Guys: would you be into a dominatrix?

Question

So I love to be dominating in the bedroom. I'm usually a really shy sweet girl in everyday contact, but when I get in a bed with a guy I like to dominate him. I generally go for rather tall muscular guys because I'm tall myself. They don't like my dominating personality in the bedroom sometimes because they are supposed to be stronger than me because they are bigger. I'm not saying that I do this all of the time...but would you guys generally have a problem with a dominating girl?

BluMac81 · Accepted Answer

As you have probably heard here a million times, it depends on the guy. Some people have dominant personalities and some submissive personalities. Their personalities stem all the way to their sex life. There tend to be more dominant men and more submissive women traditionally, so, odds are you are going to end up with a confused guy in the bedroom that way. Find an obviously submissive guy, ask him whether he is dominant or submissive in the bedroom and tell him to be honest. You just wait, when the match is made and you have a submissive guy... he will rock your world, and you his ;)

On another note, I am a submissive guy myself, and I can tell you that submissive guys absolutely love to be shorter than their female counterpart. I wish I was shorter just so I could have a chance to look up (literally) to the ladies I date, its such a turn on. But alas, I'm 6 foot. But enough about me, give it a try, if short guys don't turn you off too much, try them out, and see if they are submissive. Submissive short guys will flock to tall dominanting women, you'll see :)

BD01JK · Accepted Answer

It's all based on the guy. Personally, I'm a very dominant person in general, and especially so in the bedroom. A dominant woman, who isn't just "feisty" but really MUST be the dominant, would clash with me too much for it to work. That being said, I know many submissive men who enjoy a dominant woman in the bedroom. Some think it's nice to release that control and for a woman to show them what she really wants. Some "dominant" women are really sadists (a person who enjoys inflicting pain). They're into whipping, spanking, and that kind of thing. I'm not sure which you are, but there is a distinct difference. The key is to always start soft and test things out at first. If you go "full bore" off the bat, someone who might be open to the idea might be scared off. Take it easy and test the waters... you'll find what you need. Good luck!

powersptr · Answer

There are plenty of submissive guys out there, of all shapes and sizes. The fact that you are normally shy in public but dominant I bed shows that you never know what you'll discover about people when you get them alone. I'd say give men some notice of your tastes, and some will lose interest, which is fine, not  every guy is a good fit, but those who like the idea, knowing its coming, will be that much more prepared and into it.

l-hedoniste · Answer

I wouldn't, but I know plenty of guys that would--for some, a dealbreaker. If you're into him, put it out there early.

CuriousEddie · Answer

A problem?  Absolutely not.  I like the idea of a dominating woman... even to the point of 'serving' her sexually... but perhaps you didn't mean it to that extreme.

iwillanswer · Answer

no I wouldn't have a problem I would just go with it but it depends on what kind of girl you are.

John83 · Answer

Yes, I would be into that. I like switching roles. I've been taller and stronger than all of my girlfriends, but my current one likes to play-wrestle with me. I love going along with it and letting her pin me down, pretending I can't get her off me, and then submitting to her sexually. Turns me on a lot to make her feel totally in control.

jinux · Answer

I'm tall and muscular and I wouldn't mind you to be dominant.  I think it's kinda hot ;)  I'm not really into pain though so...if you mean dominating in a peaceful way then sure! lol