker]

i use condoms and I'm on the pill...

[Anonymous]

if he really loves you, then he'll respect your opinion and start using condoms. explain the situation to him, and if he understands what you're going through, then he should go along with it. you have a right to decide what kinds of birth control you guys should use just as much as he does.