Are Asian men good in bed?

I know this is a really stupid question. I'm Chinese and I've never been with a Chinese man before. I'm just wondering if they are good in bed? When I say Asian, I mean Chinese men specifically. I have only dated outside of my race because I have this preconceived notion that Chinese men are bad in bed. I know I can be wrong, but it's just hard for me to see it otherwise. And sex happens to be very important to me. I don't think tolerate a man that is bad in bed.


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  • Well the stereotype is that they have very small penises. I don't know if it's a really good indicator, but Asian porn does seem to back that up a bit. I mean some of them just look unbelievably tiny, even when they're paired with small girls. I kind of think my boyfriend likes showing me those because it makes him look gigantic. So if penis size is really important to you sexually, you might be better off with a guy who wasn't Asian. Otherwise I can't imagine there's too much difference, especially not with a guy who was raised in the west.

    • Oh yeah, and I meant to add that the one Asian guy I was with was pretty good.

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    • Yeah, I'd say so. And that's definitely one of the fun things about being a girl. If you want to find a guy to experiment with, you usually can.

    • We would be 99.9% disappointed if we used American p*rn to generalize about white guys. p*rn is not science, it's not fact, it's p*rn. In America they specifically hire large men. It fits the American media methodology of making people feel inadequate. Do American women look like p*rnstar actresses? Nope. Asian p*rn is meant to make the viewer (mostly men) feel good about themselves. Directors of Japanese P*rnography have specifically come out and said the general idea up until recently was to look for smaller, less attractive men because viewer satisfaction is most important. The recent trend is to use regular and larger guys. I've briefly seen a couple and I have to say that they're very hot (and would give American pornstars a run for their money). Look at Keni Styles, he's an Asian guy with a big... anyway. If you are the right age, then have a look and you will see what I mean. The best sex I've had was with Asian men, that's fact.

What Guys Said 9

  • It seems many people,both Asian and otherwise, hve the idea that Chinese men are too shy to be good in bed.get embarrassed easily, are inhibited.

    I'm not Asian and I can't tell you if any of that is true, but Asian women are not like that in my fairly limited experience, and you seem to be more evidence for that!

  • Why do people judge an entire group of people with baseless stereotypes.

    There are going to be a certain percentage of Chinese men who are poor in bed, a certain percentage of Chinese men who are ok in bed and then a certain percentage that will blow your mind. That goes for every single group of people.

  • I am a Chinese guy who was born and raised in the U.S. I never had sex before but I'm very willing to make a woman happy during sex ;) whichever way I can...

    • It's not that hard dude, just need more confidence about yourself. And rest of the part I think all of us Asian got our own talenet to do this job awesome.

    • if you are intelligent.. and clean.. then.. I do not see an issue.. and I am sure you are great in bed.. size does not matter to most educated women

  • I have had white, Asian and Spanish- men--Most Asian men are 6" in size normal- unless he is really tall - but it varies like Americans-- Two best I ever had were Chinese and a Taiwan- lover---The Chinese guy went all night long and kissed the whole time we made love and the Taiwan gave the best foreplay!

    So go try it out! Funny thing was the shorter Chinese guy had a bigger " Member" than the Tall Taiwan guy--- go figure!

    but like any guy I am sure it varies man to man----------- from what I have had I say unless you try it you will never know- Just get a young sexy guy! ( like I did) both guys were very into sports and in great shape too ")

  • Sex with a Chinese man is like eating Chinese food -- after an hour you're hungry again.

    Before I was married, I used to give all my dates a disclaimer -- once you've had me you'll want me again in an hour.

  • I am an Chinese-Canadian man who was born in China but raised in Canada ~~ I've only dated girls that are outside of own race :) ever since the day i was born and I've already know what i am looking for lol In regards to my sexual orientation, i just never found Asian girls are attractive to me, BUT i do love my mother and sister, with different kinda love^^ On the other hand, I've always been so obsessed with Caucasian girls, there are just so much good about them that i'd never changed my mind lmao i believe that there are tons of stereotypical materials out there pointing right at us but i really don't give a shit about it coz i am who i am and i have so much faith in myself !!! only retards believe what they say ~~ small penis? haha really? we are short? please please I've had enough of it `------people, it's time to wake up !!!

