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My boyfriend can't come when I give him a blow job, what am I doing wrong?

So I have been with a few guys and only had sex with one. I have never gave a blowjob before, so I went online to websites for some tips. Tried them... Show More

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Ive spent 30 min at a time giving him a blowjob.

Most Helpful Opinion

  • Maybe his little mind has been warped from years of p*rn viewing and the only thing that really turns him on is anal. I do have trouble having an orgasm from oral myself but when you say your guy always wants anal it tells me p*rn warped his mind. Throw him out and find yourself a man that isn't so jaded by p*rn.

What Guys Said 10

  • Maybe he just doesn't come from blowjobs. If so, that's not your responsibility.

  • your boyfriend just sucks... tell him to stop jerking off so much. maybe you aren't even getting into it.

  • some people just have more endurance than others-

  • Use your hand to stroke the shaft, focus on the head of the penis and occasionally lick/suck on the balls, also a finger up the anus or putting pressure significantly helps increase the sensation (use a latex glove and lube if you're worried about getting dirty)

  • weird. kinda hard to mess up a bj unless you're biting. just be creative. what I do when I eat girls out is try to spell things out on her clit with my tongue. maybe that works on guys' d***s idk.if you get really good he'll be able to translate what you wrote with your tongue cause all guys think with their d***s.

  • Curl around and let him finger your ass as you give him head. Also, jack with hand AND suck at same time. Should be explosive...

  • you might have to talk dirty since it will turn him on.

  • just tease him til he's nice and hard and talk to him about it. ask him what feels and what didn't and practice deep throating. I love when my girl blows me. as for him doing anal, talk to him that you don't like it and tell him about your needs and if he doesn't understand then find a new man

  • You've got to compress your lips, among other things. Get some pressure on his d.i.ck.

What Girls Said 7

  • How much time are you spending on giving him a blowjob?

    • Mmm...and you're trying a variety of things? Using suction, licking up the bottom vein, gently playing with his balls, etc.? That is a bit strange. Does he seem like he enjoys it at all and just doesn't come, or does he just sit there?

  • well maybe you're not getting enough into it, guys are visual so you need to let go of your inhibitions and just et into it. I'm not really for anal or sex at all really. id much rather give a blow job even though I never have. (virgin also)

  • You are doing something wrong: First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death. Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning. Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes. Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually, by clicking on the link

  • I've given head to two guys; the first took a long time to come from sex but came quickly from a bj (this being the first time for both of us). The second is just not that into oral sex, even though it feels good.So, I don't think you need any real help there. Just ask him to let you know what feels good, and if he's really even into it at all. If it's just not going to happen then it's not; a bj doesn't have to be until he finishes, just use it as foreplay and move on to bigger and better things.As for the anal, I've never been there so can't help you. But perhaps he isn't finding sex entirely satisfying? Try some new positions and those tried and true kegels exercises - not to mention spontaneity. Lift up your skirt and pull your panties to the side - I'm in some state of dress when me and my boyfriend have sex probably 80% of the time because it's just more exciting to drop everything you're doing to make love right away. I think it excites him that I need him inside me so desperately there's no time for getting naked.

  • maybe he's gay?

  • Sounds like he likes it tight :) the tighter it is the more turned on he gets so try giving him a tight hand job while blowing his d***. If he masturbates then you know you can squeeze his **** pretty hard without hurting him. You could also ask him to show you how he masturbates and participate with him that way you get an idea of how he likes it.

  • Maybe you're not acting naughty enough. You're not familiar with blow jobs, and it shows, I guess.. Have you tried to act like a p*rn star, look dirty , smile kinky and stuff like that? it's just confidence you need. and yea, also the tips those guys & girls gave you here about the technique. But since you said you read stuff on the internet..you shouldn't be facing this kind of problem. Tell you what: stop thinkin' like "oh, what am I going to do next? this, and then that, and then...". Just play. Act like you like it, if you don't like it. I personally hate it that you must act kinky but that's it. And if HE still continues with his anal sex stuff and he doesn't like your BJ...too much redtube. com for him :-)

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