Why is girlfriend not active during sex?

[Anonymous]

when ever me and the girlfriend have sex, she doesn't seem into it. She will never initiate it, and during foreplay - she doesn't seem into it, gets distracted with TV on...big turnoff (we leave it on so her parents don't hear us),I don't think she cares about foreplay. then during the actual sex part, she just lays there and makes me do everything, even moving her...its really a turn off. She won't tell me what she wants or won't even move to edge of the bed or move to what ever position we are trying. The only position she likes is me sitting up with my legs straight out, and she sits on my lap and I don't do anything...(another turn off) Are a lot of girls like this or are you more active during sex? and actual move to the positions you like?

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

I hear some complaints about that from my friends and guys I've dated. Some girls are just boring and lousy f***s OK. its as simple as that. However not all girls are like this OK, I have a question did you loose it to her cause you asked if most girls are like this. But yup some girls are active for an example I've been told I'm good at riding it. Here are my 2 fave positions doggy style and butterfly

[Asker]

yes I lost it to her...but I was her 3rd

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Yup that means she's just bad at it you're doing nothing wrong.

[Asker]

are you joking or are you serious?

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Im serious, my boyfriend told me one time he had sex with a girl who just lay there and it was very boring.

[mab5275]

Most girls who are INexperienced are like that. You should try to get her to initiate it. It'll drive you nuts, but refuse to do it. Don't say anything, just be...boring. Or you could talk to her about it? She might just be nervous.

[Asker]

she only initiates it the day after her period ends

[Asker]

actually, she was the one who initiated it when I lost my virginity to her back in college, and she actually initiated it when we lived on campus together. I graduated 2 years before her and it seems that's when she lost interest.

[broken1xx]

i never heard of someone not even trying to get into it. Like that's so weird. I would get so turned off if someone just wasn't into it. ew. ha ha usually people want to be good in bed. so strange.

[louisee]

That seems really weird, maybe she's just embarrassed because she's inexperienced. Maybe you could try putting her in a position where she has to do something, try watching p*rn together, or use a vibrator.

[Asker]

why would she be embarrassed tho, I'm her 3rd. She's my 1st and she said I'm the best she's had?

[louisee]

She might not know what to do, you could try telling her what you like ask her if she has any fantasies or something she wants to try, or to do certain things to you. They have sex card/board games that you can play, just try to do things where she has to participate at least a little.

[Asker]

how doesn't she know what to do? me and her have been going out and having sex for 3 years. and she's had sex at least for 2 years before we met with the 1st 2 guys. Ill have to try and get her watching p*rn with me and ask her about some fantasies.

[steffysweetheart]

OMG, how boring! Sounds like she doesn't have much of a sex drive. Wow, sorry.

[Asker]

yea tell me about it...its like we are total opposites

[Pinkkitty92]

Does she ever ask you for sex? Seems like she's just not into it.

[Asker]

she usually only asks for it the day after her period, but wants to skip all the other sexual activities aka foreplay and get right down to business. I really don't think she's that into it tho. we actually just went 7 weeks before she wanted to do it and when we did, same thing - she didn't do anything.

[Asker]

and also forgot to mention, we don't even tease each other or do any other sexual activities between this...its like she has no interest at all in sex. Back in college, she would try to initiate it but I turned her down once because I had a lot of HW and studying to do in order to pass one of my last classes to graduate.

[Pinkkitty92]

She obviously has very low sex drive.. Maybe if you ask her to watch p*rn before you guys do anything, and ask her not to touch herself while she's watching.. Maybe she also needs to hear how you are feeling.. She doesn't read your mind ;) communication is the key. Tell her what you like, ask her what she likes.. Maybe light up some candles.. Make her feel wanted and also tell her you don't feel wanted, that you want to please her and you want THE BOTH of you to work on this.

[Anonymous]

That's called a dead lay