    • i am an Asian guy too. you know what, there are many white girls I've previously dated told me that their white ex' have smaller penises lmao !!! i swear to god that's true !!! Girls, forget all those racist, fascist American bullshit. There is only one way to prove it, If the size of penis really matters that much to you. TRY TO DATE AN Asian GUY YOURSELF !! :) trust me there's not one thing that makes a man attractive.

  • Asian here, i believed chinesse, koreans and Japanesse are bad in bed...
    Not manly , thier licking is boring and Small P.
    Also i want to add that Their thrust and penetration are weak...

    Id suggest to look for another Asian Men coz Asian Man was born to smashed!

  • since this is anonymous I will be honest. I am a white guy living in China. I have always loved a massage surprise surprise in China you are often offered a handjob at the end of the massage. What can I say I often say sure. Why I am telling you this? Because I have gotten lots of comments from massage therapists about the size of my penis, which I always considered small. At first I thought it was just compliments to get me in the mood, but the longer and longer I have lived her the more I have talked with women honestly about sex, and had sex with them.

    More over I have had a few girl friends while living here. As you might imagine I have had sex with them too.

    Over and over I have heard two things from Asian women. Asian men penises are smaller, and asian men come much faster than me. (I know little about white women and men) My wife says my penis (6") is the same length as her ex, but much thicker. I can also last 1 hour when having sex. However most therapists say my penis is longer and thicker than their ex's.

    Last week I was riding in a taxi in Jiangsu with my wife. The topic came up. We were all maybe a little too honest. The driver put it this way. China has the most beautiful vivacious women in the world and they men have the least ability to please them.

    Today on the way home from work me and my wife were walking arm in arm. She said... "I never ever imagined I would marry a foreigner, but now I would never go back. You are a good man with a fake face. But the sex is amazing. I am completely addicted. We had sex twice yesterday and I still want more. Now I understand why so many other Chinese women are drawn to foreign men."

    • I find it interesting how white men are always talking about how big their penis when in fact they're not that big. I'm black and dating a white woman who have dated white men all her life and she tells me my penis is way bigger than any white men she ever dated. White men have a serious complex about their penis size and need to talk about it all the time, you certainly don't hear black men talking about their size. White men are the largest group in the U.S to perform penis enlargement btw.

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    • Lol yeah you are right most Asian guys have smaller penises but that doesn't mean they can't be good in bed.

    • i disagree anyomous..i know a lot of black guys who are just as insecure as any race. Maybe you're thinking about the older generations but i see old guys in general who tend to be conceited about their performance in bed. From my gym, to my job, even my volunteer tends to be the older guys that are 40+ I don't know..seems like they get insecure around younger guys sometimes and need to display dominance or something. that's just a random bs theory of mine anyway

  • hell yeah we're good in bed otherwise you wouldn't be born if your dad didn't unload on your mom. If you really want to find to out, you should saddle up with a chinese fella for some kung fu kicking sex. If not, stop asking such generalize question. Anyone can be good or bad in bed despite their race. You answer your question by saying you have a preconceive and ignorant notion. Give me a call baby and I'll light a fire cracker under the sheets for you.

    • Men don't have to be good in bed to cum. In fact according to the women I have talked to that is the problem. 100 seconds later the man is done.

What Girls Said 10

  • Generalization isn't good. Of course there are some who are good in bed and there are sme who are bad.

  • I had an Asian boyfriend.. and he was the best ever in bed. his pennis was great.. is not how big your pennis is what it matters.. is what you can do with it.. also guys need to understand that having intercourse is not just putting the pennis inside of a woman vagina.. it is preparing the woman to have great orgasms.. maybe.. start with a massage (by the way, my Asian boyfriend give the best massages ever) I fall in love with him.. but then, someone else stold it from me by brain washing him with extreme religion. I am not thinking to have a boyfriend for while but when I am ready to do it again.. I will choose Asian guys.. they know how to treat a woman! Asian Guys do not ever worry about stereotypes.. your pennis is perfect and georgeous.. if you are an intellectual Asian Guy.. and would like to be friends.. let me know..

