So I hung out with my friend who had sex yesterday, and I feel like we for sure cannot be friends anymore.

[Lucky1227]

I hung out with my friend yesterday and she is dating this guy who she had sex with and we are the same age... its just like the fact that she had sex with this guy who I think is utterly disgusting (I have seen the kid on FB and ew enough said he is SICK).. we can't relate anymore. We hung out yesterday and it was just strained... like the conversation was strained because I know she wanted to talk about him and having sex and blah blah but I literally just kept cutting her off or changing the subject, which was totally fun because it allowed me to change the convo to things I wanted to talk about (and I like that lol) then she was saying I should meet him, which I have no intention of doing. And it is just annoying, I feel like we are growing apart, or that I care less about her because she has had sex, it makes me not care about her at all... actually it just pisses me off more than anything.. like I am literally getting stressed out about it because its just annoying. I mean obviously its her body she can do what she wants but it is just sad that any guy would have sex with her over me (and I mean her boyfriend is disgusting and I have higher standards than that which is why I am not having sex because if I REALLY wanted to I could have done it with 20 guys by now) its just... I don't know its annoying, hearing her TRY to discuss her sex life is disgusting she was like "well you talk about sex all the time" which is true but I mean... I am me, and I have no problem talking about sex when I AM INVOLVED IN THE SEX CONVO. You can say what you want about me and the type of person I am but.. its how I feel. I am a super competitive person so its hard for me to just "get over it" I know I will not ALWAYS be the center of attention, I don't expect to be the problem is I always have been. I was always the one who got compliments about how pretty I was (and am) I always got the most attention. I just don't think I can continue this friendship.. not the way I feel at this point, I mean I don't even want anything to do with her right now...

[Anonymous]

Sweetheart, life is too short to be judgmental/jealous, trust me. I used to be the EXACT same way as you. It's something girl's have to grow out of eventually. To end a friendship because your friend likes someone that you don't (and you don't even dislike them for any valid reason of substance, mind you) and because she's growing up and has had sex, is completely childish. You won't even give this kid a chance by meeting him. Shouldn't the fact that your friend cares about him be enough to at least respect HER enough to meet him?

You sound extremely judgmental and jealous (which can also be that "competitive" thing you mentioned). I'm sorry, but you really need to grow up and mature at some point :/

Part of being friends is listening to them about what they're thinking and feeling. This includes the fellows they like and have sex with. And a huge part of friendship is being unselfish and understanding.

If you are to end this friendship with this girl, then you were never really her friend. Friends don't turn their back on each other like this, friends are there to support each other no matter what. You need to step off your high horse here, baby girl :/

[Lucky1227]

I mean that's fine and great BUT I am not going to make myself uncomfortable for her. And if I was to meet this loser guy I would more than likely just be a bitch the whole time because I have a bad habit of showing my feelings and if I don't care I will legitimately act uninterested. I am not jealous that's the thing.. I mean I could have sex with 10 guys tomorrow IF I wanted to, but I have morals and dignity and won't. I don't HAVE to listen to her talk about sex, that's just rude of her

[Opinion Owner]

The point is, is that it SHOULDN'T make you uncomfortable. You want to say you aren't jealous, but that comes with being competitive. You have no reason to dislike this guy. You're just choosing not to, for no valid reason whatsoever. Also, having sex doesn't make you moral-less. That's an ignorant/jealous/judgmental statement. It's not rude of her to talk to her FRIEND about her LIFE. She listens to you, and friendship is not a one way street.

[Opinion Owner]

I really hope that you are just wasting time and trolling. Else I hope you do end your "friendship" with this girl, so that she has a chance at having a genuine, unselfish friend.

[Lucky1227]

I talk about relevant things and I am not saying sex makes you moral less but having sex 6 days into a "relationship" is slutty and that's what my friend did which makes her a slut. Say what you want about me but I will ALWAYS have morals and values. And if it makes someone uncomfortable to talk about something as a friend you shouldn't put them in the position to be uncomfortable that in itself is rude

[Lucky1227]

And this guy is probably just going to dump her.. then what?

