I think my boyfriend did anal sex with me while I was passed out...

[Anonymous]

So me and my boyfriend went clubbing the other night. I drank a lot and don't remember a whole lot. We had sex at my house but I don't remember the outcome...Did he come or not? I feel asleep. I asked him what happened and he said that he finished and we feel asleep. We together.. I asked if I passed out first he said no and nothing happened after we feel asleep. Anyways I woke to go to the bathroom and I noticed liquid coming out of my a**...and vapor like if you were to have anal. It could have been sum freak intestinal thing but I am thinking he was doing anal when I was asleep. I usually don't do anal. Its been a year . He said nothing. Drunk or not I don't do anal. What now? Do I believe him? I can't really prove anything. He would be a douche if really did take advantage of me.

[marley86]

I think it sounds like your boyfriend had anal sex with you. I feel you on this one. I don't think a lot of guys understand how seriously girls take this issue. Some guys seem to think that it isn't a big deal if they do something like this. I have had guys try to do it without asking first, and I find that to very disrespectful! If he was drunk, he would be more likely to try to attempt to do it. I know that the cases I dealt with was with guys that were drunk. My favorite is when guys try to claim that they missed and put it in the wrong place. Some guys can be really great, pull your chair out for you, bring you flowers, but still attempt anal. If given the opportunity, some guys WILL go for it. I have had more than one guy message me on this site asking what girls think about anal, and often when I give them honest answers they just don't get it. I try to tell them that it can be painful for us, often uncomfortable, and often make us feel shameful. Some girls like it, yes, but not all. Often these guys will mention those girls that do, and assume that other girls must like it too. If they don't, they often feel if they attempt it they might. Sorry about your situation, hope everything works out with you and this guy.

[lv4lv]

Just saying - the "in the wrong hole" problem is very real but unlikely. Think about it, how far away are those two holes? An inch? Even when a guy walks that thing between his legs will wiggle back and forth. Now how much solid support does a bed give? Climbing and balancing over another human? Even the most skilled archers in the world know that if your bow isn't properly guided the arrow will not make it's perfect target.

[bbygirlx]

Dump him omg is report him to the police that’s rape

[DMR_RDM]

It really does sound like he did take advantage of you...Sick bastard.

Tell me, did you feel any pain around that area the following day? If so, then yeah. It happened.

If he is going to try and keep it from you, try to send him on a guilt trip. Tell him that you don't do anal, and that you would never consent to it, drunk or not. Let him know that the best thing for him to do would be to come clean about it. You can't remember anything, so he has to fill in the gaps. If he admits it, then it's up to you what your next move is.

[Asker]

Yes I felt pain and I did asked him and laughed first then he said nothing happened

[DMR_RDM]

You need to let him know that this is really making you worried/panic/whatever. Tell him that your mind won't be put at ease until you feel the situation is resolved and he has been completely truthful. If he can quarantee that nothing happened in a way that you believe him and feel comfortable about the situation, then you can stop worrying. :) I hope I'm helping with all of this stuff.

[Romeo0071234]

Wow sorry to hear that.. and the fact he laughed about it makes it worst.. he could have at least apologized for his drunk behavior.

[Elliot0_07]

Girl come on, stop complaning!

He's a man, that's what guys do! And I'm not trolling in here.

And after all, it was your fault. He did this to you because you refused him anal sex before, so he had the right to forced u to it.

[Anonymous]

You deserve it. Stop being a drunk slut and these things won't happen. Get a father figure or its brutal throat fucking for you one day by some guy you meat at a bar. You can thank feminists for that. They took your fathers away, and now girls like you do freaky shit for male approval... and we do what we want and treat you like the who're you are. Thank you for the gifts feminists ha ha. Plan backfired didn't it?

[Opinion Owner]

I hate feminists too, but yeah their hatred and lies about men only turned us into monsters that make women pay everywhere, online, offline, doesn't matter, it's consensual and everything... but the women have no clue what they're in for once they agree.

[Anonymous]

You could set up a similar scenario and pretend to drink but not, then go to sleep, and see what he does. Or you could do the same thing with a video camera and see what he does.