Look sweetheart, he's been in a loving relationship with rosie palm and her 5 sisters looooooonnnng before he met you. lol, you made a big mistake here. It's bad enough his little misses caught him red handed gearing up for a tugjob. Telling him your disturbed by his past, confronting him about his internet porn. All these together are really violating his personal space. this with a history of molestation and your asking for it. Sometimes you have to let sleeping dogs lay. I'm also a little amazed here that you have the ability to smell semen. That's just amazing or this guy's baby batter isn't making the Armani perfume list. If you want to keep this guy, your going to have to take one for the team here. You gotta back off and not be overbearing and selfish. He, needs to pony up and seek counseling for sexual violence in his history. If you two can't find a happy medium then you'll need to move on. - Good luck ! J
2 0 0 0If his behavior bothers you so much, why aren't you helping him pack? Masturbating and having sex are two different things. Both pleasant, but very different. Sex carries a lot of burdens with it. He has to devote a lot more time and effort to take care of your needs. He can masturbate and get to sleep in a couple minutes. What I suspect went wrong here is you embarrassed him, especially after catching him you did some research and kept pushing the issue. Some of us have very delicate feelings, even though we usually hide them. He is embarrassed and hurt and he is leaving rather than live with the shame he feels with you.
2 3 0 0Were you able to smooth it out? I can tell your a very caring partner, but you were hurt also. I wish I could give you some sure fire way of smoothing his feelings and yours. It will be a shame if this minor missunderstanding puts an end to the two of you.
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I think you just answered your question yourself. You need to separate out what the issue really is. If it is not the masturbating or the porn, you need to tell him that. Tell him that it is not about what he's doing, it's about being honest with you. But honestly, I would make it into a big deal. Like guys on here have said, nearly all guys masturbate, it's just that some like to keep it more private than others. So, perhaps he is one of those guys that likes to keep that private; and I think you should respect him for that, if that's how he is. But, like I say, I think your best bet is to let him know what you're really upset over, which is the lying, not the masturbating or porn.
0 0 0 0Its for the best he was lying to you. 1. There's a second woman and he only wants sex with one person. Or 2. He is afraid of sex with a real person but he's still a bit of a man slut
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0 9If he leaves you because you caught him in a lie. Then the relationship wasn't going to work regardless. It sounds like he has some issues to work out and until he does, he's not stable for one.
If he can't handle this small bump in the road, then I wouldn't stick around for someone like him. As for you, you did nothing wrong.
Sorry, I misread it somewhere in there.0 0 0 0He doesn't masterbate ever and he doesn't like porn yet. you caught him mid - masterbating and having lots of porn on the comp.
Seriously, there's nothing wrong with masterbating. It's a natural high, sleeping pill and a work out all in one.
As far as his sexual drive, that's something that you'll just have to work out.2 0 0 0Tell him that you were on your period and that you freaked out over somthing stupid.
He masturbates, him and 99% of every other male out there.
He has a TON of porn on his computer, so does 100% of males out there who knows how to use a computer. So what? he masturbates to other women then you, Guess what? That's just how it is.
Masturbating to him is easy as he doesn't have a need to "perform." For whatever reason he doesn't feel comfortable having sex with you, that's an issues you guys need to work out but for you to attack him about his masturbation, it's invading his private practice.1 0 0 0Well, If a bears hungry.he'll eat. The hankerin for a spankerin catches us all at different times my dear.different times. - j
2 0 0 0its normal get over it
0 0 0 0Watch him masturbate or do it for him
0 0 0 0Well, he’s leaving you because you went through his stuff.. and you won’t let it go. You have to know when to leave touchy things alone... yeah he lied.. that’s a problem. But you confronted him once about it. Nagging him is the best way to drive him out.
0 0 0 0Look he is messed up and probably does it on a dialy basis you just haven't found out about it. If it bothers you let him go he's not going to change.
1 0 0 0Masturbating isn't the issue. 95% of guys masturbate. It's the lying about it that is wierd. And yes, it's pretty obvious what come smells like, denying that is lame. I've done lots of lame things in the past, so I'm not claiming to be holer than thou, but everybody needs to grow up, and I think it may be true that this guy has intimacy issues because of his abuse, but he needs to realize that by thinking of you instead, he can stop focusing on his past and feeling sorry for himself, and by making you happy, he can make himself happy too.
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