Why do people brag so much about their sexual experience?

[Anonymous]

Seriously, getting laid is the EASIEST thing to do. I hate when people act like just because they had sex, it is some huge accomplishment. I really don't get why so many people think "the more people you f**k, the cooler you are." You can literally walk out your front door and find someone to sleep with. Sleazy horny people are EVERYWHERE so stop priding yourself on some useless nasty fling you had. Not only can you pick someone up anywhere if you really tried, but you can even get on a website and find someone to sleep with. it is not difficult. I know I probably sound like a prude bitch, but I just get so sick of hearing people brag and boast about the mass amounts of pointless sex they have, as if it makes them a better, more interesting person. Yes, I am a virgin. But this is all my choice. I have been with many men, and had MORE than enough opportunities to lose my virginity, but honestly, none of the guys I have ever met thus far have been worth it. I am not waiting until marriage, but I am waiting until I am in a committed relationship, and until I meet someone who thinks of sex as an act of intimacy, not a bragging point. I just don't wanna be a notch on a belt and a tally on a list. I want to be seen for who I am as a person. Not for how easy I am to screw, or for who it is I am sleeping it. Anyone can have sex if they feel like it. Mass amounts of sex with strangers is no accomplishment. It takes more restraint and discipline to be selective about who you sleep with.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, remaining a virgin is the EASIEST thing to do. I hate when people act like just because they're a virgin, it is some huge accomplishment. I really don't get why so many people think "the more "pure" you are, the better you are."

You can literally stay at home and never sleep with anyone. Virgins are EVERYWHERE so stop priding yourself on something you were born with. Not only can you avoid situations where you might be tempted to engage in some intimate fun, but you can even join a convent and never sleep with anyone ever. it is not difficult.

I know I probably sound like a slut, but I just get so sick of hearing people brag and boast about how pure and virginal they are, as if it makes them a better, more moral person.

Yes, I am a nonvirgin. But this is all my choice. I could have stayed a virgin, and I have the assertiveness to say no if I don't want to, but I've met a lot of fun and interesting guys and had a lot of really positive sexual experiences. I am not waiting until marriage, nor do I see it necessary to wait until I'm in a comitted relationship. But I only want to have sex with people who realize that sex is natural and it's normal to want sex as we're sexual beings. Virginity is just a default state, not a bragging point.

I don't treat people like they're a notch on a belt and a tally on a list. I see them for who they are as a person. I only have sex with people who treat me the same way---with respect.

Anyone can remain a virgin if they want to---it's no accomplishment.

[Asker]

IM NOT BRAGGING ABOUT BEING A VIRGIN. I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH SEX. if I met someone that wasn't a complete jackass, or only want me for sex, I wouldn't be one. I have nothing against people who have sex. the thing I don't respect is when they constantly BRAG about the tons of sex they have with strangers and have like stupid competitions with their friends about who can have more. as if sex is some kind of sport or a bragging point. I get that people have sex. its just some peoples attitudes

[Asker]

about sex that I don't understand. all of my friends play a game to see who can rack up more numbers and they all make fun of me for not choosing to participate. they even try and get me drunk just so I can be in the game. I know not everyone is that way, but I am addressing THOSE people in this post. not everyone in the world who has sex. I feel like sex is not something that should be a bragging point no matter how much or how little you have it.

[Opinion Owner]

My point was that there are people on both sides----those who brag about sex and those who brag about being a virgin. Both think it makes them better somehow---it doesn't, and bragging is stupid no matter who is doing it. That said, I do think that sometimes people mistake people who are sexually active talking about sex as bragging. Sometimes it's just an exciting experience that you want to tell someone about.

[Asker]

i don't mind if people talk about sex, it really is just the competition aspect that I have trouble understanding. at the moment, there is a "f*** board" in my living room where they guys I live with keep track of the girls they sleep with, and they don't even put names, just "blond big t*ts" and stuff. and next to my name they wrote "PRUDE". I guess I just feel inferior sometimes because I'm always a joke to others for choosing not to participate.

[Opinion Owner]

That's not cool. I'm sorry that you live with a bunch of d***s. Honestly, I think it's stupid to see someone as inferior because they're a virgin, or because they have a lot of sex. People should do what is right for them, and its not always going to be the same thing for everyone.

[Asker]

i completely agree. I only posted this pretty much out of a fit of rage because of the people I know. I didn't mean to offend anyone by posting this.

[Brando]

Because there's so much social pressure to be "that" guy, that it makes people try to hype themselves up. It's not manly in our culture to NOT go around slaying every piece of ass that walks the Earth, it's not "fun" to be interested in other things, being shy or reserved isn't attractive in our culture, any kind of weakness is harshly criticized and scrutinized...and nobody knows why they do what they do, all they know is that they will be pushed out of whatever group they belong to if they don't conform.

[missjustina]

so you're saying if a girls shy she's not attractive?

[Brando]

I'm saying if anyone is shy, it's not a lot of peoples first pick. This is just a generality, but generalities have truth to them for a reason.