    • Another thing that I would like to say about Asian Guys is that they know how to lick a woman.. I do not think I will ever want to go back to Caucasians or other type. Besides bed, Asian Guys are very smart.. and that actracts me to them.

    • you should email me :)

  • I dated a couple of Asian men (Korean, Chinese, etc.). The Chinese, specifically, are not very developed in the idea of sexual activity. But that, of course, is turning around as new generations develop. However, if you are naming Westernized Chinese men (looks Chinese, acts Western), they would be a whole different subject.

  • Hey I'm a Hispanic female. I dated Hispanic and blacks. Trust me when I say not all black mean have big penis and Hispanic men are small too. But it depends on the motion of the ocean. Now I'm dating a Chinese man. At first I was scared it would be so small, he was shy and I guess that's why we took so long for us to have sex.thinking I would judge his penis size. But when the day came I was blowed away. He was bigger then any of my partners. And I cracked up and told him damn you kick that stereo type right out the window. He's about 7.5 with thickness. So now I'm happy. You shouldn't judge by stereotypes. As for me the more quiet they are the more bigger they are... Trust me I had guys who can to make and was like "baby I'll make your world rock with my big penis. So as soon as they show me I crack up and leave. " don't you wanna give it a try?" Nope buddy lol. But it never hurts to try :)

  • Well I am a Chinese girl in US and I've had Asian, White and Black, I would say Asian men are really the most sexy men in bed, they have the most romantic and exciting foreplay. I don't even care about size of penius, there are many other fantastic things going on during sex beside of a penius size.

  • What a silly generalization. Of course! There are men that are good in bed and awful in bed regardless of ethnicity. If you go with a Chinese American they are more likely to be better because they are more sexually aware but overall the whole "penis" stereotype is just plain wrong. If you use Asian p*rn to form a judgment then you're going to come to a false conclusion because Asian p*rn (mainly Japanese p*rn actually) is meant to make the viewer (mostly men) feel more confident in themself because they are bigger than the man in the movie. Directors have said that the point is to choose smaller men. This fits with their culture of being very aware of the feelings of others. American culture/media is all about making everyone feel inadequate enough so that if you buy a certain product or act a certain way then you will become almost acceptable. It's awful. That's why you may hear guys saying bad things about one another to undermine the values of others to help themselves feel better. In any case, the best sex that I've had was actually with Chinese men and Asian men in general so, yes they are good in bed. Again, some are and some aren't, just like any other ethnic group. Find someone that you love and who loves you and I guarantee the sex will be better than anything as long as you keep learning about one another. Oh, by the way, I'm white if that matters.

    • Oh and think about trying to use American p*rn to judge white guys. You're going to be disappointed 99.9% of the time haha. It's not real so don't use it like it's scientific fact. Experience it for yourself. I know I was a bit hesitant at first because of all the stereotypes but I decided to be equal opportunity and now I'm almost exclusive to Asian men (or so it seems anyway). I was stupid for listening to stereotypes so learn from my mistake. Keep an open mind and I guarantee you'll be pleasantly surprised. This goes for ANY woman that is curious or maybe even closed-off to non-White men. Try something different, you might really like it. I sure as hell did.

  • I'm a white woman and I used to be an equal opportunity dater up until I dated a few Asian men. I'm sorry but the steriotype that they have small penises is not true at all, the average size of any man is 5 inches and every Asian guy I have ever been with has met or exceeded that. Asian men tend to be VERY hard too, and rough in bed. I am seeing a chinese guy right now, and it's the best I've ever had, no lie, even just the thought of him when we are apart makes me want him. Once you go Asian you won't want caucasion :)

    • Thank you I feel supported.

    • I agreed with you.. I will never go back to date Caucasian.. they are bad in bed (generalization) and also cheaters..

