Boyfriend takes Adderall, can't orgasm from foreplay but does in minutes during sex?

[Valteil]

I have quite a dilemma on my hands. My boyfriend is 20, I am 19. We have been dating for a couple months now but have known each other for a while. He has ADHD and has always been quite an outgoing, friendly guy. He has trouble concentrating at work and takes Adderall twice a day to help him concentrate. One at 6am and one at 1pm. We are very in love, our relationship is great, we barely fight. My question is, he has a really hard time having an orgasm when I am giving him head or using my hands. Now, I know I'm not terrible at it. I was able to get my exs off easily, and I've never had this problem before (I've also only been with 3 people). But, I've worked on my boyfriend for even a half hour or more before, with no success. I've gotten him to orgasm one time just from foreplay. Probably lucky. He says it feels great, and after a while he goes numb and will start to get hard, soft, hard soft. I try to switch things up, positions, styles, aggressiveness/softness, techniques. It just doesn't seem to work. Yet, when we have sex, he has to hold back from having an orgasm. I think the longest time we've had sex is 10 minutes, and that was with changing positions and him stopping himself multiple times. What is up with this? It could be because I am very small, and he is well endowed. But still, I don't get it, what makes it so different? He says with his exs they often engaged in foreplay, but rarely in sex. He wants to have sex every night. It's not like he doesn't have the sexual desire, he definitely does. At first I thought it was just his medication that was doing this to him. But I'm just confused now. I feel like I'm not satisfying him, or I'm doing something wrong, maybe he's just not that attracted to me. He leaves the lights off because of his parents. Anyone else gone through this? Any advice? I'm at a loss.

[electroid]

Or some people simply just cannot get off from being stimulated with hands or mouth, so what? Why don't you just take him at face value when he says that the medication is causing problems for him? I don't take any medications and its extremely difficult for me to orgasm from oral sex, why? It can be a little *too* much stimulus for me and I won't be able to orgasm that way, but I can orgasm quite easily from intercourse. Everyone is different on what works or doesn't work to get them off. He mentioned that he's starts to go numb, which to me says that he's getting overstimulated or something. Here is a question though, can he orgasm from masturbating by himself? If so, try watching to see what he does?

[Valteil]

The thing is, he told me he was easily able to orgasm from oral or a handjob from his exs. So I'm not sure what's wrong with me :/

[ladsin]

umm, I don't know but you could probably talk to the doctor about putting him on Dextro-Amp

Adderol is 3/4ths dextroamphetimine, and 1/4th levoamthetamine, Whearas dextro amp is well 4/4ths dextro amp, its cheaper and you don't have to take it as much, only once a day... that's if you really think its the medicine. otherwise it sounds like he has a lot of experience at handjobs and stuff, but not much with sex, this happens with a lot of guys, they jerk off night and day, but when they actually have sex end really quick my advice is just experience

[Valteil]

He tells me he actually doesn't jerk off very often at all actually. But I don't know if that's true.

[ladsin]

maybe he doesnt, but either way he's got experience with it, unlike with sex (im guessing)... nothing can prepare us for the glorius feeling of a girls pussy, so he probably just needs to get more experienced with the feeling... besides that tricks he can do are when he's pissing stop midstream and count till 10, this is painful but works the muscles and makes them stronger so he can hold it in longer,

[Anonymous]

Instead of taking medication, just punch him a few times. He will concentrate after.

[Valteil]

Serious answers would be great, please.

[Opinion Owner]

I am serious. I used to blame everything on my ADD when I was younger and then my Dad whooped my ass and it got better.

[Valteil]

That's sad.