My boyfriend can't come when I give him a blow job, what am I doing wrong?

So I have been with a few guys and only had sex with one. I have never gave a blowjob before, so I went online to websites for some tips. Tried them and nothing is working. I am my boyfriends first... But neither here or there.. every time I try to give him a blowjob or have sex with him he always wants to do anal and I'm not into that. I tried it last night with him but it made me a lil uncomfortable.. Someone give me some advise...

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Ive spent 30 min at a time giving him a blowjob.

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  • Maybe his little mind has been warped from years of p*rn viewing and the only thing that really turns him on is anal. I do have trouble having an orgasm from oral myself but when you say your guy always wants anal it tells me p*rn warped his mind. Throw him out and find yourself a man that isn't so jaded by p*rn.

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  • Maybe he just doesn't come from blowjobs. If so, that's not your responsibility.

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  • your boyfriend just sucks... tell him to stop jerking off so much. maybe you aren't even getting into it.

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  • You've got to compress your lips, among other things. Get some pressure on his d.i.ck.

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  • Curl around and let him finger your ass as you give him head. Also, jack with hand AND suck at same time. Should be explosive...

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  • you might have to talk dirty since it will turn him on.

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  • How much time are you spending on giving him a blowjob?

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    • Mmm...and you're trying a variety of things? Using suction, licking up the bottom vein, gently playing with his balls, etc.? That is a bit strange. Does he seem like he enjoys it at all and just doesn't come, or does he just sit there?

  • You are doing something wrong:

    First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.

    It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.

    Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death.

    Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.

    A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.

    When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.

    Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning.

    Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes.

    Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually, by clicking on the link

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  • I've given head to two guys; the first took a long time to come from sex but came quickly from a bj (this being the first time for both of us). The second is just not that into oral sex, even though it feels good.

    So, I don't think you need any real help there. Just ask him to let you know what feels good, and if he's really even into it at all. If it's just not going to happen then it's not; a bj doesn't have to be until he finishes, just use it as foreplay and move on to bigger and better things.

    As for the anal, I've never been there so can't help you. But perhaps he isn't finding sex entirely satisfying? Try some new positions and those tried and true kegels exercises - not to mention spontaneity. Lift up your skirt and pull your panties to the side - I'm in some state of dress when me and my boyfriend have sex probably 80% of the time because it's just more exciting to drop everything you're doing to make love right away. I think it excites him that I need him inside me so desperately there's no time for getting naked.

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  • maybe he's gay?

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  • well maybe you're not getting enough into it, guys are visual so you need to let go of your inhibitions and just et into it. I'm not really for anal or sex at all really. id much rather give a blow job even though I never have. (virgin also)

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