[Opinion Owner]

Being in a relationship and having sex does not make her a slut. Stop being jealous that she's experiencing having sex with someone she cares about and you aren't. "Sluts" sleep around with multiple people when they AREN'T in a relationship. You say you talk about relevant things, and then also say you talk about sex. Goes both ways, dear. Again, you SHOULDN'T be uncomfortable, you only are because you're jealous. This isn't about morals and values, this is about your selfishness and jealousy.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, given that couples break up EVERY DAY, it's not unlikely that they will, too. Hopefully by that time you or she would have ended this so-called "friendship" and instead of you, she'll have a genuine friend to be there for her no matter what.

[Lucky1227]

Ok whatever say what you want but I have good morals I am not a slut, if she doesn't like what I have to say she can find more friends.. I already have. I am allowed to not be comfortable when it comes to talking about sex.. maybe if I was out f***ing 50 guys I would be comfortable with I but I'm not... I'm not a whore like her the end.

[Lucky1227]

Thats fine.. she can have more friends.. I have better friends who are innocent and more relatable and absolutely PRECIOUS!

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. She is such a whore because she had sex with her boyfriend. We should all shun her. How dare she not wait for marriage, how dare she even have sex at all! Are you a hardcore Conservative Christian, or are you just seething with jealousy? If you aren't comfortable hearing about sex, then don't talk about about yourself. Plain and simple. And only make friends with monks. You should end the friendship right away so that I can stop feeling sorry for this girl having to deal with you.

[Opinion Owner]

*about it

[Lucky1227]

I am not hardcore christian I just have MORALS and who dates someone for 6 days and has sex with them?... HELLO THAT SCREAMS WHORE if you don't like it too bad the end.

[Opinion Owner]

...at this point, I am just going to assume you are a troll and hopefully I'll feel that humanity is better off for it. Or maybe you're just 13 or something.

[Lucky1227]

I'm not a troll and I am almost 20

[Opinion Owner]

Then start acting like it.

[Lucky1227]

I am acting like it.. You don't understand and that's fine because you arguing with me right now is not going to help this situation.. I need legitimate advice like how to either set her straight or end the friendship.. because 1 of these 2 things needs to happen because even though you think I am immature I am not going to do anything about myself because why should I.

[Opinion Owner]

Mature people aren't judgmental, self-centered, and jealous. Regardless, you wanted advice and I've already advised you more than once to end the friendship. It isn't a healthy friendship for either of you. Tell her you feel like you've grown apart, it's that simple. Why should you do something about yourself? Because maturing is part of life.

[Lucky1227]

All I wanted was that simple middle part... all you had to say.. I don't need anything else from yur useless opinion k thanks

[underdog10]

Lmao to that debate. I would say embrace this ^ and see a psychiatrist seriously. That's not like being OH PSYCO BITCH GET HELP! You're extremely ignorant and just unbelievably hypocritical and those things are just not healthy. Get help seriously.

[Lucky1227]

... that's not going to happen.

[Opinion Owner]

Well I said that more than once and you chose to ignore it and bicker with me. You ASKED for people's opinion on your question and the situation, so don't throw a bitch fit when people give it.

[Lucky1227]

I didn't ask for an opinion about who I am as a person I asked about what to do about this friend simple as that

[Opinion Owner]

You asked for an opinion of the situation. Who you are is included in that if that particular trait is affecting the situation.

[Lucky1227]

I'm done arguing with you.. you didn't NEED to put what kind of person you think I am all you had to do was say "end the friendship"

[Tigerlily]

"and I have higher standards than that which is why I am not having sex because if I REALLY wanted to I could have done it with 20 guys by now"

Bullsh*t. Your older questions are all about how you're desperate to have sex and have a baby. Your friend hasn't betrayed you; she's living her own life for crying out loud. She doesn't have to act and live the way you think she should. It's not trashy of her to have sex with a guy she's dating. you may think he's disgusting, but that's why she's dating him and not you.

