Did I give him a bad blowjob?

Question

Well I hooked up with a friend of mine. We didn't have sex (I'm still a virgin) but I gave him a *******. I know that people think you can't give a bad one but I'm sure you can. I feel weird but thinking back on what happened its driving me crazy lol. I just want to know if I'm bad at it, I haven't given that many but I still want to know that a guy would enjoy them from me (not saying I go around giving them but if I decided to give a guy a bj I want to know that he enjoys it) Also as a warning I ask people to not judge. I know this guy and stuff just happened. The focus here is on the bj lolFirst of all we were both drunk at the time. I'm sure I was drunker than he was and I was really trying but the alcohol was just making it hard to perform well so to speak lol. Anyway, I don't think I really sucked hard enough on him, like I don't feel as if my lips were tight enough around his penis. Also, my hair kept going in my mouth at the beginning so I had to stop a coupIe of times. I was trying to use my hands at one point but I don't really remember if it was wet enough for that. He said I wasn't hurting him but I feel like it couldn't have really felt good if it wasn't wet enough. By accident I took him too deep and hit my gag reflex and noticeably gagged which embarrassed me. He said it felt good when I asked at the time so maybe I'm being too hard on myself but I still think I did a horrible job :(. Anyway, I knew he was about to come and I was gonna jerk him off but I gagged again and lost focus and stopped moving my hand so he just finished himself which I feel like confirmed to me that I didn't do a good enough job :(. I did swallow though so maybe that made up for something hopefully. Honestly I just feel like it was horrible for him. Also my pride is hurt lol. I want to do it again just to show him it could be better. I feel like I can't be horrible at this since I know what I did wrong but damn I feel bad for making him sit through it lolAnyway, do you think I did a horrible job? Once again, no judging please and thanks in advanceoh yeah and any tips are appreciated

cindys · Accepted Answer

probably. just do something like this next time:

First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.

It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.

Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death.

Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.

A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.

When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.

Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning.

Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes.

Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually, by clicking on the link

TarrAva · Accepted Answer

No one is born a master and given the circumstances, you did what your state was capable of doing ;-)

Don't worry about your technique when you were drunk. He could not fully enjoy it because he was not sober either.

The fact that you had your gag reflex is totally normal and it takes lot of practice to suppress it. Don't take example on the actors in the porn clips.

It is important that you create a suction, a kind of vacuum around his dick and don't be shy to work with your tongue. The underneath part of his dickhead (glans) is very sensitive and you can achieve miracles with the tip of your tongue just teasing the glans and with the tip of your tongues, you can even penetrate slightly the urethra.

Work with your other assets, namely your hands. Use one of your hands to softly scratch the scrotum while the other can be used to accompany the movement of your head. You can also, rotate your hand on the shaft left to right while going up and down.

Always be gentle with the testicles as they are utmost sensitive.

You can also just wrap your lips around the glans and work just the glans with your lips and tongue.

I love to look at my guy when I do give a BJ. A very sensual look right into the eyes of the guy works miracles.

There is a good porn clip on the net that shows you how eye contact is most erotic. It gets me going whenever I see it.

Feel free to DM me if you want to see it. I don't want to post the link here openly. Good luck and you'll get better with practice and when sober.

temptress01 · Accepted Answer

most guys are going to say yes you can give a bad blow job, I don't know if you did give a bad one or not, but you were drunk and giving a good blow job takes a level of skill that most men don't realise, tips ? well stopping when you are have started isn't good, it breaks the momentum, taking it slow and making sure you are comfortable with what you have in your mouth before taking anymore is the best way to avoid the gag reflex, sounds like you were too drunk to perform that doesn't mean you give a bad bj sober

justimagineher · Accepted Answer

It really depends, I feel it does take some use to. When I gave my first blowjob, I was clueless, I was trying to do what p*rnstars was and definitely wasn't working out. With my current boyfirend, he said, I'm real good. But it all depends on the guys, some guys love it when you gag on it, because to them it just goes deep in ya throat, to them its like, "ooh hell yeah!" lol, I think the best is just to ask how he wants it done, and what works for him, I mean, guys can go down on us and it don't always feel good, you have to go with a rhythm...

I've stopped a few times, getting pubs in my mouth ect, but next time, you can try to tighten up on his penis, you know like covering your teeth and tightening it up on his penis, tease the head a few times, and suck really tight on it and then just work ya way down,...

Don't be so hard on yourself, you said he almost came -- if you did bad, he wouldn't even reach that point -- I don't always suck until my boyfriend cums, I always say, tell me when you're gonna come and you can jerk off in my face, hahaaha... hey it works!

Craig69 · Accepted Answer

Honey, there ain't no such thing as a bad BJ, just some that are better than others. The more you do it the better you become, so eventually you may become a champion c0cksucker. A couple of things to remember, is #1, it's better if you do it when you are not drunk. #2 Don't stop and pause partway thru, just keep going. #3 Make sure the guys c0ck is slippery with your spit.. #4 Don't worry about gagging, it's really OK. #5 It really feels great when your hand is stroking the shaft and your lips and tongue are working the head of the c0ck-make sure there is a lot of spit so it's lubed up really good. #6 You don't have to swallow, but it's the best way to get rid of the stuff. And finally #7 Keep practicing.

TheAnswerer · Answer

I don't think it was a bad blowjob.

If both of you were sober, then I would give it a 7/10.

Since both of you were very intoxicated, I think I'll give it a 10/10. (Couldn't have expected a better performance from her or myself when we're both drunk. Alcohol disrupts and suppresses the nervous system, causing us to not feel as much pleasure from physical stimulation.

sylar · Answer

He was drunk.  That's the first way to not come from getting oral.  It's that much more difficult for a guy to maintain hardness when he's drunk.  I don't think you could have given bad oral if you tried that hard.  Make sure you're both sober next time.