  • I am a relatively attractive white girl and am really attracted to Asian guys.
    I have had sex with 1 German, 1 Mexican, 1 Uzbek, 1 Vietnamese and 1 Korean guy. And the best guys were hands down

    The Uzbek guy.
    Then the Vietnamese, then German, Korean and lastly the Mexican.

    The Uzbek guy had the biggest Penis, the Mexican had the smallest.

    The sex with the Uzbek guy was always mind-blowing, I'd usually come twice within a very short time. Just thinking back of that time gets me all hot and bothered. Unfortunately, he was a bit 'crazy' and not really relationship material.

    The Vietnamese guy was very good, too. He knew what he was doing and I always came when we had sex.

    The German was mediocre and so was the Korean.

    The Mexican did his best but he neither had the package nor the techniques to satisfy my needs.

    About Chinese guys...I met a Chinese FOB, we were drunk and kinda hot, too. He was a bit shy but after he drank more and I started acting cute and helpless (the way I am when I'm really really drunk and like a guy, haha), he started flirting back and we eventually ended up touching up on each other, dry-humping etc. I was virgin that time so I was too scared to go beyond foreplay but oh god was he good with his fingers. He started being really hot, throwing me on the ground and grinding up on me like there's no tomorrow. I was very very close to losing my virginity that night, ha.

    I don't think at all, that Asian guys suck in bed.
    Damn, thinking back of all the good times, I am horny again, haha.

  • New Girl here:

    From UK and lived in Japan for 6 years as a Art major. Moving back again to work as art dealer.

    I've had lovers, both Asian and non-asian. Obviously living in Japan I've had experiences with the local men. And from my sexual experiences, I have to say Japanese guys (the ones I was with) are VERY good when it comes sex. Foreplay was amazing. There’s a lot of talk that men in Asia are shy or rather boring in bed. Here’s the truth: Japan has a bloody Penis Festival. Sexual wood block paintings that would even make Playboy fans blush. Love hotels designed for lil’ rolls in the hay. First historical romantic novel (Tale of Genji) is all about a young lords sexual acts with court ladies. Also, keep in mind it's not as constrained by religious conservative notions of sex like the West. Basically, sex in Nihon has 1 rule: don't flaunt it in public, but do whatever the ‘hell’ you want behind closed doors. Although the young ones are more friendly in the cities. Basically, if there is any "shy" antics its done because its expected for women to behave as so. Brash and forward displays are too slutty. Cute is sexy in Nihon. Again, behind closed doors, its a different story. Women in Japan typically experience sexual acts at a young age. I only wished men weren't so hesitant to approach me, but I've learned the game: cute, giggle, and act shy and they eat out of your hand. Although JP does have issues with older married couples and their lack of intamacy (common theme in marriages if you ask me) and there are a lot more older people than younger.

    Don’t comment on this issue unless you have experience (no he said she said crap) and ignore the rumors which are just that...RUMORS. Look, any girl will tell a guy that her previous lovers were bad compared to him. "Oh- they were so bad. you are so good baby. They were not as big or hard...blah-blah-blah" We do it to make you feel better guys. It shuts you up and lifts ya ego because boy are you guys sensitive about anything below the waist. (rolls eyes) Men are easy, its universal. Japanese, Chinese, British, American whatever.

    Truth is, neither Non-Asian or Asian are better or worse lovers. However, in my experience with JP men I did not have a bad encounter. Quite the opposite. One word….WOW. Again, if you are a girl in JP from the West pick up on the idea of what' it means to be cute (yet be you and proud and don't change your personality to fit in). For the Western guys, enjoy but don't trash your Asian brothers. You have something in common...u are men who like women. My one complaint about my last JP lover was that his apartment walls were too thin. Typical Tokyo. We Had to utilize his ties...alot :)

    On another note: I hope JP stands together and can overcome this crisis. May those who died live in peace and never be forgotton and for those who are left behind to "do your best."

    • So, I realized I didn't mention anything about Chinese men. Never dated a Chinese guy, but the last guy I was with was 1/2 Chinese and Japanese. Doesn't matter. Don't generalize just expereince and come up with your own conclusion. Fact is, if there is chemistry your passion will be hot.