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Bi-curious, bi-sexual... Ladies can you tell ?

Hi, I'm a woman. I am definitely bi-curious although I'm not sure as to whether I'm bi-sexual or not. I find myself attracted to certain women and, on occasion I can feel whether a woman is gay or bi-sexual. Basically, I'm wondering whether other women can feel my vibes too. Please, all you straight, gay and bi ladies out there: can you tell when another woman is attracted to women ?; not because of a stereotyped appearance but because of her 'feeling' when close to her. I need to know whether other women who I feel are bi also feel that I am... Further, if you can tell- how can you tell? Is it just her 'feeling' whilst near her or is it something in her eyes... Thanks xx
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Homosexuality and choice are closely related. When answering the question of is homosexuality a choice one has to consider that homosexual acts between consenting adults are, by definition, done by choice.

    Given that there are people who state they are ex-homosexuals and given that the homosexual population has significantly higher rates of many diseases and the homosexual population also has significantly lower rates of various measures of mental health, it can be strongly argued that engaging in homosexual acts is a bad choice for individuals. Those who make this choice suffer significantly higher rates of domestic violence in homosexual couples. In addition, according to experts homosexual murders are relatively or quite common and often homosexual murders are very brutal. Also, the homosexual population has a greater propensity to engage in illegal drug use.

    A person may have a craving for alcohol so strong that he feels powerless to resist it (see Alcoholism), yet people are free to choose to seek treatment for this addiction with drugs, therapy, or support groups. Psychiatrists often concede that spirituality provides the most effective cure for those who are willing to try it.

    Whereas alcohol addiction is generally regarded as a disease and/or a moral failing, homosexuality in recent decades has come to be seen as normal. It is clear to the vast majority of people that overindulging in alcohol hurts the individual as well as society. For example, drunk driving contributes to auto accidents by increasing reaction time and reducing alertness. Alcoholism is closely related to absenteeism and domestic violence. But a political decision was made in the mid-1970s to drop homosexuality from the official list of mental disorders. In fact, the chief "scientific" reason given to deny a link between homosexuality and choice is that major American mental health organizations deny the link. In other words, scientists have voted on it, and they disapprove (see politicization of science).

    In addition, a distinction is made between choosing to have homosexual desires and choosing to engage in homosexual sex acts. And there are other aspects of choice to homosexuality. One can decide the following aspects: whether or not to believe that homosexual acts are detrimental to one's immortal soul, emotional well-being or physical health and one can also obviously choose whether to enter into a homosexual relationship or not. Obviously one must use wisdom and also do diligence in regards to these matters. For example, the Bible condemns homosexuality and sound Bible exegesis reveals this matter.

    A 2003 poll done by Ellison Research of Phoenix, Arizona stated that 82% of all American Protestant ministers agreed with the statement “homosexuality is a choice people make".

    • Wow. could you have been anymore irrelevant and excessive?

    • Don't like the truth huh

  • A lot of times you can't tell, but sometimes you can if the person has an appearance that falls out of gender expression for their sex, but you shouldn't assume all tomboys or effeminate guys are bi or gay. I've picked up on bisexual vibes before and I still can't explain when it happens. the first time it was with this kind of nerdy girl. she wasn't a tomboy or anything but something about her made me think she was bi. so I asked her lol she was.

    i think mannerisms and how you interact with people. I haven't pin pointed it but I pick up on some vibes. some people have explained it to me as the way people look at you, eye contact, how affectionate they are, etc. also I guess when you get comfortable in a certain identity you may start to pick up certain ways of expressing yourself or interacting with people in that group (so gay or bi girls). some girls are pretty vocal about it. look for rainbow things or other lgbt paraphernalia

    i go to a pretty liberal school with lots of gay people so generally things are pretty out, like the gays. I know the gay people from gsa club and things like that.

    i never thought my expressions showed anything but a couple of my friends said they thought I was bi before I came out. I'm touchy feely with everyone though, but I guess more so with girls. I make eye contact with everyone. sometimes I flirt and give compliments but if you know my personality you might have a hard time telling if I'm joking or genuinely trying to flirt.

    sorry if this is a crappy answer. I've only been out as bisexual for two years :)

  • I use to think I was bi-curious and I had a bi-sexual friend who was really hot. We almost made out and we danced really close (grinding) a lot. I think a lot of women are super hot (like adriana lima) but I would never want to be married to one. I just think it's more natural for guy and girl to be together. I'm married to a guy now, but I still think women are super hot and more so than men. I'm not sure people can feel that vibe from me... haha

    • My girlfriend is bi and has regular sex with both me and her bestie bi girlfriend at different times. Not same time.

    • @DaMack999 lucky man

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  • It's hard because girls are usually more indirect. When a guy--gay or straight--makes a move, you *know*; we have to initiate, and make ourselves clear until we get a definite response, yes or no.

    Women--gay or straight--tend to be more indirect, unless she's decided to abandon her traditional gender role. If she does, hog heaven; you know she's gay/straight because she's hitting on you directly. Otherwise, she'll do the whole flirt, hint, and wait thing, or whatever girls do when they like someone but want to make them make the first move.

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  • It's probably intuition or gestures and simple expressions that they know are signals of bi or lesbo. I personally don't know but that's what I think.

  • Your curious about a sexual experience this has nothing to do with your sexuality. I was pretty young the first times I started messing around with other girls. I was 10-11 years old when I started making out and exploring my best friend. I had fingered myself a lot before this and used different thing to penetrate my pussy. We was making out and I went to finger her and she cried out it hurt. Asking why I did that I was telling her it felt good and let me. Then I let her she was fingering me and amazed she I was able to handle two finger easily. It took awhile to work her up we was fingering each other all the time after that. We used different thing to pleasure each other sometimes getting really wild. We had watched porn and seen oral sex she didn’t want to like mine so I licked her. She loved it and kept wanting me to do it to her but wouldn’t return the favor. I refused to lick her till she returned the favor we didn’t talk a few days. Then she called saying she wanted to come over and play hinting to returning the favor. It took awhile till she got good at it making me cum but we was both pretty much addicted at that point. I never felt like she was my girlfriend it was just sex or pleasure and fun for us. I had many girls since over the years it’s nothing about loving it’s just sex. I love guys girls are just fun to enjoy or add in the mix with guys.

  • I am very very bi sexual

  • Yeh we know our guts tells us...

  • i am bi and you can fell if a girl likes you just like a guy its all in feelings :)

  • It's hard for me as a girl to know if a girl has a crush on me. I'm straight but it's hard to tell.

  • Straight men can acknowledge other men are attractive so can gay and BI men. Knowing someone else is attractive doesn't mean thst you find them sexual attractive.

  • I literally can't tell because nowadays anyone can be bi so if a girl is over friendly I automatically think she is gay or bi even though she maybe as straight as can be.

  • i honestly wish I was bi-sexual.

    • Why? Ps. if you wish to be bi-sexual.. it sounds as though you're bi-curious... so maybe if you explore and experiement.. you might just find yourself bi-sexual! :)

    • no I'm not, wish I was though.

  • Yes u should

  • most often i cannot, but i occasionally can, by the way they look at you.

  • I am Bi sexual

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