How do I feel comfortable with my body during sex?

I have always struggled with feelings of insecurity regarding my small breasts, and it affects my ability to be intimate with my boyfriend. Every time we start making out and his hand starts to travel to my boobs,I sort of direct him away. During my last relationship, the guy I was going out with was a self-confessed "boob man", and he even admitted to me that my breasts were the one part of my body he would change, but said that it wasn't a huge deal and not to get so sensitive over it. He would even avoid them sometimes when we were fooling around. Nonetheless, that experience has left me feeling very self-conscious about what guys think of my body. In addition, I was teased about my small boobs on more than one ocassion in high school. People have always told me that there is way more to me than my breast size, and I know that's true but it still bothers me during sex. We haven't been going out for long so it's not too big of a problem yet, but I know it'll become one eventually. So, should I sit down and talk to him about it or is it something I should keep to myself? I know it's not fair to punish him over what my last boyfriend did to me, so do you at least have any tips for feeling comfortable with my body when I'm with my new one?
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  • Look the truth is that many of us guys like smaller breast on women. Some of us like butts over boobs, some like boobs over butts...etc So your last relationship was with a guy that like boobs. Who in the hell was he that he'd actually tell you that he'd change that about you if he could? No one is 100% perfect and I'm sure that there were many things about him that you would have changed otherwise he'd still be in the picture with you. Many guys honestly do find it very sexy to make love to a woman with smaller breast. My own experience I've had relationships with ladies with large breast and small breast. The women with small breast seem to have much more sensitive nipples and harden more when they're excited than larger breast women. So sexually they have a real advantage. Also, remember this please, for all men's sake, if you ask him what he thinks about your body or breast and he tells you he loves your body or that your sexy or that he loves your boobs BELIEVE HIM! he means it. You're fine so stop stressing over it and enjoy. Life is to short.

  • Too many small breasted women worry about the size of their breasts. My wife WAS one of them. She didn't go so far as to push my hand away as you mentioned, she mentioned this fear she had and I assured her that her chest size is fine. During one of your love-making sessions, if the guy carressed, kissed, sucked on, etc your breasts, Did it feel good? Turn you on ? What I am trying to say here is you shouldn't worry so much about what others think, rather enjoy what you have. If a guy truly doesn 't find small breasts attractive then he has no business approaching you to begin with. Next time you're alone with your partner and he moves a hand toward your breasts, let him go for it. Even moreso if you get pleasure from having them touched.

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  • Oh my :o

    All I can say is that all of the guys' answers have truly nailed this one! Everything that they have said is 100% true (: Take their advice, and believe me, you will be on you way to a healthier and happier life with you and your man <3

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  • I think you answered your own question when you said it's not fair to punish him because of your previous boyfriend. You should always give someone the benefit of the doubt until they prove otherwise and he is clearly into you. By directing him away you'resending the mixed signals and pushing him away both physically and emotionally. He is comfortable with you and all you need to do is trust him so you can be comfortable with him.

  • "So, should I sit down and talk to him about it." Yes. In fact, you should send him this entire post, every word.

    The way it's supposed to work, is that your man loves your body so much that you can't help but follow his example. Unfortunately, your man screwed this part up.

    (Dudes: Don't tell the small girl you're a boob man, don't make love to her boobs differently, don't avoid them, don't tell her you'd change them. Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong.)

  • If your current guy is holding you hostage emotionally because you are petite up front, your relationship is dead already. His priorities are screwed up. Move on.

    Advice: There are many men, including me, that find pleasure even with "sub-A's" so long as your body is proportional. Get or remain fit, keep your weight off and learn to like what you have.

    Perhaps 1/4 billion Asian girls are 32A or less and their men like them fine. You will find many who like you.

  • I agree with mthams' answer. If your new boyfriends' hands are wandering to your breasts it means he is comfortable with you and likes your body the way it is. He wouldn't be trying to touch your boobs if he didn't like them. Why deny both him and yourself the full pleasure of intimacy? I've dated two women with A cups before and I honestly loved their breasts.