[asakurakid]

here here well god damn said can't argue at all with anything you put one hundred percent on your side on this one

[Asker]

thanks I am glad someone understands me for once! I feel like I am alone in this, all my friends are constantly making fun of me for choosing to not do the whole one night stand thing.

[asakurakid]

hell no stick by it girl I think what your doing is fantastic to me it shows you have respect for yourself and not just giving it to anyone who asks I say good on ya

[peace-love-couture]

Same reason virgins attempt to brag about not having sex.Not having sex is easy.

You sound jealous to be honest...no offense, your whole posts just comes off as jealousy

[Asker]

Trust me, I am anything but jealous. I am just frustrated more than anything else, and I am tired of people talking down to me because I don't do the whole one night stand thing. If I wanted to I could. ANYONE could. I just hate being disrespected for choosing to wait until I am in a committed relationship. I don't see why tons of sex with strangers is such a huge accomplishment. I couldn't be jealous of that if I tried.

[peace-love-couture]

Yea, I don't see sex or virginity as an accomplishment either. But ONSs are the "in" thing nowadays. Although, I personally couldn't care less who sleeps around, my choice to be a virgin has nothing to do with anyone else. They can brag, but is it really something to brag about? I mean, we're both girls so YES, it is easy for us to get sex, but when other girls brag about it and guys take pride in it, I find it pathetic

[Asker]

i completely agree. I guess I am just surrounded by so many people who constantly talk about the many one night stands they have, and always tease me for not wanting to do it. they always try to get me drunk so I can hook up with some random guy at a bar. I just got off the phone with one of them as she bragged about how she couldn't remember the name of the guy she slept with last night. I just got so frustrated I had to let out my anger somewhere haha

[chrsschb]

I haven't had to "try" to get laid in 11 years due to being with the same girl so long but I don't remember it being super easy get laid. Guess my game was weak.

Oh well, I don't regret anything. I was her first and she was my first so we got the share that experience.

[katiesmuff]

Are you having a really bad day?

[Thiezz]

I love you :D

[Asker]

i only posted this because I just for off the phone with my friend. she bragged the whole time about this guy she slept with last night and she couldn't remember his name. I just get made fun of so much from the people I know because I don't act the same way as them. I had to just let out my anger somewhere lol

[MrNameless]

Even though you are a virgin...

Its easy for you to say that getting laid takes no effort whatsoever, because you're a girl.

[Asker]

doesnt matter. that's not what this post is about. my main purpose of this post was to say "sex should not be a bragging point, not matter how much or how little you have." its not some huge accomplishment to have useless one night stands, and I am confused as to why society basically tells us we have to do it. all of my friends and classmates mock me for choosing not to be that way. that's my point.

[Thiezz]

> Seriously, getting laid is the EASIEST thing to do.

The number of involuntary 20+ year old virgins around here seems to disagree with that statement. Perhaps you find it easy, but obviously not everybody does.

[Asker]

I guess it is easy because so many people don't have standards and will take ANYTHING that comes their way. My neighbors even finds random girls on some adult website and brings them home every weekend, and then brags about it. It is hard for people who had standards.

[Asker]

*it is hard for people who HAVE standards and are actually selective about who they sleep with.

[dwiller943]

As a non-virgin, I feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

why are you friends with those sluts in the first place?

[Anonymous]

My standards are low to some extend and I still find very hard to get laid. So this is nonesense.

[Asker]

you could lower your standards even more, or turn to the internet to find people. or even hookers. there is always a way to get laid, even if it is immoral. but that is BESIDE the point. what I'm saying is that I don't see it as a huge bragging point if you DO get laid. I don't get why people see it as such a major accomplishment. am I wrong or does it seem way harder to actually have a real connection with someone? there are MANY more people willing to have sex than to have a real relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

Connections are easy. I mastered the connection bush*t very well, I can make it happen in less than 10 minutes, but all I get is girls making me wait for sex and then dumping me after several months of wasted time waiting, usually for another dude they hook up the same night in a random party. So f*** connection.

[Asker]

it seems like we aren't even talking about the same thing. I'm talking about the people who act like collecting numbers of those they sleep with is a type of sport or competition to see who has more. and about the people who brag about forgetting the names of all the people they sleep with. if you are actually putting effort into getting to know the girl on some level, then I'm not talking about what it is you are doing. I don't see anything wrong with what you are doing and I'm not criticizing it

[Opinion Owner]

No, you were talking about people thinking getting laid is a big deal, but you think is not. I disagree, sex is a big deal, very hard to get unless you travel to another country and spend money on prostitues.

[Asker]

im not saying sex isn't a big deal. I'm just confused about why people seem to associate their worth nowadays with how much they have it, and how many people they have it with. the guys I live with have a "f*** board" in our living room and they keep track of who has gotten those most girls. and vice versa, my girlfriends are constantly bragging about the same thing. they all make fun of me for choosing not to do it. I just don't see why it matters so much.

[Opinion Owner]

Well good for you, but for most people it matters because as a man if you don't have experience you are pretty much f***ed. No good looking girl would ever want you if you are a loser virgin that doesn't know how to handle a girl. It's a paradox because the guys that need sex the most are complete virgins and they can't get it because their virginity or lack of experience overall is what gets in their way.