Here's my take on this. You don't want to have any sort of sexual contact. Okay, that's your choice. But, you want to arouse him? That makes no sense at all.
Don't arouse someone if you won't keep going. Either he's going to try and pressure you or he'll get aroused and go get some sort of sexual relief from someone else.
Blue balls don't feel good.
Last thing, "I am 16 and not a slut!". What are you implying here? I don't really like that comment too much. Because you want to save yourself before marriage doesn't mean the girls who don't are sluts.
In short, don't try to arouse him if you can't assume the consequences.
I know what you mean and how you feel. Just stop every once in a while and look him deep into the eyes and kind of hold his face while doing it. My ex loved it when I did that to him!
Thank you very much. You seem to be the only person who actually gets this.
Yea I used to be in your position you want to show him that you care but not by doing anything sexual. Yea just do what I said, he will like it! Plus it's cute because it's not like you're kissing just anyone when you look him in the yes and hold them you are telling them that you are kissing THEM and are focused on them. You can message me if you need any more help!
Why bother making him aroused if you're not going to do anything or help him out with it? That's just mean!
@update: getting him aroused doesn't make him feel good, that will just give him blue balls. And I'm 16 too, I have sex with my boyfriend. Touching a penis DOESNT make someone a slut. And I'm pretty sure getting him hard would be giving him the wrong idea, don't ya think?...
Getting him aroused isn't what makes him feel good, getting him off does. And if you did give him a hand-job wouldn't make you a slut. If you're not gonna plant a flower, don't dig a hole.
maybe rub his genittals through his pants and then go inside his pants and workk inside to his penis
are you scared of his penis or something lol
No, I am sixteen and would rather not do something just yet. We have only been dating for 3 months and he is a senior and will be graduating soon. I don't want to do something I will regret if he only plans on this being a short lvied relationship (if he plans on breaking up before he goes to college).
im not saying have sex with the guy... a handjob is minuscule btw your getting advice from a 16 year old
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You don't give BJ's, you don't want to touch his penis, so what is the purpose of getting him aroused? If you're giving long tongue kisses, he is probably aroused already. The only thing I see happening here is you sending him home with blueballs. I sure hope he masturbates often.
give him a long tounge kiss
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