How do I tell my girlfriend about my fantasy? Or do I just not?

[clack201]

My girlfriend and I have been going out for 2 years and we are very much in love. We are both 21 and attend different colleges. To make a long story short my fantasy involves her messing around with a guy she might find attractive. She was a virgin when we met so I was the first guy she had sex with. She has only kissed a couple guys before we dated, but has never done anything else sexual with anyone else. Our sex life is great and we are very much in love, and we have a great time together. For some reason I have this fantasy and I can't help it. I think maybe it has to do with her not having experienced anyone else sexually. I know many people find her attractive and I find that to be a turn on. I know I am not a jealous person and if she ever came to me and said she wanted to experience someone else I would love that idea. I have tried to forget about this fantasy, but it pops in my head from time to time when she mentions studying with one of her good guy friends or whenever she's out at a party. Even just the thought of her dancing with another guy turns me on, but she is very conservative and not much of a dancer. How do I tell her about this? and does anyone have any experience with this in their 20s?

[CuriousEddie]

Is this a cuckold fantasy? I mean, watching her with someone, but perhaps only allowed to watch? Or maybe to be allowed in the room afterward, for 'sloppy seconds' or 'cleanup duty'?

That certainly isn't unusual... there are tons of stories on Literotica's website with that theme.

Maybe it isn't something that you two would ever do, but it certainly isn't unusual to think about or talk about. You can always check her reaction... tell her you had a dream about her and ____, naming some guy she knows. If she asks you about it further, you can tell her that instead of getting upset, the dream was kind of a turn on...

[l-hedoniste]

Just say it and let it go. It's a safe bet that she won't want to do it, but at least it's out there for her to think about. Maybe a mood will strike her, maybe she'll take one for the team, maybe she'll run out of ideas for Christmas gifts, and then lightning will strike.

[Anonymous]

If you guys have the trusting, loving relationship it sounds like you have then it shouldn't be a problem for you two to openly and honestly discuss the fantasy as an option if you are both OK with it. Just make sure that you won't regret it lol I know I'd get jealous. But she should be open to hearing you out on the idea based on how close your relationship sounds

[clack201]

thanks for your post. I just don't know how to bring it up haha. I just wish she would randomly be like ok!

[Opinion Owner]

haha yeah I agree with MsCK101 about maybe asking her about any fantasies she has? Also you could try just being open and asking her if you can bring something up to her that you've been thinking about and just introduce it as an option that you just wanted to see how she felt about

[clack201]

Yeahh, she is going abroad this spring to europe and I would want her to be free to have fun. I had sexual fun with girls that were friends in high school and the beginning of college and It was greatt. Its just fun, but I have no desire to do that agian. If she met some spanish stud ha ha and wanted to dance, hook up, or do more (safely) I would honestly want her to do that and enjoy. I love her to death and I don't want her to miss out

[Opinion Owner]

Lol well then I think that maybe it would be best for you guys to have an honest and open conversation about it especially if you think it would help make you a stronger healthy couple in the long run. Just be careful that you mean everything you guys discuss

[clack201]

would you consider it if your boyfriend asked you?

[Opinion Owner]

I actually just got out of a very serious long term relationship with the guy I lost my virginity to and honestly I did think sometimes about him being the only person I was with and wondering if that was a good or bad thing. I felt sort of trapped eventually because I felt like I was so young and was cut off from experiencing new things and people. It depends on the person though, even though I felt this way she may not.

[clack201]

Ohh OK yeah I mean she's only kissed a couple other guys. Even if she didn't have sex I would at least want her to experience oral sex with someone else. Like she has only seen my body... and my roomate naked once, but that was by accident hahahah. But I remember she was like stunned cause she's never seen anyone else before.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol well if you feel like its the right thing then try talking to her. everybody's situation is different and you know your relationship and you guys can figure out what's best for it and how to make it stronger

[clack201]

True true. I feel like sex is an important part of a relationship. Not the most important, but I think mostly anyone could enjoy someone else even if they didn't love them. Its fun and I hope she will meet someone in europe that will show her a good time.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree and I hope everything goes well for you and her :)

[MsCK101]

start a conversation by randomly asking her if she has a fantasy and what it is. Then tell her yours, being in love and in a relationship for 2 years already means you have to be 100% honest and tell them everyhting no matter what it is. My ex had the same fantasy and made it come true for him, she might do the same :)

hope I helped

[clack201]

were you weirded out that he had this fantasy? how did you react when he told you

[MsCK101]

I wasn't that weirded out by it. But I don't know if she will be or not it all depends on how she takes things. I was a little shocked when he told me and I just answered him with hmmm we'll see what happens lol...but there's only one way to find out what she will say or how she will react...im not her :)

[SophieaWoods11]

i think you should just keep it a fantasy, she's only slept with you what if she likes sex better with a diffrent guy and leaves you for him then it would be all your fault cause of your fantasy

[Anonymous]

what a bitch lol, ill f*** your girl for you man, she could use a real man