You seem to think she should worship you. You can talk about sex but she can't? Seriously - grow up.

[Lucky1227]

Well I talk about sex in general not in specific since I am not having it. And it is pretty trashy to sleep with a guy after 6 days... seriously if you think that's OK then it just shows YOUR lack of morals

[Tigerlily]

Actually it's not that bad if she really wanted to and she knew he was safe and all that. Besides, whatever the case, it's not your place to judge her.

[Lucky1227]

I can judge whomever I want and she is included... she's a slut. And it is bad I mean 6 days... really AT LEAST wait a month I mean I am not prude or anything but I would never have sex with someone after 6 days.

[Tigerlily]

So then we can judge you? And say that you're a shallow, self-centered, hypocritical little girl who needs to sort herself out before she can even begin to think of judging the way other people live their lives?

[Lucky1227]

Well you can judge me... you would be incorrect in saying that though. but hey if it makes you feel better go for it

[Lucky1227]

However I will say that my life is fine... I live the way I want to raise my kids to be oneday.. respectable.

[Tigerlily]

What you're doing isn't respectable, and to be honest, what I said IS correct. And agreed with by the masses. Your friend didn't have sex to spite you, and it DOESN'T make her trash. She's living her own life and YOU need to respect that.

[Lucky1227]

She is a piece of TRASH what you said about me is WRONG and she's disgusting. I am VERY respectable despite what you might think.

[Tigerlily]

Whatever you say =]

[Lucky1227]

I know it is whatever I say

[SarahSkittles]

You shouldn't be jealous, if he's not "up to your standards". maybe you should meet him, looks aren't everything. Actually most of the time if someone is very attractive then they lack personality, loyalty, kindness, etc. and yes, lots of teens do start having sex early its a personal choice they make. if she really makes you feel uncomfortable when she talks about her sex life then tell her that you don't want to talk about it.

[Anonymous]

Well first maybe you could talk to her about it and see if that helps at all.

If that does nothing.. well... not all friendships last forever... if you don't feel like the situation can be fixed then do what you need to do.. but don't waste time being pissed off at the world.

[dave216]

Yes, stay away from her. Never speak to her again. You are such a shallow, self centered, jealous bitch that she will undoubtedly be better off if she never thinks of you again.

[Lucky1227]

Don't be rude. You can say what you want about me but it is what it is and it would more than likely hurt her more than me to end a friendship

[Tigerlily]

Are you for real?

[ImSoSozzled]

Maybe try being less of a jealous, hyprocrite?

[Lucky1227]

Well that's just not an option.

[katiesmuff]

In my opinion the issues are with you not your girlfriend and thinking like you are doing I am a bit surprised you have any friends.

[Lucky1227]

... Well don't be surprised... I am nice and funny and cute so I attract people :D

[foolycooly1001]

you're jealous and petty.

[enlightenment]

I agree...if anyone makes you act like that then you should do them a favor and stop talking with them.

[Lucky1227]

... Do her a favor? Yeah right she's LUCKY to even know me

[enlightenment]

yeah...maybe you can try charging her, how much do you think your worth an hour?

[Lucky1227]

Please I am worth WAY more than she could afford

[enlightenment]

well then you are just an idiot...not getting anything out of it for yourself, you don't value her as a friend, yet you are gonna waste your time worrying and bitching about it? find a hobby or look for different friends, but yeah, you are an idiot.

[Lucky1227]

I mean she is fun to hang out with when she's here

[longrodvonhugendong]

You have issues you need to take care of. Most people would not be phased by this.

[Lucky1227]

... I am not comfortable with her anymore... How is that some huge problem? I am not most people... I am me, and I'm better than majority of people duhh lol

[BeHappy1985]

You sound like a horrible person and even worse friend... I hope you die alone with many cats..

[Anonymous]

i really hope you are joking...