I gave my best friend head while I was drunk... now what?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend (Robert) of 6 1/2 years broke up with me about 2 or 3 months ago, and I still want to be with him. Well he went to a strip club last night, so to avoid staying home and being depressed because he was going to a strip club I went out to the bar with a life time friend (Bobby). Not only is he my friend, but he was also my frist boyfriend as well. But we never even kissed. Well I got very drunk and at one point I was drunk enough to send Robert a pic of me and Bobby at the bar together. Robert didn't relize who it was and when he replyed he said "I got the pic, and if the guy does anything to you I will kick his ass" That was just a whatever because Bobby is just a friend. Well I kept drinking and I bought some drinks for him as well. I spent well over 100 dollars on drinks, so needless to say I was really messed up. Me and Bobby ended up dancing together, and I tend to be the kind of girl who gets really touchy feely when she is drunk, and I was rubbing my butt on his junk. and I put his hands on my breast as well and he held them as we danced.. one thing led to another and we started making out on the dance floor, and he was even kissing my neck. This is not something that is normal for me. Because I have only kissed one guy my whole life and that was Robert. Later on, I was drunk to the point where I was kicked out of the bar. We walked to his house and went to his bedroom. And then I ended up giving him head... He even took off my shirt and bra. I am not sure how to handle this because I have never done anything like that before in my life. He was my frist boyfriend so there is always going to be a place in my heart for him, but I am still very much in love with Robert and want to be with him very much. I know I am going to end up telling Robert that this happened because I do not want to lie to him. But I won't know how to handle it when me and him do get back together and me and Bobby are still friends and hang out, Robert may not be able to trust me... And on top of that Bobby has not even tryed to get ahold of me today, granted we don't hang out all the time and we don't talk on a day to day basis, but I would think that that would be a good reason for him to try and get ahold of me... right? I just don't know what to do.

[bigworm341212]

He broke up with you and you are totally free. That's the whole point of being broken up. Don't be sorry for what you did because of Robert. Be a confident women that you are and move on with your life whether it is with Robert or not. It's not for you to wait around until Robert decides he's ready. I have slept with girls who I consider just friends and we are still friends today with know problems. As a guy and a girl if we get drunk and are both touchy feely and horny we may end up hooking up, but at the same time I know we are just friends and that we are not right for each other so it is what it is. What you do while your single is your business.

[Asker]

I think it makes it more complated with the fact that me and Bobby used to date as well... like I said there is always going to be a place in my heart for him, but its not like that... Also I didn't add that me and Robert have a child together. So that makes things a little more complated...

[50call23]

A break is a test for long timers it means nothing it's a time to find yourself not suck dick you gotta be stronger then that your friend will have to go, you can't blow a guys roof off and still think your man is gonna let you hang put with him, still and if he does Hell wanna kick his ass first so you decide. and what a friend your drunk and vulnerable and he let's you blow him who wants friends like that

[zombiechick5309]

you two broke up and aren't together. if you two get back together, it shouldn't matter what you did when you were apart. tell him if you want, but it shouldn't matter. and also, you don't hang out with "bobby" very much so there is another reason why it doesn't matter.

[Thiezz]

What gives Robert the right to kick the asses of guys who hang out with you if he broke up with you months ago?

[Asker]

It's because I know he still has feelings for me, but he dosn't want to admit it because he feels like he can't be with me because he thinks that if I stay with him he will just hurt him. but I still love him and want to be with him and make it work.

[alana1992]

Well be honest to yourself, you are hurting him.. By going to these bars with other guys and I mean if you tell him that you ended up giving head to that guy that night you sent the photo, then surely he wouldn't want anything to do with you in the end.

[Asker]

That was the frist I ever went out to a bar. And I wasn't just going with some guy, I went with a friend. Also I only want to tell him because I know that he would tell me, he has told me already that he has slept with someone else, he was already in and out of another relationship.