New Girl here:
From UK and lived in Japan for 6 years as a Art major. Moving back again to work as art dealer.
I've had lovers, both Asian and non-asian. Obviously living in Japan I've had experiences with the local men. And from my sexual experiences, I have to say Japanese guys (the ones I was with) are VERY good when it comes sex. Foreplay was amazing. There’s a lot of talk that men in Asia are shy or rather boring in bed. Here’s the truth: Japan has a bloody Penis Festival. Sexual wood block paintings that would even make Playboy fans blush. Love hotels designed for lil’ rolls in the hay. First historical romantic novel (Tale of Genji) is all about a young lords sexual acts with court ladies. Also, keep in mind it's not as constrained by religious conservative notions of sex like the West. Basically, sex in Nihon has 1 rule: don't flaunt it in public, but do whatever the ‘hell’ you want behind closed doors. Although the young ones are more friendly in the cities. Basically, if there is any "shy" antics its done because its expected for women to behave as so. Brash and forward displays are too slutty. Cute is sexy in Nihon. Again, behind closed doors, its a different story. Women in Japan typically experience sexual acts at a young age. I only wished men weren't so hesitant to approach me, but I've learned the game: cute, giggle, and act shy and they eat out of your hand. Although JP does have issues with older married couples and their lack of intamacy (common theme in marriages if you ask me) and there are a lot more older people than younger.
Don’t comment on this issue unless you have experience (no he said she said crap) and ignore the rumors which are just that...RUMORS. Look, any girl will tell a guy that her previous lovers were bad compared to him. "Oh- they were so bad. you are so good baby. They were not as big or hard...blah-blah-blah" We do it to make you feel better guys. It shuts you up and lifts ya ego because boy are you guys sensitive about anything below the waist. (rolls eyes) Men are easy, its universal. Japanese, Chinese, British, American whatever.
Truth is, neither Non-Asian or Asian are better or worse lovers. However, in my experience with JP men I did not have a bad encounter. Quite the opposite. One word….WOW. Again, if you are a girl in JP from the West pick up on the idea of what' it means to be cute (yet be you and proud and don't change your personality to fit in). For the Western guys, enjoy but don't trash your Asian brothers. You have something in common...u are men who like women. My one complaint about my last JP lover was that his apartment walls were too thin. Typical Tokyo. We Had to utilize his ties...alot :)
On another note: I hope JP stands together and can overcome this crisis. May those who died live in peace and never be forgotton and for those who are left behind to "do your best."