How can I get him to be more rough?

[Anonymous]

In bed my boyfriend is really gentle and slow and sometimes that's really great but I want it rougher? I've told him before and he says he doesn't want to hurt me. Even tho I tell him he wont, he still doesn't wanna be rough with me. I don't want really extreme stuff just like a little hair pulling and stuff. And I'm really confused because he is always smacking my ass. Like when he walks by he does it and he smacks my ass hard. So why can't he just do that during sex? How could I get him to be a little rougher?

[DR3AM3R456]

I had the same problem. Because my boyfriend is an aggressive person and he swore he was gonna hurt me if he got rough during sex. But I found something that seemed to work. When your both caught up and horny, say little things that will excite him. Also when you start to get into it, be a little rough with him. Push him on his back, bite him and sensitive places, say some sexy stuff that'll get him to his breaking point. Then while your going at each other tell and demand what you want from him. Some guys like that. Me personally I dig my nails into him back just enough to get him to be a bit more forceful. Find some things that'll work for you guys and expand on it.

Hope I helped! :)

[nelsonrunner92]

Yeah challenge him by being rough yourself and keep the communication and let him know what you want. This is a good way of telling him with actions not words!

[ebrady5]

This is really quite simple,

The answer is COMMUNICATION. Tell him what you want him to do to you. Say, "I really like it when my hair gets pulled when we're having sex." and "You know when you smack my ass sometimes, well, DO THAT next time you are f***ing me." Reassure him that he is not going to hurt you and that you will let him know if he is. Sometimes in life you just gotta be direct in what you want, and don't have any fear. Just go for it!

[KayKay19]

I agree! XD