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He doesn't understand your physical problems - life has trained him that girls make up lies in order to avoid sex with him, some of these are because they are upset about something he did.
He is satisfying himself - masturbation ... or just reading sexual material - in the bedroom and he has been taught that this is dirty, not really cheating but feels like it - and not to be caught, embarrassing. THis is not satisfying him like you do and making him grumpy. Grumpy extends to your friends - how come she has time for them, interrupting our potential sex time? Sex satisfaction first, then friend time should be the law.
In short, irritation bred by no great sex with his one & only.
Your irritation might find solutions in the lube area from KY, Finale, Astroglide and beyond - add spit when needed. Trim up any potential hair that can add to irritation, etc.
He might come sooner if:
-he avoids alcohol
-you provide more foreplay with hands, mouth, vibrator/toys (so less time being rubbed raw, saved for last to finish him off)0 0 0 0He's just recently started having beer at night, and all of my friends are his same friends that I met through him. We both just moved to a new area and his friends we all know from work. About the embarrassment of masturbating, yes. He has expressed this before, that he's ashamed of it. He also has several fan fic sites that he reads every day, many of them do have sex scenes.
Let us know how it goes, wishing you all the best. Please select a best answer before you sign off?
0 0 0 0I will be sure to select one, soon as this situation has either a solution or resolution :) Thanks for your advise, best so far...
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Well to avoid the raw bit, it's probably best to do other forms of stimulation - you could give him a blow job or use lube and give him a hand job - both are enjoyable experiences for a guy and give you a break.
The fact he wanted you to stimulate him means he wanted to want to have sex - sometimes if you get in bed, settle down with a book, your mind is completely geared for getting ready to sleep - it can be hard for a guy to switch gears.
If you know for a fact he isn't cheating then yeah, perhaps he is masturbating more, maybe he's gotten into the habit of it because of the times when you have to go without sex. Ask him about it.0 0 0 0Not sure but it sounds like the honey moon faze is over. I have been married for many many years (20) and I have learned just as us women go through phases so do men. I wouldn't read into what is happening to much. It could take him a month or 2 to come out of it. Maybe try and talk to HIM after all he is your husband. COMMUNICATION IS KEY to a successful marriage!
0 1 0 0I did talk to him, all he kept saying was "I don't know, I don't know." We're about to take a month long vacation and trip. He said he thinks its stress from work, and that's why he hasn't been himself. He says if this trip brings back the old him, he will make efforts to take more relaxation time, with me, so that I won't feel neglected.
Stress from work can definitely do it - my boyfriend went through a very atypical period where he didn't really want to have sex for a week, and I was getting really frustrated with him but he was stressed from work, from moving, from grad school applications... it happens. If it lasts for more than a couple weeks then it's more serious but it sounds like it could just be a blip. Give him the benefit of the doubt
*Also at the same time I was having trouble getting used to my boyfriend's size too - until we discovered the position that works best for us - I thought it was a lost cause for a while but I'm glad you resolved your problems =)
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